Tuesday, December 22, 2009
Happy Tuesday!
Only three days before Christmas, and it got me thinking...have any of your "boo's" suddenly vanished?
A friend and I were discussing this the other day. She said she noticed that all the guys that usually call, text or email her on a regular basis have fallen off - and seemingly just as December rolled in. None of them have asked how she's been, sent their daily "hey sexy" texts or asked her what she's doing for New Year's Eve. Nothing. Poof! They're gone.
I told her I wasn't surprised. Most men and women who disappear around the holidays either don't want to buy you a gift, or they're spending the holidays with their REAL boyfriend/girlfriend. It happens, and after St. Paddy's day, they come sniffing around again - just in time for the first warm breeze.
But what if you're in a relationship with someone already, and you know it's run its course - do you wait til after the holidays to break up? Or do you do it before so that you can save yourself the trouble (and money) of buying a gift for someone that you know you're on the outs with?
My answer to that is simple - break up before the holidays. I know some may think that's cruel, and it may hurt them now, but put them (and yourself) out of their misery. There's no need to try to fake the funk, buy gifts that you really don't want to give (unless you genuinely are friends regardless of any problems in the relationship) and spend time with someone you really don't want to spend time with. Holidays are usually for family, so they'll have their family to comfort them - and you don't have to bring him or her around YOUR family for Christmas dinner. You can bring in the new year with a clean slate, and they'll get over you just in time to find someone else to spend Valentine's Day with.
And don't keep someone around just so you can RECEIVE a gift. That's just tacky :-)
Most likely, the person you want to break up with knows what the deal is - they know something isn't right as well - so the break up will probably not come as a surprise. Besides, holding off a break up simply for the sake of a holiday will just drag it out - there will never be a good time. You can't say, "Well, breaking up before Christmas is mean...I'll wait til New Year's." And then New Year's will come, and you'll want to wait til afterwards so that they don't associate New Year's with a break up and deem you an asshole. So then Valentine's Day rolls around, and you'll be a jerk for doing it right before or after Valentine's Day. And if you're Irish, maybe breaking up around St. Patrick's Day is in poor taste too :-) Then Easter, then Memorial Day, when will it end??!!!
Just get it over with already. And if you're one of those guys or gals that breaks up with someone just for the holidays hoping to get back together later just so you can avoid buying a gift - then keep it movin'! Don't show up or send me a text in April talking about, "I miss you, I've been thinking about you"... cuz my NEW BOO might be around ;-)
Hey...jus sayin ;-)
-b
27 comments:
FIRST BITCHES!!
FIRST BITCHES!!!
DAMNIT...LOL...Anywho we in a recession..Break up now & save yourself the money...And with that being said I'm off to the mall to go buy Austin his gift.....LOL..CUZ I LOVES MY BOO...
I'm guilty of staying with someone until after Christmas so I could get my gift--but in my defense, I got him something too :). That was lame of me though...I know.
End it quick, buy yourself a gift.
LOL! you all are funny :)
I'm not even gonna lie, I've done the same thing ThatGirl. He had been getting on my nerves, but I was gonna wait til after Christmas to break up. He gave good gifts, so I stayed so I could get a present and I got him something corny like a scarf and gloves set - he bought me jewelry!
I paid for it the next year though because I was into this guy, spent alot of money on him at Christmas, and he got me socks...then dumped me right before New Year's. Karma is a bitch!!!
oh damn Stef... :-) LOL!!
I know right! That was so wrong of me :( I got paid back though, so we're even! LOL!
I always seemed to argue or fight with my ex's around the holidays - why do you think that is? It never failed, we'd argue around the holidays and then get back together afterwards. I wonder if it was so we could subconsciously not buy gifts :)
Unless you plan on being friends with that person after the break up, save your money and break up before teh Holidays!
Let's me real here!! LOL
@Annamaria - Make sure you get my boy something nice!!!
@Geeque... I already gave Austin the best gift I can possibly give him...Miss Sophia...I can't possibly top that soo I might just get him a card & call it a day! lol
This is true Annamaria :)
Miss Sophia's first Christmas!!!
August!
August has been my official break up month as far back as I can remember. There are no associated holidays, it's after the summer so you had all of the fun you could in the sun with them but it's before the major holiday rush.
No one can say that you ruined their Christmas, New Year, MLK Day, Valentines Day, St. Patty's day, Memorial Day, Independence Day or Labor Day. You can walk away scott free, no muss no fuss!
ahh...summer time fling :-)
Fortunately, I've never had to break up, or have been broken up with, an ex around a holiday - but I DID date this one girl who I always seemed to argue with when it was time for us to go on vacation or a long weekend together. We'd fight the whole time, but then once we got back, we were cool again. All that told me was that we couldn't be together for long periods of time.
But I agree, if you know in your heart you want to break up with someone, no matter what time of the year it is, then just do it and move on. No need dragging anything out - it only makes it worse.
Is it me, or is breaking up with someone just so you don't have to buy a gift a sign the cheapest, lamest thing ever?? Are you SUPPOSED to buy a gift for your man/woman? In this economy, I would think your sweetie would know what financial situation you're in and not expect a gift. Isn't love enough??
Love SHOULD be enough, and if your sweetheart can't understand that maybe you can't afford to buy you a gift, then perhaps you should get a new boo :)
I think breaking up with someone just so you don't have to buy a gift is worse than staying together and not buying a gift at all. It shows you value the wrong thing. A person who loves you will understand, and simply appreciate the thought. Christmas isn't about gifts, and unfortunately alot of people forget the reason for the season. You shouldn't stay in a relationship just to RECEIVE a gift either. It's selfish.
I'm of the thought that you should express these things long before Xmas or birthdays come around. Say something like "I can't really afford to buy gifts this year, so how about we don't exchange any and let's spend the day together instead. That'll be our gift to each other." I understand that you may still want to give a gift to someone who can't return the sentiment, but I wouldn't advise it - because it may make them feel worse that they couldn't get you anything. Give each other hour long massages instead!
I tend to give gifts all year round, and I try to show my appreciation to my loved ones on a regular basis. A holiday shouldn't make or break a relationship.
Like Brooke-Ra, I give gifts all year round, randomly. Never had the experience of the holiday break up. But then again - I haven't "celebrated" holidays in many moons, so NO ONE expects gifts from me on most national holidays. People expect gifts from me on their birthdays, and that's it. Anything else is bonus and much appreciated - cuz they don't expect it.
That was a sweet comment you made Brooke; however not all women or men are as thoughtful!!! :-)
What are you trying to say GEEQUE???? Lol
I told Austin not to get me anything...I told him to concentrate on the kiddies... That's who this holiday is for anyways..
Thanks Geeque :)
I agree Annamaria, I've made most holidays about the kids anyway. And my nephews are Muslims, so they don't do Christmas, but I treat their holidays like Christmas. And they know that they're fortunate to get gifts on holidays and that not all kids have what they have. I hope to teach any kids I might have it's better to give than to receive.
I still don't understand how Brooke is single.
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