Wednesday, February 9, 2011
Happy Hump Day!
And being that it’s “hump day” – what else better to discuss other than….humping? :-)
With that, here is the question of the day:
Do you think porn has desensitized men (and women) from having/enjoying sex with their “real life” partners…or “real” people in general?
I ask this question based on an article that was sent to me. In it, there was a term called “Sexual Attention Deficit Disorder” – basically saying that some people (men in particular) can no longer climax with their partners because the sex doesn’t measure up to what they view in porn. It says, “For a lot of guys, switching gears from porn’s fireworks and whiz-bangs to the comparatively mundane calm of ordinary sex is like leaving halfway through an Imax 3-D movie to check out a flipbook.”
Wow.
One guy wrote, “I used to race home to have sex with my wife. Now I leave work early so I can get home before she does and masturbate.”
What? Where dey do dat at?
He goes on to say that he’s still very attracted to his wife, and still has sex with her. But he has this other woman as well, and her name is “porn.”
I wish a muphucka WOULD race home and start without me!
Anyway…
It’s not just men who are said to be affected by over exposure to porn. The article says, “As a result of the blending of reality and fantasy, some women have chosen to willingly play along by a new set of rules in order to keep their men interested: They’re intentionally impersonating porn stars. Sadie, the real-estate agent, says, a lot of guys have come to expect P.S.E. [the “Porn-Star Experience”] as a common thing. A few might enjoy it, but for most it’s harrowing. I think there’s a fear that if they can’t make it happen, their boyfriend will retreat online.
“Women are turning up the dial,” one guys says. “I’m a pleaser. I get off on a woman’s arousal. But I’ve noticed that women are getting a lot more vocal now. Either I’m doing something I’m not aware of, or women are beginning to mimic what happens in porn. Honestly, it’s kind of weird. I’m not sure if I like it.”
So what say you - has porn messed us all up? Do you try to have sex like a porn star? Or are these people just freaks who can’t break from fantasy long enough to engage with us “normal” humans?
Let’s hear it!
Go!
-b
9 comments:
First beeeyotches.
Why? Cuz I said so.
DMOE
Brooke, you can't be taking days off and sh*t! I missed you!
Damn you Dmoe!
I don't watch porn, so I can't relate ;)
BUT, if my man was masturbating instead of having sex with ME, we'd have a SERIOUS problem!
I think most women would hope the man was masturbating to porn than having sex with someone else...
Porn has changed the game. It makes us expect more, but lots of that s#!t we see on screen shouldn't be reenacted at home w/o an EMS on call. I mean the acrobatics not the basic stuff like holding her own your shoulders while you taste the juicebox or her eating a d!ck from the back...
..huh? ...oh nevermind...
I agree with Fury.. I'd prefer that my man runs home for porn than runs to the next chicks house.
I don't think that porn has desensitized anything. Your sex life is what you & your partner make of it. :)
Glad to finally check in and leave my 50 cents...I can't say for anyone else but porn for me is technique teaching mostly. I might see a cool position that I want to try or add to my repertoire (did I spell that correctly?) Anyway to each his own,however I'm into giving my woman the full load and not waste any on the tissue.
Correction: holding her ON your shoulders.
I think y'all understood that, but...eff it..Brooke come here and let me show you what I meant...
I feel like we've done this exact topic before...
I don't know who these cats are running to beat off before their mates get home...if you're that horny, wouldn't you want the real thing?
I dunno...
Fury, I was wondering why someone would hold their own shoulders while doing that :-) LOL!
I'm all for watching for technique's sake, porn has its purpose sometimes :-)
But hurrying home to do that BEFORE she gets home? Not cool.
I don't think anyone would prefer that he'd give it to the next chick, but if he's doing it so much that he can't get off with ME, then that's a problem. Porn addiction is real, and if someone would rather masturbate than be with a LIVE person, then something is off.
We've done a few topics over and over again, nothing wrong with that.
I can't say that porn really does that much for me. I know some dudes who have folders and sites bookmarked, but nothing beats a woman who you have a real life connection with, that you can actually touch. If I'm attracted to my wife, then there's no way I'm busting in a towel before she gets home like John said. She gets it ALL.
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