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TGIF!

Sexy Survey time!

1. Would you (or your partner) consider kissing someone else cheating?

2. You are insanely physically attracted to your boss, the chemistry is mutual. One day you and the boss are working late on a project, and he/she comes on to you in his/her office. What do you do?

3. Name a sexy movie and tell us why you think it's sexy.

4. You and your spouse have been unsuccessfully struggling to have a child for some time and today is one of the year's 12 peak days for conception. If you two were in the middle of a nasty fight, would you still go ahead and have sex anyway?

5. Would you rather have a passionate relationship with someone you have very little in common with, or would you rather feel little passion for that person, but share common interests and beliefs?

Go!

-b

Happy Random Thoughts Thursday!

- If I never see snow ever again, it'll be too soon. For a minute I thought I was back in Syracuse this morning! This snow is for the birds man...or the penguins...or polar bears...or something!

- At least I have a lunch screening today so I don't have to go out to get food :-)

- I'm sure by now you've all heard about Kelley Williams-Bolar, the woman who was sent to jail in Akron, OH for sending her kids to the wrong district. If you’d like to help her and make the broader and important point about educational inequality in America, please take the time to send a short note of concern to the state representatives in the area. The information is below:

For Summit County (the county that Akron is in) the state representatives are:

Lynn Slaby (Republican): district41@ohr.state.oh.us
Kristina Roegner (Republican): district42@ohr.state.oh.us
Todd McKenney (Republican): district43@ohr.state.oh.us
Vernon Sykes: district44@ohr.state.oh.us

http://www.house.state.oh.us/index.php?option=com_displaymembers&task=detail&district=44
Zack Milkovich (Democrat): district45@ohr.state.oh.us

House members website: http://www.house.state.oh.us/index.php?option=com_displaymembers&Itemid=73
The state senator for that area is Frank LaRose (Republican): SD27@senate.state.oh.us
Senate members website: http://click.icptrack.com/icp/relay.php?r=16663573&msgid=349363&act=AEWR&c=242394&destination=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.ohiosenate.gov%2Fdirectory.html

Also, change.org is doing a petition on behalf of Kelly, which I also encourage you to sign. This story is ridiculous.

- I love Dr. Oz!

- Every time I see a commercial for $3 check cashing at Walmart, I wonder who these people are that don't have checking accounts. I don't mean to be ignorant, but what would be a reason to NOT have a checking account? Someone please break it down for me.

- I saw women commuting to work today in heels...in slushy, icy, snowy conditions. There's not that much "fashion sense" in the world.

- Lil Wayne has ANOTHER kid? Geesh!

- They added another show for Janet Jackson at Radio City Music Hall. Why are they messin' with me!?

- Speaking of a Jackson, Rebbie Jackson is on The View. Where has SHE been all this time? "And it's crawling like a Centipede!"

- I bought adult "gummy" multi-vitamins and I love them! I feel like a little kid though in the morning every time I take them :-)

- I'm over Life Cinnamon cereal now...back to my Honey Bunches of Oats and Special K Vanilla Almond cereal!

- I tried the McDonald's oatmeal because everyone was raving about it. It was good, very filling, but it wasn't crack! I think maple brown sugar cream of wheat is better :-)

- I'm praying for motivation to go to the gym tonight. Weather like this just makes you want to go home, cuddle on the couch and eat in front of the tv. But I'm gonna do it!

- I love surprising my sister with gifts. She's an awesome sister, wife and mother - she deserves it :-)

- Brian's throwback of the week!



Go!

-b

Happy Hump Day!

Speaking of humping, do you all think that sex with no strings is doable? Particularly for women? I know...I just jumped right into the question of the day, but I pondered this myself based off the new movie No Strings Attached - take a look:



Now, I haven't seen the movie, but based off of that trailer, Natalie Portman seems to find it easier to have casual sex than Ashton Kutcher's character. While I DO think that men and women both can have satisfying casual sex, I don't think that men and women view, relate to, or respond to sex the same way.

Call me old fashioned, or not as "evolved," but I honestly, truly do NOT believe that women can have sex like men. I just believe that it goes against nature - that's not how we're wired. In scientific terms, "The way chemicals are released in the brain during intercourse is very different in men and women. In women, oxytocin is released. It's a chemical that makes women want to nurture their young and stay close. Men get a huge jolt of testosterone, which suppresses oxytocin, and that's nature's way of saying, "Leave the nest and go sire offspring somewhere else." So when women think they can have sex and walk away just like guys do, they're having to suppress thousands of years of evolution that tells them to cuddle, stay in bed, and look forward to tomorrow. When they get up and walk out, they feel depressed and don't know why." - cited in Marie Claire Magazine.

I agree with that wholeheartedly. That's not to say that I don't know any women who haven't had purely casual, non-emotional sex before. I know it can be done - I just don't think it can be done on a regular basis before someone (usually the woman) starts catching feelings. I almost feel that if a woman is to TRULY have casual, no-strings-attached sex with a man on a consistent basis, she almost has to not like him or respect him. That way, she will probably never really fall for him...maybe. But it's kinda hard to have sex for some women with men they don't actually like.

I know that sounds extreme, but I have yet to meet a women who has proven me wrong. I have friends who swear that they're "just kickin' it" with some dude - that they're just having fun and having sex and they KNOW nothing more will ever develop between them and their man toy.....only to profess their love for said man after 2 months, or come crying to me later when they realize he's in a "real" relationship with another woman that they actually love. Trust me, I've seen it happen over and over again...and it's not pretty.

But let's just say for the sake of argument that a woman CAN have no-strings-attached sex with a man - that doesn't necessarily mean that she SHOULD. I'm no prude, but I often wonder why a woman (or man) would choose this over trying to have a real connection with someone. I know some folks have commitment issues, or lead very busy lives where a committed relationship wouldn't be feasible, but what is wrong with having great sex AND great love? Can't you have both?

Trust me, I've been in phases where sex was all I could muster, but even in those phases, I felt kind of lonely. I'd much rather cuddle with my cat than try to cuddle with a man only to fulfill some fleeting need. While I believe that women should be as sexually free as men, I don't think that necessarily means random hookups, having a f*ck buddy or friends with benefits. I know that sounds "preachy" and disapproving, but I find that many women who think they're capable of this are lying to themselves. If you can be honest about what you're doing, and do it in a smart, cognizant and responsible way, then go forth young lady...and carry condoms. But if you're doing it fill an emotional void, then you're doomed. All this "think like a man, act like a man while still being a woman" is confusing enough as it is - don't sell yourself short for a quick fix or a cheap thrill. Great sex AND great love can be had - if you want it.

What say you?

Go!

-b

TGIF like a MUGGG!!

This week seemed to last forever!

And I'm tired of snow.

But anyway...

Do any of you watch the ABC News show "What Would You Do?" It airs on Friday nights, and here is a glimpse of tonight's episode:



Which leads me to the question of the day: What would YOU do if your son wanted to play with Barbie/baby dolls?

We don't seem to think much of it if a little girl wanted to play with a Tonka truck or Hot Wheels cars, but if your son/nephew/grandson asked you to buy him a Barbie Doll, the social stigma would be much greater. Even my nephews seem to inherently know that "pink stuff is for girls" and "blue stuff is for boys."

To take it step further, what if your son wanted to dress up as a Princess? Do you allow him to express himself freely, or do you force him to wear pants and tell him that dresses are for girls?

What would YOU do?

-b

Happy Random Thoughts Thursday!

- So I'm watching The View and they have 2 women on who have "Superior Autobiographical Memory" - meaning they can remember every day of their life. I think that would drive me insane.

- Keep saying prayers for my cat Cole, please!

- I have spaghetti for lunch but I don't want it.

- Did I hear correctly? The Eagles are looking at Plaxico Burress?

- I hope the Jets pull it out this weekend! I like Rex Ryan...freaky foot fetish and all :-)

- Is anyone having a Super Bowl party?

- Just had a craving for McDonalds....where did THAT come from?

- I need to drink more water. My lips are dry. Not cute.

- I feel like shopping.

- Michelle Obama is SO FLY!

- Ninety girls are pregnant or have had babies in the school year at Memphis High School. One of the teen mothers said on the Today Show that some girls "think it's cute." da hell?!

- Did you all see the video of the woman falling into a mall fountain because she was walking and texting?



She has the nerve to want to sue the mall because she's humiliated and said that security should have done more to help her. Like what? Escort her through the mall so she doesn't fall or walk into something she shouldn't? Girl...stop it. Watch where you're going and put the phone away.

- I actually watched American Idol last nigt...and even teared up a couple of times during a few of their sob stories. SuSu made me watch, but doubt I'll watch the entire season. Did you like the new judges?

- I miss my family back in Philly :(

- Time to do my annual performance review at work. I just want to write "see last year" and get it over with. Just give me a fat raise.

- Brian's throwback!



Go!

-b

I didn’t really kiss a girl, but I knew that would pique your interest :-)

My blog topic today was inspired in part by my addiction to Witches Brew, and listening to the radio this AM. The morning talent on Power 105 was discussing the girl kiss shared by Amber Rose and Rosa Acosta. In case you missed it, here it is. Fellas, you can thank me later :-)



Now, according to Amber, she’s in love with Whiz Khalifa (whoever that is…I must NOT be in the know)…so what’s up with this kiss?

Maybe that was just a “this is my homegirl and we’re both pretty” kiss. That can happen right? Although I’ve never kissed any of MY girlfriends that way, I suppose one could view this as an innocent smooch.

But men seem to think it’s hot :-)

Amber Rose is admittedly bisexual, so she’s free to kiss anyone - regardless of gender. But word on the street is “girls kissing girls” is a new hetero trend – mainly done to attract men.

A new trend? Girls kissing girls? Nooo waaaay! Really???

It seems this has been happening since MY college days, so it’s not really THAT new. I guess we just haven’t seen it as much as we see it now. I mean, back in MY day (I feel old saying that), most women simply "danced suggestively” together in order to get a guy’s attention. You were performing for the pleasure of an audience – but boys still ruled and they loved you for it.

Now it seems that dirty dancing has been replaced by the sexy smack - some girl on girl action.

It could be that this is a safe way for some “real” lesbians to slowly explore their sexuality in public. Some say it’s copycat behavior by heterosexual women who were in a drunken state when they kissed a girl, or who want to “see what it’s like.”

Then some say it’s because women are attention whores period. They kiss girls because of a dare, or for free beer. This is happening a lot more with high school and college aged women who simply want to be the star of the show – and kissing another woman is a sure way to get a look…or three.

While most surveys say that women who kiss other women claim to be heterosexual, they admit that female bisexuality is an “exotic new trend.” They do it to let men know that they’re “sexually open and adventurous.” One male deejay this morning said that seeing a woman kiss another woman is a turn on to him, because it says to him that she is open-minded and sexually free. The other male deejay disagreed, saying that women who do this only want attention, and that he wouldn’t be cool if he came home and caught his woman making out with another woman. In his mind, if you’re with him, you’re with HIM – no women allowed in the bedroom. The other guy called him gay...in jest...I think :-)

So…if you’re Whiz Khalifa – are you turned on, or are you like “what da hell?”

Something tells me that he wouldn’t mind seeing his girl kiss Rosa Acosta, either because he thinks it’s sexy – or he knows it was a stunt. But how would you feel? Would any of you date someone who was bisexual so that you could spice up your love life with a possible threesome?

Personally, I have no desire to kiss any of my hot female friends. I guess you can say I’m not that “heteroflexible.” But according to most studies, the majority of women who kiss other women don’t do it because they want to, they do it to appeal to men – which is genius and sad at the same time. If you’ve developed your sexuality alongside internet porn, then girl on girl action may seem like the norm to you, and your sexual cues come from what you see on screen. Couple that with same-sex kissing being glamorized by celebrities like Madonna and Britney Spears and you have full-on rampant, cultural and sexual confusion.

But is it confusion if you know exactly what you’re doing? I find that most men are horny bastards all on their own – they don’t need to see a woman kissing another woman in order to get hard as Chinese arithmetic. But if a woman wants to stand out in a crowd of hot chicks, and kissing other women increases her chances – does it show how confident a woman is in exploring another area of sexuality, or does it show a deep-seeded insecurity with her sad need for attention or belief that she can’t get a man’s attention on her own merit?

What say you?

Go!

-b

TGIF!

I’m pretty sure the first thing I ever learned how to cook was an egg. Maybe boiled, maybe scrambled…but I’m pretty sure it was an egg. My mother told me it was time I learned to prepare my own breakfast, and she taught me.

What does this have to do with the price of tea in China you ask? Nothing…just thought that was a good way to start today’s topic :-)

Being that there were nothing but women in my household growing up, cooking was pretty much a given. My mother cooked dinner every night…and it was almost always baked chicken, some sort of vegetable and some sort of starch – rice or noodles. Every once in a while she might shock us with a steak or a pork chop…the occasional spaghetti dish – but for the most part, she made chicken…and my sister and I watched and learned.

I could always cook, but never really “throw down!” My sister was a better cook than I was, but she didn’t become a GREAT cook until she met her husband. He’s the BOMB when it comes to cooking, and he taught her how to slice and dice and flavor food to perfection. He’s Moroccan, and has a slightly different palate than we have, so he taught her how to make his favorite foods, and now she’s awesome. Anything she makes is great, and her family is well fed.

I’m picking up some of her secrets, and my cooking is on a different level now. Although I may not cook every day, I CAN cook when I need to. Thanksgiving, Christmas, a date – I can “put my foot in it” if my little heart desires. I don’t think I have a specialty yet (perhaps my cheesecake…but that’s baking…not cooking), but I’m working on it!

Which brings me to the point…finally. I was having a conversation with Brian (of RTT Throwback fame) last night and he mentioned that women nowadays don’t know how to cook. Like…at all...can’t even boil water. He said I was a dying breed and even went so far as to say that he probably wouldn’t date a woman who can’t cook...something.

ME: “So you wouldn’t date me if I couldn’t cook?”

Brian: “We’d have to talk, work it out…you might need to take lessons or something.”

As sexy as I am, I knew he wouldn’t say no ;-)

Ahem…anyway…

Most men I know have held similar views when it comes to women and their ability, or inability, to burn in the kitchen. If she can’t fry up a steak, she can’t be wifey - PERIOD. Of course they’d make an exception for Beyonce (who has said she can’t cook…but Jigga doesn’t seem to mind) or Halle Berry…but the rest of us “common chicks” better step our cook game up if we want to bear his last name. Only a “real woman” can cook, right?

I often wonder how men would feel if women asked a man on a first date if he could change his oil...or a tire…or swing a hammer. If the answer is no, do we mysteriously stop calling because he can’t do a “manly” thing – like build a house from scratch? I’m just asking…sounds crazy right?

I love a handy man, but it’s not a deal breaker if he can’t change a light bulb. After all, I know how to change one, so we won’t be sitting in the dark or lighting candles. And my guess is a man won’t starve if he marries a woman who can’t cook. You were eating before you met me right? That won’t change if you meet a woman who can only make eggs.

And fellas, a man who can bang some pots and pans around is sexy as hell to a woman. I don’t understand why a man seems “evolved” if he can cook, while we are simply expected to be able to…like it’s in our DNA and whatnot…but I digress. We like to be fed too, so if you can burn, maybe we’ll “feed you” in other ways. Jus' sayin'!

Don’t get me wrong, I’m playing devil’s advocate here because I actually like to cook for my man when I’m in a relationship. I don’t cook every day because it’s just me in the crib, so there’s no need to dirty up my kitchen if there’s no man sitting at the dining room table. Most women I know have a “get him meal” that they can prepare expertly for when he comes over - but other than that, we’re ordering Chinese.

Sometimes we just don’t have time, we’re tired (hell…I work 10 hour days just like you do man), or we don’t feel it’s important to cook until we have a family to take care of. Some women were never taught to cook by their mothers…no family recipes handed down...so they don't know where to begin. Some women don’t trust their cooking abilities enough to feed their man for fear of killing him, and some women want their man to cook for her.

So now…my question: How important is it to you that your potential/future mate know how to cook? Do you think a woman’s refusal to enter the kitchen would hurt her chances at finding love and/or marriage? Would you be fine if your mate could ONLY boil water for Oodles o’ Noodles, or do you prefer that your mate be an EXCELLENT cook? Is it a woman thing? Or should both sexes know how to cook equally well?

Bonus: Name 5 things EVERY person should know how to cook?

Go!

-b

Happy Random Thoughts Thursday!

- I'm over winter.

- I loved President Obama's speech yesterday at the memorial service in Tuscon, AZ. Regardless of his politics and whether or not you believe he's doing a good job or not - the man has a heart and integrity. His words were uplifting, he gives me hope.

- Today is the funeral for the youngest victim in the Arizona shootings - 9 year old Christina Green - the little girl born on September 11th, 2001. President Obama said, "I want us to live up to her expectations, I want our democracy to be as good as Christina imagined it. I want America to be as good as she imagined it. All of us - we should do everything we can to make sure this country lives up to our children's expectations." In heaven, he said, if there are rain puddles, Christina is jumping in them today. "And here on this Earth, we place our hands over our hearts, and commit ourselves as Americans to forging a country that is forever worthy of her gentle, happy spirit." Keep her family and friends in your prayers.

- Also, continue to keep Haiti in your prayers. A year later, they still need our help. Every little bit helps.

- This morning, a woman was standing in front of my company's building wearing a big sign that said "I regret my abortion." That was sad, but curious why she decided to stand there with the sign? I said a small prayer for her as I walked inside.

- My new favorite cereal is Life Cinnamon :-)

- I have boring chicken breasts and broccoli for lunch :-(

- Prince added another show at the Garden - he's tempting me!

- Janet Jackson is coming in March - what to do!? Can Janet still bring it??

- Busy work day for me. Glad we have a long weekend coming up!

- I'd rather have pizza for lunch today.

- "The Game" premiered to 7.7 million viewers on Tuesday night on BET. Not sure how many of you watch the show but I'm glad it made its way back on air! The premiere was okay, hope it gets better! There's NO WAY the Tasha Mack I know would be afraid of Kellie Pitts :-) The "new" Brittany" is wack, and Melanie was dead wrong! If you don't watch the show, you have no idea what I'm talking about :-)

- The gym is too crowded. I can't wait for folks to start falling off on their resolutions so I can get an elliptical machine ;-) I know, that wasn't nice...but you know what I mean :-)

- This week's throwback! Brian says, "is this beat and bass line sick or what?!" LOL!



Go!

-b

Happy Tuesday!


Today's blog is more of a question of the day. Now, I usually don't care about the goings on of teeny-bopper heartthrobs, if you wanna call them that - particularly not any members of B2K. While some may have an inappropriate interest in the young'ns (shout out to Ms. Princess!), Omarion, Marques Houston and anyone named "Raz B" do nothing for me...which makes this "gay/bisexual ranting/beef" on Twitter almost comical to me. In case you missed it, here is the story. The gist is this - false rumors via Twitter reported that singer Omarion was bisexual. He has denied those rumors and claims to only love women...period.

I couldn't care less.

However, it did bring up a topic I've discussed with my friends many times before, so I thought I'd get your take on it as well. So, the question is:

Can men (and women) be bisexual? If not, why? Can women be bisexual, but not men? Or are you either gay or straight - period?

Go!

-b

Good morning.

I just finished watching the moment of silence on television for the victims of the Tuscon shooting. The news shot through me just like one of the bullets that killed a 9 year old girl on Saturday. The tragedy is unthinkable. It makes you wonder what we're doing to ourselves.

Words have power. What you put out there can get into the hands of a crazy person who can purchase a gun with no problem. All of this hatred has got to stop. Feel free to disagree, feel free to debate...but violence and killing should never be a part of the conversation.

All of this is enough to have you afraid to leave the house or to stand in a crowd at a rally. This fear can keep us off-beat, paralyzed, wary of surrendering to the rhythm of life. Fear is the root of greed, aggression, racism, sexism, bigotry, and bad blood - between neighbors and nations, between Democrats and Republicans, our friends and family and the world. Fear can define a human being, enough to make him pick up a gun and shoot into crowd in an attempt to assassinate anyone who challenges those fears.

Fear can impede our forward progress and keep us out of the flow we call grace. I pray that God grants us grace and shows us when enough is enough. We haven't yet figured out how life works, why life is granted and why life is taken away, but I pray God can show us how to establish peace within and among ourselves. Where God is one, there is no other...there's a better way of living. I pray for the victims and I pray that He shows us the way.

-b

TGIF!

Stay warm and be careful out in the snow today if you're in the NYC!

Let's go!

1. If you suspected your significant other of cheating, would you: 1) confront them and ask, 2) simply leave them or 3) try to catch them in the act?

2. Have any of you ever tried "Swinging?" If so, do you get more pleasure from having sex with someone else's partner, or watching your partner get sexed by someone else?

3. You've been in jail for over a year and are set to remain for one more. Would you ever let someone of the same sex go down on you if you didn't have to touch them or return the favor?

4. Have you ever had sex in/on a: car, airplane, train, boat, movie theater, book store, park, or public bathroom? All of the above?

5. What do you consider an appropriate age to start having sex?

6. While talking dirty, are you generally "polite" or do you call your partner dirty names (ie: bitch, slut, etc.)? Would you be offended if your partner called you a dirty name or turned on by it?

7. Anatomy quiz: the female g-spot is located where? Have any of you found it?

8. The best definition of Knismolagnia is: 1) sexual arousal from being tickled 2) sexual pleasure from exercise 3) sexual pleasure from incense.

9. What is the sexiest thing someone would find in your underwear drawer?

10. What is your kissing style like: 1) a light approach and a strong finish 2) Lip biting and sexy tongue action 3) you respond to and match his/her kissing style.

Go!

-b

Happy Random Thoughts Thursday!

- My body is more sore from doing yoga than spinning. How is that possible? That "Downward Dog" is a killer! I blame Monica :-)

- I realized yesterday that pretty much the only time I look at my watch is when I'm in spin class....and that's only because I don't bring my phone in there. While at work, I look at the time on my computer or phone display, and any other time I either look at my cell phone or the cable box. My watch is just a piece of fancy jewelry now :-)

- I can't remember the last time I actually rented a dvd.

- Do they still make encyclopedias?

- I think I have maybe 5 phone numbers memorized. When I was a teenager, I had at least 50 memorized. That's sad.

- My mom still refers to cd's as "tapes." My older nephew asked her what a tape was....I felt so old. I'm surprised he even knows what a cd is...but he knows how to work an iPod!

- He also knows how to load my phone with games. Luckily he can only find the free downloads....for now. I have three different versions of "Angry Birds" on my phone...just eating up space.

- He also has a fake cell phone and actually told me to "hold on" because he was getting a text. The imagination of a 6 year old. His cell phone even takes fake pictures.

- When my dad came up for Xmas, he saw a stack of Yellow Pages in the lobby of my apartment building and asked me if I needed one. I can't even remember the last time I looked up a number in the yellow pages. It's called "Google."

- I get so much junk mail! I think I only pay one bill by actually writing a check - and that's my rent. I sometimes don't check my mailbox for days because I know it's filled with nothing but Penny Savers, catalogs from random mail-only stores, a newsletter from BJ's and Trader Joe's and credit card companies trying to get me to open a Discover card. Do people even still use the Discover card?

- But my damn Essence Magazine is always late!

- I'm addicted to the show 16 & Pregnant.

- RIP Teena Maria. Lady T could blow!

- The American Red Cross is stalking me to donate blood. They call me like 5 times a day. I'm gonna do it, but geez!!!

- Everyone should gargle Listerine before getting on the train....for real.

- Did y'all see this? This kid's uncle beat him I guess because he was pretending to be a thug/gang member on Facebook...take a look.



How old is too old to get an ass whoopin'? How long do you think it'll be before someone calls CPS on the uncle for whipping his nephew on camera? Do you think the boy deserved a public spanking? Curious your take on this...and the uncle with his pants down offends me. Pull your damn pants up man!

- This week's throwback! THE JOINT!!!



Go!

-b

I know that title got your attention....let's go!

Dear Brookey,

I know today isn’t TMI Tuesday, so you can feel free to save this post for the next one if you want, but after the “going downtown” blog from yesterday, I figured I’d write you about another touchy sex topic: swallowing. I can’t do it. I have no problem performing oral sex, but I refuse to swallow his cum. Once it’s in my mouth, I spit it out, and my boyfriend is offended by it. I think it’s disgusting, the taste repulses me and I think it’s unsanitary. I feel that he should appreciate that I’m giving him a blowjob in the first place, and asking me to swallow is rude. What do you think?

- Not Doing It

Umm….hmm…lemme think.

The quick answer is this: if you are uncomfortable with it, then don’t do it. No one should feel obligated to swallow jiz if they don’t want to. If it repulses you, then the last thing he needs is for you to vomit his own cum back up on him. Just gross.

However…

Maybe there’s something he can do to make it taste better? I’ve heard that if a man drinks cranberry or pineapple juice, the taste can be less…nasty? I don’t know what his spunk tastes like, or if you think it all tastes the same no matter what, but maybe he can change his diet to make it less ikky. After all, you cum what you eat :-) If he drinks, smokes, eats a lot of junk food, etc., then his stuff probably makes you wanna throw up in your mouth a little bit. Strongly spiced dishes, like curry, can also carry their flavors over into his cum. Of course, you don't want to restrict what he eats too much - everyone needs to have a balanced diet and eat what they like - but it's something to keep in mind: Men - if you're planning on getting head after dinner, you might want to skip the asparagus appetizer. Jus’sayin’.

The main complaints about the taste of semen are that it is bitter and salty. The taste buds on different areas of the tongue are sensitive to specific tastes: sweet on the tip of the tongue, salty and sour on the sides, and bitter at the back. When swallowing semen, you can minimize the unpleasant tastes by trying to keep it away from the corresponding parts of your tongue. Since the "bitter" taste buds at the back of the throat are the most problematic, the solution is either to overshoot them (by deep throating), or to pool the semen in the front of the mouth and then swallow quickly in one gulp. Make sure the cum spends as little time as possible lingering near the back of your palate.

Another tip to make the taste more pleasant is to pop an Altoid or Tic Tac right before going down there. He may enjoy the tingle and when he busts, his semen will get lost in the flavor of the Altoid and you won’t taste a thing. Don’t use anything that has any alcohol in it, like mouthwash or breath spray, cuz that could sting….so I’ve heard :-)

Or you could use food to get rid of the taste. Have fun with it - use fruit, popsicles, chocolate or whipped cream on him, and it can mask the taste. Have a can of whipped cream next to the bed, and after he comes, stick the nozzle in your mouth and chase his cum with an extra shot of “cream.” He might think it’s sexy….who knows.

Now, if you think it’s unsanitary, that translates to me that you think there’s something in his semen that’ll make you sick. This may be true if he’s walking around with an STD, but if he’s your boyfriend, you both are exclusive and have been tested for every STD under the sun, then there’s nothing unhealthy about it. Sperm only accounts for a small about of semen, the rest (about 90 percent) is seminal fluid, which is composed of dozens of chemical components. The base of seminal fluid is primarily fructose (sugar) and proteins, with many other trace minerals and substances. Seminal fluid is a veritable nutrient-rich soup. Semen is a source of highly concentrated, high-quality protein. In dietary terms, it's comparable to egg whites or gelatin. At the end of the day, healthy semen (that is, cum produced by a well-nourished, disease-free man) may in fact be not only safe to eat, but actually good for you.

As far as him being offended, think of it like this – what if after going down on you, he immediately got up, went to the bathroom and gargled Listerine to get the taste of you out of his mouth? You might feel some kinda way right? That’s probably how he feels. I don’t know how long you two have been dating, but most men in a relationship probably view you swallowing his stuff as a form of acceptance, and spitting it out as some sort of rejection. I’m not saying you have to do it to show him how much you love him, I’m just imagining how he feels after you spit his spunk out into the nearest towel. You think it’s rude of him to ask, but he might consider it impolite to spit it out. I'm just looking at it from both sides. I just hope you’re not actually spitting it ON him. Cum soaked towels are messy to get rid of too…swallowing just seems…neater :-)

At the end of the day, you should do what feels most comfortable to you, and him harassing you about it probably doesn’t help. Just discuss it with him, when you’re NOT in bed, and make him aware your concerns. If after reading this you still think it’s gross and unsanitary, then don’t do it…do what is best for you. Good luck!

-b

Happy New Year y’all! I hope you all had a great holiday and got to rest and relax and enjoy time with family and friends!

How appropriate is it that my first blog of 2011 falls on TMI Tuesday! I thought of asking Fury for a last minute post…or even reaching out to Domina*tricks, but a conversation with a friend prompted today’s TMI blog. If you don’t want to discuss fellatio or “going down town” as it’s commonly referred, then check back tomorrow :-)

Now, I’m not trying to be all nasty and nosey and whatnot…but how many of you engage in oral sex? If you do, do you enjoy it? If not, do you expect it done to you? Or can you take it or leave it?

The conversation I had was with a man who said he could take it or leave it. He doesn’t really do it, and if so, not often. He said he saves it for “special occasions.” However, he has no problem receiving it…loves it even. But when it comes to giving it, he says it’s something in his “bag of tricks” that he pulls out on Valentine’s Day, etc.

So my question to you all is this: is oral sex a deal breaker for you? Meaning if someone doesn’t give it or reciprocate, do you bounce? Or do you stay because the person’s other qualities more important and you can be satisfied sexually with just intercourse? Can you be totally sexually satisfied if oral sex is off the table…or sofa…or bed? ;-)

Everyone is different, so there are no right or wrong answers. Just curious….and after all…it IS TMI Tuesday! Let’s go!

-b