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TGIF!

Sexy Survey!

1. Who do you find to be more sexy - single people or married people?

2. Is it okay for teenagers to have sex?

3. Would you ever tattoo someone's name on your body?

4. Do you have a sexual "pattern"?

5. Sex or money?

6. Was your best sex with someone you knew really well, or a one night stand/casual partner?

7. Are you loud? or soft spoken in bed?

8. One thing I wish my partner knew about me/would do regarding sex is __________ ?

9. Sex outside of marriage is ________________ ?

10. Sex inside of marriage is ________________ ?

Go!

-b

Happy Random Thoughts Thursday!

- President Barack Obama was on The View today. I still love that man.

A question posed on the radio this was morning was "Do Black people still support Barack Obama?" While I don't assume ALL Black people supported him to begin with, it was an interesting question. They asked listeners to chime in - 5 of them - and the majority of them said they do NOT support him anymore. What say you? Are you still rockin' with our President, or not so much anymore? Were you ever a supporter of his? Let's hear it!

- I'll save my answer to that for the comments section if you all care to know, but I will say that I never get tired of hearing him speak. Say whatever you want to say about him, but the man is brilliant.

- I know money can't bring Sean Bell back, but I'm happy that some form of justice was handed down for his murder. No amount of money is enough. I hope his family is comforted.

- RIP to Lorenzen Wright. Sad news.

- Would any of you accept a marriage proposal via Facebook?

- Who's watching Jersey Shore Season 2? I know Rameer is :-)

- Did I mention how sexy Pres. Barack Obama is? :-)

- I've been watching Teen Mom lately. It's the best form of birth control that I know of right now.

- I can't believe Sunday is August 1st. This summer is flying by, but I'm enjoying it!

- Deebo tried to kill us last night - but I'll take it. Only 3 more sessions left. I counted one, but he's saying 3, so I won't argue with him :-)

- The RTT Throwback! Remember this one!?



Go!

-b

Happy Tuesday!

Domina*tricks told me that she'd read my blog more often if I wrote like Fury. While Fury has erotica on lock, I figured I'd try my hand at a sexy blog for a day. Since TMI Tuesday is next week and my blog will belong to Fury (if he accepts), I'll use this Tuesday to test my sexy ;-)

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Turned Out

Have you ever been turned out? I think it happened to me last night. I was laying on my L shaped, cozy couch minding my own business. My phone rings unexpectedly, as I had already had all of my usual conversations with friends, family…and everyone else and said my goodbyes.

“I wanna come check you,” he said from the other side of my phone.

I looked at the clock and thought about it. I’m no where near sleepy, but it’s getting into booty call territory. Hmmmm…..

“Now?”

“RIGHT now.”

I figured since Flo was making an exit, that would keep me safe from doing anything I had no business.

“Sure…why not…”

10:45pm

I crack the door open just enough for him to slide through. I didn’t think my grey night shirt was inviting - I was trying to make myself less appealing just in case he had any funny ideas. It didn’t work though as he pushed me up against the wall to kiss me hello.

Uh oh…I’m in trouble now.

I invite him to sit and ask him if he’s allergic to my cat.

“I ain’t never scared of no p*ssy.”

Yeah...I’m in BIG trouble.

I smile at that comment, and try to ignore it at the same time. It doesn’t work. “I ain’t never scared” keeps playing over and over in my head like a musical refrain.

We sit, we chat and I think I’m doing alright. I’m keeping my head while we discuss the news, and how Sue Simmons was the shit back in the day. “She was fine! Too bad she’s a lesbian. Broke my heart.” He goes on and on about her….and I sit…transfixed.

I watch his lips move. Every word seems to stroke my libido and makes my blood run hot. Then my cat jumps up on the sofa next to me – that movement makes me jump…wipes my wetness.

“Oh no…not tonight. Tonight she’s MY cuddle partner.”

He picks up the cat and plants his paws gently on the floor. I look at my cat like “sorry” as my late night visitor turns off the tv, turns out the light and takes my hand.

“Come lay with me.”

This can’t be good.

He lays me down and rubs my brown legs. “mmmm…just as I remember, beautiful skin Brooklyn,” he says as he subtly appeals to my ego. He sucked my lips and then kissed them, savored them. Then he started talking to me.

“Tell me how you like it.” That question alone made Miss Kitty purr.

Before I could answer he was between my legs. I was about to be sent over the edge when he flipped me over. “I asked you a question. How you want it mama?” Is he he talking shit now?

I’m grown, so I try to be all woman in my response. However, “Surprise me” was the best I could answer. Miss Kitty was about to be bought and I knew it…and there was nothing I could do to stop it. I had to just hold on for dear life and hope that I didn’t go flying over the side of the bed.

“No, I want you to TELL me how you want it.” Damn, he’s a persistent muphucka ain’t he? He flipped me back over to face him, he stared at me waiting for a response.

“I don’t care,” I whispered in his ear.

He slapped my ass and said one more time “NO….TELL me…”

Did he just slap me? I think my pride was gone at that point.

“Kiss me. Touch me here. Slow…take me…slow.”

I wrapped brown sugar legs around his waist and locked him in, wouldn’t let him go no where. I flowed all over him, splashes washing our bellies, moans muffled by tongue wrestling kisses that make your mouth tired and your lips tingle.

As my legs collapsed, I was flipped over yet again…and served up lovely. Up until then, I thought I was in control, realizing that not many people get to see me like this. Every gasp, every moan, every shiver – he was slowly bringing it all out of me. I could barely move, but it felt too good to stop. He was trying to break me down and he wasn’t being very polite about it. I wasn’t going down without a fight though. My ego was getting stronger and I wasn’t going to let him make it better for me than it was for him.

But what to do? I was ready to take the gloves off and fight dirty, so I had to reach into my bag of tricks. I had nothin'. I used every sex muscle I had, and the only thing I could do was put a fresh squeeze on him…and just like that....

“No! I didn’t wanna bust yet!”

Got him.

Even if it did take 4 hours to get him.

After several rounds I couldn’t even call it draw. I lost. TKO – knocked the phuck out. He’ll be back though, and I can try again…I have to take some damn vitamins or eat some Wheaties or something. That was just too good to do just one time. I fell asleep smiling, could it be that I’m smitten. I didn’t know what I was missing until that man caressed my kitten :-)

"I ain't never scared..." I heard in my ear again. And he ain't neva lied.

Yes, I can admit it. For the first time in my life, I've officially been turned out.

-b

Happy Hump Day!

Happy Birthday Rameer!

Speaking of hump days...how many days have all of you ever gone without "humping?" I ask because of a Dear Brookey letter I received today...and here it is:

Dear Brookey,

I wanted to get your take on something to see if I'm normal. I can go weeks, months or even a year without having sex. I have sex moreso out of obligation than out of desire. I have a boyfriend who I've been with for over a year. While he never complains about our sometimes weeks long droughts, he's confused as to why I love to cuddle, snuggle and kiss and hold hands, but don't feel the need to have sex all the time. I know he loves me because he never pressures me and always makes me feel loved and desired, but I'm wondering if there's anything wrong with me. What do you think?

-Sexless

***Disclaimer: I'm not a sex expert and I have never had this problem...EVER***

Now...this is very interesting to me - not because you may not have a high sex drive, but because you're affectionate, yet not sexual. I love to hug, kiss, caress, nibble, stroke, cuddle and snuggle too - and if it leads to sex...EVEN BETTER. So I think that's why your boyfriend is confused, because most men I know associate a woman's touch with sex. If you so much as breathe too hard on them or brush against their arm, they interpret that as some sort of sexual overture. I think most men assume that if a woman wants to hug and kiss, she better be ready for more - cuz that's where they're headed.

It's great that he doesn't pressure you and always makes you feel loved. If your relationship is healthy, then I wouldn't worry about it or assume that something is wrong with you. Some people just aren't hyper sexual people and don't have a high libido - and if nothing is physically wrong with you, then I wouldn't stress it.

Now, there may be an emotional reason why sex isn't something you desire - right now. Some men and women can be very loving and affectionate, but fear the emotional intimacy that comes with sex. You two probably connect in other ways, but sex may bring you closer than you're subconsciously willing to go right now...so you keep that part of intimacy at bay as long as possible. Again, I'm no expert, but this might be a reason why you can go long periods of time without allowing someone to get THAT close to you.

I don't think you should be having sex out of obligation either. I feel you should genuinely WANT to have sex when you do it - not because you've counted the days and it's the third Wednesday of the month, so you might as well get it over with. Maybe you can explore different places or positions to make it more interesting. Even good sex can become routine, and if you've been together for over a year, then maybe you should try to find ways to spice it up a bit. Try role playing, taking showers together, watching some sexy movies together - SOMETHING.

I always worry that my sex muscles will atrophy from "non-use," so I've never purposely abstained from sex. Trust me, if I'm in a drought, it's not MY doing :-) I know that going weeks without sex can happen with couples who have kids and who get busy with work, but I dread that...along with wearing "mom jeans." I think it's every couples' responsibility to keep their sexual lives in tact...and thriving. You are no exception.

But this letter makes me wonder - have any of you ever PURPOSELY given up sex, and if so...WHY??? Was it for a spiritual reason? To "find" yourself? To be able to tell the jerks from the gems? I'm curious.

I've never gone on a self-imposed sexual hiatus. I've had a few droughts, but that is because there was no one in my bed and my toy was broken. And it's also because I don't long for sex strongly enough to the point where I'd have sex with just ANYone. I'm at a point in my life where casual sex is just something I'm not interested in...so I'll just go without. While we all know great sex can be born from a good relationship, we also all know that a good relationship isn't necessarily born from great sex.

I say all that to say, if you have a great relationship...the sex can always get better. There is nothing wrong with you (that I can tell...but then again...I'm not a professional), so just be grateful that you have a wonderful boyfriend who loves you just the way you are...dry panties and all :-)

-b

Good afternoon everyone!

So, as usual, I didn't have any idea as to what I would write about today until I got an email from my "play future baby daddy." He sent me a link to an MSNBC article where NY Mayor Michael Bloomberg weighed in on Sarah Palin's racist mosque tweets. I didn't get a chance to watch much news the past couple days, so I was unaware that she tweeted this recently about the proposed building of a mosque at Ground Zero:

On Sunday Palin tweeted: "Peaceful New Yorkers, pls refute the Ground Zero mosque plan if you believe catastrophic pain caused @ Twin Towers site is too raw, too real." "Peace-seeking Muslims, pls understand, Ground Zero mosque is UNNECESSARY provocation; it stabs hearts. Pls reject it in interest of healing," she added an hour later.

One of Bloomberg's aides, Andrea Batista Schlesinger, responded "@SarahPalinUSA whose hearts? Racist hearts?"

I have to say...I wonder the same thing. In the interest of healing? Unnecessary provocation? Why would building a place of worship stab at hearts? Because the people worshipping there would be Muslims?

What many people fail to remember is that Muslims died on 9/11 too. Not just Christians, or Jews, or atheists...but Muslims as well. They and their families suffered great loss too. Would it stab at Muslims' hearts if we built a synagogue at Ground Zero? A church? Is that more acceptable?

There are many paths to God, and each of us walk our own path. My sister and I grew up as Christians, and we sang in the church choir, attended Sunday school and learned the stories of the Bible. My sister is now a practicing Muslim. Often, the religion we practice isn't one that we've chosen on our own, but more so one that was passed down to us from our parents and grandparents...the religion we were born and baptized into.

But my sister's spiritual awakening came through Islam. She takes comfort in its teachings - and if your salvation is at stake, then one must decide what works best for him or her and embark on that spiritual journey in search of self. We stand at the mythical, pearly gates alone, and our salvation is way too important to leave it up to someone else to decide for us.

Personally, I believe God is One, and everything made from the Creator returns to its source. I don't believe those who perished in the 9/11 attacks went to a gold street-lined Heaven or were condemned to eternal damnation - but rather I believe they became one with God again since all paths lead to the Divine. Whether it be a church, a temple or a mosque - the place where we worship to sustain and nourish our spiritual selves cannot be viewed as place of pain, but one of healing and faith.

No one person or building can tell us who we are or how we should be - least of all Sarah Palin. It is not for her to judge what brings pain, what would stab at our hearts or what would heal us - because all of that comes from within. We have to listen inwardly to dictate how we act outwardly. We have to trust what is true for us, and not the ideas and values of others who speak out of ignorance or hate. Christianity, Buddhism, Hinduism, Judaism, Islam - all of these religions boast extremists who fashion religion into one of their own making. Many have enslaved and murdered innocent people in the name of their religion. Those who flew planes into the Twin Towers are not the peace seeking Muslims who would pray at a mosque at Ground Zero - but rather the ones we should be praying FOR at a mosque at Ground Zero.

Building a mosque at Ground Zero doesn't mean we celebrate the hate that brought those buildings down - it means we conquer it. Every major religion of the world has similar ideals of love and the same goal of uplifting the human spirit. Whether a church, a temple, synagogue or mosque - the common goal of all these holy places is to teach love and humanity where its followers steer away from negative acts caused by ignorance and hate, and walk the path of goodness which leads to the temple of the heart.

-b