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Happy Random Thoughts Thursday!

- I'm over winter.

- I loved President Obama's speech yesterday at the memorial service in Tuscon, AZ. Regardless of his politics and whether or not you believe he's doing a good job or not - the man has a heart and integrity. His words were uplifting, he gives me hope.

- Today is the funeral for the youngest victim in the Arizona shootings - 9 year old Christina Green - the little girl born on September 11th, 2001. President Obama said, "I want us to live up to her expectations, I want our democracy to be as good as Christina imagined it. I want America to be as good as she imagined it. All of us - we should do everything we can to make sure this country lives up to our children's expectations." In heaven, he said, if there are rain puddles, Christina is jumping in them today. "And here on this Earth, we place our hands over our hearts, and commit ourselves as Americans to forging a country that is forever worthy of her gentle, happy spirit." Keep her family and friends in your prayers.

- Also, continue to keep Haiti in your prayers. A year later, they still need our help. Every little bit helps.

- This morning, a woman was standing in front of my company's building wearing a big sign that said "I regret my abortion." That was sad, but curious why she decided to stand there with the sign? I said a small prayer for her as I walked inside.

- My new favorite cereal is Life Cinnamon :-)

- I have boring chicken breasts and broccoli for lunch :-(

- Prince added another show at the Garden - he's tempting me!

- Janet Jackson is coming in March - what to do!? Can Janet still bring it??

- Busy work day for me. Glad we have a long weekend coming up!

- I'd rather have pizza for lunch today.

- "The Game" premiered to 7.7 million viewers on Tuesday night on BET. Not sure how many of you watch the show but I'm glad it made its way back on air! The premiere was okay, hope it gets better! There's NO WAY the Tasha Mack I know would be afraid of Kellie Pitts :-) The "new" Brittany" is wack, and Melanie was dead wrong! If you don't watch the show, you have no idea what I'm talking about :-)

- The gym is too crowded. I can't wait for folks to start falling off on their resolutions so I can get an elliptical machine ;-) I know, that wasn't nice...but you know what I mean :-)

- This week's throwback! Brian says, "is this beat and bass line sick or what?!" LOL!



Go!

-b

Happy Tuesday!


Today's blog is more of a question of the day. Now, I usually don't care about the goings on of teeny-bopper heartthrobs, if you wanna call them that - particularly not any members of B2K. While some may have an inappropriate interest in the young'ns (shout out to Ms. Princess!), Omarion, Marques Houston and anyone named "Raz B" do nothing for me...which makes this "gay/bisexual ranting/beef" on Twitter almost comical to me. In case you missed it, here is the story. The gist is this - false rumors via Twitter reported that singer Omarion was bisexual. He has denied those rumors and claims to only love women...period.

I couldn't care less.

However, it did bring up a topic I've discussed with my friends many times before, so I thought I'd get your take on it as well. So, the question is:

Can men (and women) be bisexual? If not, why? Can women be bisexual, but not men? Or are you either gay or straight - period?

Go!

-b

Good morning.

I just finished watching the moment of silence on television for the victims of the Tuscon shooting. The news shot through me just like one of the bullets that killed a 9 year old girl on Saturday. The tragedy is unthinkable. It makes you wonder what we're doing to ourselves.

Words have power. What you put out there can get into the hands of a crazy person who can purchase a gun with no problem. All of this hatred has got to stop. Feel free to disagree, feel free to debate...but violence and killing should never be a part of the conversation.

All of this is enough to have you afraid to leave the house or to stand in a crowd at a rally. This fear can keep us off-beat, paralyzed, wary of surrendering to the rhythm of life. Fear is the root of greed, aggression, racism, sexism, bigotry, and bad blood - between neighbors and nations, between Democrats and Republicans, our friends and family and the world. Fear can define a human being, enough to make him pick up a gun and shoot into crowd in an attempt to assassinate anyone who challenges those fears.

Fear can impede our forward progress and keep us out of the flow we call grace. I pray that God grants us grace and shows us when enough is enough. We haven't yet figured out how life works, why life is granted and why life is taken away, but I pray God can show us how to establish peace within and among ourselves. Where God is one, there is no other...there's a better way of living. I pray for the victims and I pray that He shows us the way.

-b

TGIF!

Stay warm and be careful out in the snow today if you're in the NYC!

Let's go!

1. If you suspected your significant other of cheating, would you: 1) confront them and ask, 2) simply leave them or 3) try to catch them in the act?

2. Have any of you ever tried "Swinging?" If so, do you get more pleasure from having sex with someone else's partner, or watching your partner get sexed by someone else?

3. You've been in jail for over a year and are set to remain for one more. Would you ever let someone of the same sex go down on you if you didn't have to touch them or return the favor?

4. Have you ever had sex in/on a: car, airplane, train, boat, movie theater, book store, park, or public bathroom? All of the above?

5. What do you consider an appropriate age to start having sex?

6. While talking dirty, are you generally "polite" or do you call your partner dirty names (ie: bitch, slut, etc.)? Would you be offended if your partner called you a dirty name or turned on by it?

7. Anatomy quiz: the female g-spot is located where? Have any of you found it?

8. The best definition of Knismolagnia is: 1) sexual arousal from being tickled 2) sexual pleasure from exercise 3) sexual pleasure from incense.

9. What is the sexiest thing someone would find in your underwear drawer?

10. What is your kissing style like: 1) a light approach and a strong finish 2) Lip biting and sexy tongue action 3) you respond to and match his/her kissing style.

Go!

-b

Happy Random Thoughts Thursday!

- My body is more sore from doing yoga than spinning. How is that possible? That "Downward Dog" is a killer! I blame Monica :-)

- I realized yesterday that pretty much the only time I look at my watch is when I'm in spin class....and that's only because I don't bring my phone in there. While at work, I look at the time on my computer or phone display, and any other time I either look at my cell phone or the cable box. My watch is just a piece of fancy jewelry now :-)

- I can't remember the last time I actually rented a dvd.

- Do they still make encyclopedias?

- I think I have maybe 5 phone numbers memorized. When I was a teenager, I had at least 50 memorized. That's sad.

- My mom still refers to cd's as "tapes." My older nephew asked her what a tape was....I felt so old. I'm surprised he even knows what a cd is...but he knows how to work an iPod!

- He also knows how to load my phone with games. Luckily he can only find the free downloads....for now. I have three different versions of "Angry Birds" on my phone...just eating up space.

- He also has a fake cell phone and actually told me to "hold on" because he was getting a text. The imagination of a 6 year old. His cell phone even takes fake pictures.

- When my dad came up for Xmas, he saw a stack of Yellow Pages in the lobby of my apartment building and asked me if I needed one. I can't even remember the last time I looked up a number in the yellow pages. It's called "Google."

- I get so much junk mail! I think I only pay one bill by actually writing a check - and that's my rent. I sometimes don't check my mailbox for days because I know it's filled with nothing but Penny Savers, catalogs from random mail-only stores, a newsletter from BJ's and Trader Joe's and credit card companies trying to get me to open a Discover card. Do people even still use the Discover card?

- But my damn Essence Magazine is always late!

- I'm addicted to the show 16 & Pregnant.

- RIP Teena Maria. Lady T could blow!

- The American Red Cross is stalking me to donate blood. They call me like 5 times a day. I'm gonna do it, but geez!!!

- Everyone should gargle Listerine before getting on the train....for real.

- Did y'all see this? This kid's uncle beat him I guess because he was pretending to be a thug/gang member on Facebook...take a look.



How old is too old to get an ass whoopin'? How long do you think it'll be before someone calls CPS on the uncle for whipping his nephew on camera? Do you think the boy deserved a public spanking? Curious your take on this...and the uncle with his pants down offends me. Pull your damn pants up man!

- This week's throwback! THE JOINT!!!



Go!

-b

I know that title got your attention....let's go!

Dear Brookey,

I know today isn’t TMI Tuesday, so you can feel free to save this post for the next one if you want, but after the “going downtown” blog from yesterday, I figured I’d write you about another touchy sex topic: swallowing. I can’t do it. I have no problem performing oral sex, but I refuse to swallow his cum. Once it’s in my mouth, I spit it out, and my boyfriend is offended by it. I think it’s disgusting, the taste repulses me and I think it’s unsanitary. I feel that he should appreciate that I’m giving him a blowjob in the first place, and asking me to swallow is rude. What do you think?

- Not Doing It

Umm….hmm…lemme think.

The quick answer is this: if you are uncomfortable with it, then don’t do it. No one should feel obligated to swallow jiz if they don’t want to. If it repulses you, then the last thing he needs is for you to vomit his own cum back up on him. Just gross.

However…

Maybe there’s something he can do to make it taste better? I’ve heard that if a man drinks cranberry or pineapple juice, the taste can be less…nasty? I don’t know what his spunk tastes like, or if you think it all tastes the same no matter what, but maybe he can change his diet to make it less ikky. After all, you cum what you eat :-) If he drinks, smokes, eats a lot of junk food, etc., then his stuff probably makes you wanna throw up in your mouth a little bit. Strongly spiced dishes, like curry, can also carry their flavors over into his cum. Of course, you don't want to restrict what he eats too much - everyone needs to have a balanced diet and eat what they like - but it's something to keep in mind: Men - if you're planning on getting head after dinner, you might want to skip the asparagus appetizer. Jus’sayin’.

The main complaints about the taste of semen are that it is bitter and salty. The taste buds on different areas of the tongue are sensitive to specific tastes: sweet on the tip of the tongue, salty and sour on the sides, and bitter at the back. When swallowing semen, you can minimize the unpleasant tastes by trying to keep it away from the corresponding parts of your tongue. Since the "bitter" taste buds at the back of the throat are the most problematic, the solution is either to overshoot them (by deep throating), or to pool the semen in the front of the mouth and then swallow quickly in one gulp. Make sure the cum spends as little time as possible lingering near the back of your palate.

Another tip to make the taste more pleasant is to pop an Altoid or Tic Tac right before going down there. He may enjoy the tingle and when he busts, his semen will get lost in the flavor of the Altoid and you won’t taste a thing. Don’t use anything that has any alcohol in it, like mouthwash or breath spray, cuz that could sting….so I’ve heard :-)

Or you could use food to get rid of the taste. Have fun with it - use fruit, popsicles, chocolate or whipped cream on him, and it can mask the taste. Have a can of whipped cream next to the bed, and after he comes, stick the nozzle in your mouth and chase his cum with an extra shot of “cream.” He might think it’s sexy….who knows.

Now, if you think it’s unsanitary, that translates to me that you think there’s something in his semen that’ll make you sick. This may be true if he’s walking around with an STD, but if he’s your boyfriend, you both are exclusive and have been tested for every STD under the sun, then there’s nothing unhealthy about it. Sperm only accounts for a small about of semen, the rest (about 90 percent) is seminal fluid, which is composed of dozens of chemical components. The base of seminal fluid is primarily fructose (sugar) and proteins, with many other trace minerals and substances. Seminal fluid is a veritable nutrient-rich soup. Semen is a source of highly concentrated, high-quality protein. In dietary terms, it's comparable to egg whites or gelatin. At the end of the day, healthy semen (that is, cum produced by a well-nourished, disease-free man) may in fact be not only safe to eat, but actually good for you.

As far as him being offended, think of it like this – what if after going down on you, he immediately got up, went to the bathroom and gargled Listerine to get the taste of you out of his mouth? You might feel some kinda way right? That’s probably how he feels. I don’t know how long you two have been dating, but most men in a relationship probably view you swallowing his stuff as a form of acceptance, and spitting it out as some sort of rejection. I’m not saying you have to do it to show him how much you love him, I’m just imagining how he feels after you spit his spunk out into the nearest towel. You think it’s rude of him to ask, but he might consider it impolite to spit it out. I'm just looking at it from both sides. I just hope you’re not actually spitting it ON him. Cum soaked towels are messy to get rid of too…swallowing just seems…neater :-)

At the end of the day, you should do what feels most comfortable to you, and him harassing you about it probably doesn’t help. Just discuss it with him, when you’re NOT in bed, and make him aware your concerns. If after reading this you still think it’s gross and unsanitary, then don’t do it…do what is best for you. Good luck!

-b

Happy New Year y’all! I hope you all had a great holiday and got to rest and relax and enjoy time with family and friends!

How appropriate is it that my first blog of 2011 falls on TMI Tuesday! I thought of asking Fury for a last minute post…or even reaching out to Domina*tricks, but a conversation with a friend prompted today’s TMI blog. If you don’t want to discuss fellatio or “going down town” as it’s commonly referred, then check back tomorrow :-)

Now, I’m not trying to be all nasty and nosey and whatnot…but how many of you engage in oral sex? If you do, do you enjoy it? If not, do you expect it done to you? Or can you take it or leave it?

The conversation I had was with a man who said he could take it or leave it. He doesn’t really do it, and if so, not often. He said he saves it for “special occasions.” However, he has no problem receiving it…loves it even. But when it comes to giving it, he says it’s something in his “bag of tricks” that he pulls out on Valentine’s Day, etc.

So my question to you all is this: is oral sex a deal breaker for you? Meaning if someone doesn’t give it or reciprocate, do you bounce? Or do you stay because the person’s other qualities more important and you can be satisfied sexually with just intercourse? Can you be totally sexually satisfied if oral sex is off the table…or sofa…or bed? ;-)

Everyone is different, so there are no right or wrong answers. Just curious….and after all…it IS TMI Tuesday! Let’s go!

-b