Monday, December 22, 2008
What's happening my people!?
Okay, I think my cousin is crazy. Yeah, I said it. But I'll let you decide.
She's dating a new guy, a colleague from work. At first she didn't want to date him, because he was "too nice."
"He rubs my feet and stuff..." (as if that was a bad thing).
I guess he wore her down because she started seeing him.
This man treats her like a queen. Breakfast in bed. Massages her scalp. He even gave her a key to his place. "He probably treats all his women like queens."
He even gave her so much access that she managed to "accidentally" fall into his email. She found old emails from when they first started dating about a month or two ago from women who "missed him."
"What if he's messing around on me or seeing these other women too?"
Then I get a text - "his phone has a password on it, damn!"
I tell her to stop snooping. She says I call it "snooping"...she calls it "being informed." She then says she never intended on becoming the type of woman who snoops, but says when she fell upon the emails, she got a rush.
Yesterday she texts me that he has a page on Black Planet that he checks daily..."with his shirt off and chest all out."
She's killing me.
She says the reason she feels she needs to be "informed" about him is because when she asked him why he and his ex got divorced, he said "what happened between a man and his wife should stay between a man and his (ex) wife."
Now, I understand wanting to know. I'd want to know too. But I feel that she should let it go and give it some time to see where their relationship goes before attempting to have the conversation again. She wants to know NOW.
So, here we are. I am going to let you all weigh in and see what you think. I have my opinions, but I think she's tired of hearing mine :)
She calls it being "nosey." I call it being insecure. She says she's been too trusting in the past and it backfired. I say not all men are out to deceive or hurt you. She wants to know NOW what's going on. I say it's only been a couple of months. She says, "you know you can't trust no man." I say, "who's the one invading his privacy and then tell me who can't be trusted?"
She may kill me for blogging about this, but I DID tell her I was going to do it. Now it's done - and so am I. What do you think?