Monday, August 16, 2010

House Husbands

Happy Monday!

Okay, so am I the only person that missed this series completely?



And am I only the only person alive who didn't know that "Ron Johnson" from A Different World was married to Tempest Bledsoe of The Cosby Show fame?

I am? Really?

Where have I been?

Anyway, my question of the day is: Women - how many of you would be cool having a "house husband"? Men - how many of you would be cool BEING a house husband?

I'm not sure I'd have a problem with it at all. I mean, if we had children to raise, I'd probably PREFER it :-) Taking care of kids is A LOT of work, and I think I'd get more of a break in an office than in my living room playing with kids and wondering if I should vacuum or do laundry while they nap as opposed to napping myself. While women are considered to be the more nurturing caregivers for children, they'd probably wear me out. I hope to have a husband who has WAY more energy than I do so he can run after the chi'rens!

Now, if we didn't have children to take care of and he was just "home" - then I might wonder....what is he doing all day? What is he doing with his life? I know that may seem narrow-minded to some, but I'd expect a man to wonder the same thing about me if I wasn't at home burping babies. I think I'd be bored to death being a stay-at-home wife. I've never had the desire to be a "kept" woman. I understand wanting to be a stay-at-home mother - because no one can raise and take care of your children better than you can (supposedly anyway) - but a stay-at-home wife? I'd yank my hair out from boredom.

So what say you all - is it cool to have/be a house husband? Is it only cool in certain circumstances? Would you women trust your man to stay home and take care of the babies? Do you think he'd do just as good, if not a better, job than you would? Or are house husbands the epitome of bitchassness? Are gender roles changing?

Let's hear it!

-b

18 comments:

Stef said...

FIRST BITCHES!

Stef said...

YES!! I beat ANT! And Annamaria!

I'm sorry, but a house husband is a bit suspect to me. If he had to stay hom to take care of the kids, that's one thing - but a house husband with no kids? Sorry, but that's bitchassness.

I saw that show a few times and the men all seem to be emasculated by their wives. In that episode, Darryl ("Ron") couldn't even pick out his own clothes without Tempest's approval. He played himself.

I want a man who wants to do something with his life. And if that something isn't raising kids, then what purpose do you have?

Jay said...

I don't think I'd mind staying home to take care of the kids, but I couldn't stay home and be a "kept man." That's wack to me. I'd be bore to death too, and I can't imagine a man being cool with being at home doing nothing but cooking and cleaning all day. I'd rather pursue my passions and hire someone to do all that.

I guess if I was an actor and worked sporadically, or played a professional sport that required I'd only be working by season, then being at home is no big deal - in the OFF SEASON. But on a day-to-day basis with my wife bringing home the check? Nah, can't do it.

Rameer The Circumstance said...

I'd gladly be a house husband to take care of the kids. I LOVE kids...and I've always been VERY good with them. No issue for me.

Now if we had no kids...I agree with Hov. That's kinda WACK, just sitting around being a bum and scrounging off your woman's hard work. The only scenario I could sit at home while my woman worked is if I was wealthy enough to not work, and she CHOSE to work even though she didn't have to (due to the wealth). Cuz if I'm a multi-millionaire, I'd do what I want WHEN I want - no 5-day a week, 9 to 5 for me listening to someone else instruct you on what to do during the course of a day. I'd be fine running my own biz from home.

FYI, Brooke-Ra - I never saw this show or heard of it either. But Ron is a SU grad...

Brooke said...

Oh, I knew he was an SU Grad, but didn't know he was married to Tempest Bledsoe!

Annamaria said...

CORRECTION: they are not married they are SHACKING UP! lol
and she's still taking care of his AZZ! lol

I think that kinda makes it a lil worse in a way...

Stef you will get shanked.

IF my future husband wanted to start a business or stayed home with our kids or something was wrong with him & I made enough money to sustain our household then I would definitely support him. IF he just wanted to sit on the couch & scratch his balls all day then I'd have a slight problem with that & may shank him.

Jaz said...

Ya'll SU grads are EVERYWHERE!

If my husband stayed home to take care of the kids, then yes, it's cool. But if he's just at home, then that's NOT cool. I'd think he expected me to work, so I expect the same from him. Unless we're both independently wealthy like Rameer said, get your ass up off the couch and go make some money! LOL!

Stef said...

where is everyone today?

on a similar note, I'm wondering how many men would move to another city if their wife's job called for it, especially if it meant she made more money than him?

DMoe said...

I just couldn't do it.

It would eat at me...Constantly asking myself "what am I contributing?"

As a dude, yo azz gotta be doin somethin...

I couldn't be a kept dude, and it would be hard to just care for the kids also. Although "Mr.Mom" is one of my favorite movies from the 80's.

Haha.

DMoe aka Chase Lounge

The Cable Guy said...

I can't imagine a man alive who'd be cool with this situation as a house husband who is not taking care of kids. I love my son, but I doubt I could be home all day taking care of him unless there was really no other way. But just being home just to be home? Couldn't do it. I would feel less of a man...and I think my woman would view me as a chump as well.

Ron from a Different World seemed like a punk to me in that episode. And that's not even his wife?? Man - he's a bitch.

Jay said...

@Stef,

I don't mind my wife making more money than me, nor would I mind moving to a new city if the tradeoff would be worth it. More money doesn't necessarily mean much if the cost of living is significantly higher in that new city. The trade off would have go be worth it, especially if it means uprooting children. But yes, I'd do it.

Yolanda said...

Well, since I don't want kids... being a house husband is a fail. Major. You can't be all laid up in my house while I'm working. No suh, no suh. If there were children involved, that's a different story but I don't plan to expel anything from my womb. LOL

Brooke said...

I love Yolanda's comments :) LOL!

Monica said...

LMAO! I agree with everyone. No way are you going to be in my house layed up while I'm working. "Sorry my brotha...you've gotta get your own".

SarKism said...

i know i'm late but....

As a married woman, I could if that was, like Rameer, his strength and only until the kids (note the need for multiple children) were a certain age. Really what are you doing when they are teens?

The Cable Guy said...

@Stef,

That question is tricky for me since my son is in NYC. I'd hate to move away from him, even if my wife found a great job in another city. It would have to be a city like Philadelphia where I can get to my son anytime I had to.

Jaz said...

I don't think I even know any house husbands. Just broke ass fools with no job :)

ArrElle said...

@Jaz LMAO good observation

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