Tuesday, December 22, 2009
Only three days before Christmas, and it got me thinking...have any of your "boo's" suddenly vanished?
A friend and I were discussing this the other day. She said she noticed that all the guys that usually call, text or email her on a regular basis have fallen off - and seemingly just as December rolled in. None of them have asked how she's been, sent their daily "hey sexy" texts or asked her what she's doing for New Year's Eve. Nothing. Poof! They're gone.
I told her I wasn't surprised. Most men and women who disappear around the holidays either don't want to buy you a gift, or they're spending the holidays with their REAL boyfriend/girlfriend. It happens, and after St. Paddy's day, they come sniffing around again - just in time for the first warm breeze.
But what if you're in a relationship with someone already, and you know it's run its course - do you wait til after the holidays to break up? Or do you do it before so that you can save yourself the trouble (and money) of buying a gift for someone that you know you're on the outs with?
My answer to that is simple - break up before the holidays. I know some may think that's cruel, and it may hurt them now, but put them (and yourself) out of their misery. There's no need to try to fake the funk, buy gifts that you really don't want to give (unless you genuinely are friends regardless of any problems in the relationship) and spend time with someone you really don't want to spend time with. Holidays are usually for family, so they'll have their family to comfort them - and you don't have to bring him or her around YOUR family for Christmas dinner. You can bring in the new year with a clean slate, and they'll get over you just in time to find someone else to spend Valentine's Day with.
And don't keep someone around just so you can RECEIVE a gift. That's just tacky :-)
Most likely, the person you want to break up with knows what the deal is - they know something isn't right as well - so the break up will probably not come as a surprise. Besides, holding off a break up simply for the sake of a holiday will just drag it out - there will never be a good time. You can't say, "Well, breaking up before Christmas is mean...I'll wait til New Year's." And then New Year's will come, and you'll want to wait til afterwards so that they don't associate New Year's with a break up and deem you an asshole. So then Valentine's Day rolls around, and you'll be a jerk for doing it right before or after Valentine's Day. And if you're Irish, maybe breaking up around St. Patrick's Day is in poor taste too :-) Then Easter, then Memorial Day, when will it end??!!!
Just get it over with already. And if you're one of those guys or gals that breaks up with someone just for the holidays hoping to get back together later just so you can avoid buying a gift - then keep it movin'! Don't show up or send me a text in April talking about, "I miss you, I've been thinking about you"... cuz my NEW BOO might be around ;-)
Hey...jus sayin ;-)