Wednesday, December 9, 2009
Happy Rainy Hump Day! (in the NYC anyway)
It's raining cats, dogs, Tigers and lions and bears outside! Geesh!
Speaking of Tigers, it just never seems to end for this cat.
One thing that is very noticeable about all these women that are coming out of the woodwork (with the exception of maybe a couple) is they all seem to be blonde. Tiger seems to have a "type."
Most reports have glossed over the fact that all the women are white.
And really...who cares?
But some have wondered if El Tigre has ever dated a black woman, or an Asian woman. I mean, after all, his mother is Asian...and we seem to think that most boys are attracted to women who remind them of the women in their lives - whether it's their mother, a grandmother, a favorite auntie :-)
My nephews seem to gravitate to "beige" women with long hair. (Kyce calls colors like he literally sees them) But it's no surprise, considering my sister is...uh..."beige" with long hair. When Beyonce or Alicia Keys are on tv, Kyce drops everything and stares...and he's only 5 years old.
So, you're in a crowded room...or subway...or Perkins Restaurant...and you catch someone's eye. No one else in the room...or train...or restaurant...matters. You both feel "it" - whatever "it" is. The undeniable sparks. Chemistry.
But what is that chemistry based on? Looks? Personality? Familiarity?
I'm sure it could be a combination of all of those things...or none of those things. It's something that continues to baffle scientists, poets and those who sing sappy love songs. What is it about a certain type of guy or girl that gets us all tingly?
Sometimes we're attracted to the same type over and over again without even knowing why. We gravitate towards tall men, short women, blondes, bald headed dudes...over and over again. What’s "familiar" about our recurring stream of sweethearts may not always be immediately evident though - at least not on the outside anyway.
People may feel chemistry with someone who treats them in a way that’s familiar because it’s a dynamic they know. A woman who grew up with a father who was a rolling stone jazz musician, for example, may end up with a wild-man rocker dude, who’s similarly unpredictable but (hopefully) in more positive ways. A guy who grew up with a nurturing mother who babied him and waited on him hand and foot might be attracted catering women who have no problem washing his dirty drawers. So, your relationship could echo some dynamic from your past.
Unless, however you never thought your wandering father or docile mother was cool. In that case, you might be attracted to men and women are the OPPOSITE of what you saw growing up, simply because you don't want to be with someone with those characteristics.
Perhaps it's possible to not have a "type" at all. Some people don't see race. They don't see "colors." They don't see height, or weight, or even distinguish certain personality traits from another. Some people just see each person - individually to determine if there's a spark.
So, tell me - do you think chemistry is a universal thing that can apply to ANY and EVERYONE? Or do you feel that familiarity breeds a bond? That "like attracts like"?
Does the theory that opposites attract explain why we're drawn to someone completely unlike ourselves? And will the differences between two people presuppose passion - but an inevitable downfall since we wind up hating them for the very things that attracted us in the first place?
I'm curious to read your thoughts on this - and I want to know if any of you have a certain type that you find yourself dating over and over again.