Monday, April 12, 2010

"Date Jesus"

Happy Monday!

Did anyone watch this last night?



After watching that nonsense that was "Basketball Wives," I decided to settle in for "What Chilli Wants." Of all the bad tv I watched last night, this was the one that caught my attention. Not because it was Chilli from TLC, but because I felt that this was as show that most women could relate to. Why? Because there are a lot of women out there who have a "list."

You know what I'm talking about.

He has to be fine, taller than 6 feet, intelligent, drive this type of car, have this type of home, be athletic, love his mama, no kids, have all his teeth, and be packin'. That's not hard to find right?

What drew me in...or should I say "who" drew me in, was Tionna Smalls - the bombass wingwoman who literally felt up a man to see if he was packin' enough for Chilli since that was one of her requirements. Now THAT'S a chick to ride with! LOL!

Seriously though, I felt that she was honest and brought Chilli down a few when it came to her impossible "list." I appreciated that Tionna, T-Boz and most of all Missy Elliot ("date Jesus!"), expressed to Chilli how unrealistic she was in her requirements for a mate. I'm not saying she should settle, but if you find a man who is perfect in every way except that he eats pork, you MIGHT want to relax your standards just a bit.

There are certain things that should be dealbreakers, things you can't compromise on. Should he be intelligent? Yes. Should he have integrity? Absolutely. Should he believe in God? If God is your everything, then yes...he should. I get those things.

But if you discount a great guy because you don't share the same diet, or because he has a 4-pack instead of an 8-pack, or isn't Boris Kodjo's twin...then you might be missing out on what could be your happily ever after.

I'm curious to see how the season plays out for Chilli, as well as see what kind of advice Ms. Smalls dishes out to us ladies. Of all the shows on VH-1 that premiered last night, that was the only one I think I might come back for.

Seriously, "Basketball Wives?" How many of them were actual wives?? That nonsense may be a blog for another day. Maybe....

Anyway, do you have a list? If so, what's on it? What are traits that your mate absolutely has to have in order to win your heart? Or are you open to whatever the Universe brings your way? Let's hear it!

-b

61 comments:

SarKism said...

1st bitches

SarKism said...

now.....

I had no "list" when I was dating although I did have a single requirement....gotta have a sense of humor because I am silly as hell.

I did have some things that I just knew I wouldn't do or should I say I thought I wouldnt do. All of them were inevitably wrapped around a great guy and presented to me. In the end I found someone who made me happy so I guess that was my only real requirement.

hindsight is 20/20.

Annamaria said...

I know I may catch heat about this but hey here goes: I think we've talked this topic to death. My advice: let's all stop analyzing what we're doing wrong & just live life & be happy.

Tracey-Ann said...

@Annamaria- ((((Haaaaaaaaalellujaahhhhh))) I am giving you a pound, high five, and dap right now! Geez Louise, ladies whether you are single, married, divorced, separated, widowed---LIVE YOUR LIFE and enjoy it to the fullest. Chilli struck me as one of those "pretty chicks" who has been told she is fine one too many times and feels "entitled" for some strange reason that she is supposed to have a man adoring her at every moment. To all the Chili's out there I say ....get an MFing grip on yourself, you're obviously not the cats meow or else a "good" dude would have made his choice to be with you. That's right, I said it...the man chooses the woman and not the other way around! Stop f**ckin with the laws of nature! Peace

Geeque4u said...

Brooke, I saw the show last night. Based on the list she had, JESUS is the only one she can date!! LOL

She seems like a nic person, but with that list she wont get a man....

Stef said...

I watched the show last night Brooke, and although we've talked about this before, I don't think it can be discussed enough. There are alot of women out there who feel that because they work hard, got it going on, bring alot to the table, etc., they deserve a man who is their equal. And I don't see anything wrong with that. But the unrealistic lists need to stop. I think discussing the show shows that even women like Chilli, who seem to have it all, are beautiful, etc. like Tracy Anne said, DON'T have it any easier than the rest of us when it comes to finding a mate.

Good blog Brooke, even if we HAVE discussed it before. I was actually hoping you'd discuss this today, so thank you!

Yolanda said...

I'm just going through my DVR list right now, I've made it through Brandy/RayJ and Basketball un-Wives, haven't gotten to Chili yet.

I don't have a list and really have never had one. None of the men I've been involved with even really look alike. I've been quite open about wanting someone taller than me (I'm 5'8, usually taller when I wear my good clothes and shoes). Aside from nice height and teeth (c'mon, you want me to have teeth too right? It's only right)... I don't have a "list" anymore. I don't know if that's a bad thing or a sign of giving up.

At this point, I'm just open to the possibilities or whatever God's working on for me... even a short man. (Can't believe I just typed that)

Jay said...

I caught this show last night, and just knew you'd write about it today if you watched it too. Chilli was buggin.

There is no perfect person, even for fine ass, grammy winning women like Chilli. I don't know if she's really like that, or was saying all that for tv, but there definitely women out there who have these impossible requirements that no man can live up to. And men do the same thing. We want the model chick who's a lady in the street, a freak in the bed, can cook, clean, raise babies and do it all while keeping her hair did and her nails done. Not realistic.

Good blog B.

Rameer The Circumstance said...

I don't know Chilli personally, but my boy used to work for LaFace back in the TLC days. Her used to give me A LOT of insight into those 3, as he was cool with all the artists and people at that company. He said Chilli was the most down to Earth, the coolest - and said she was the one most approachable. He also said because of that, she was the one who would be most likely to be played.

I think after her dealings with Usher and Dallas Austin, both of whom did her kind of grimy, I think THAT'S when she decided to probably have a list. She said it last night: "I've been hurt when I DIDN'T have a list, so now I want EXACTLY what I want". No, I'm completely against lists - so I'm not saying it's cool or that anyone should have one. I'm just saying - in HER case, I see why she may have one.

As far as "Basketball Wives" - I called it "Gold Diggers The Reality Show: Trifling Hoe Edition" on my Facebook. One of my female friends tried to play Devil's Advocate and defend it...suffice to say, I know the backstory of most of the WHORES (yes, I'm calling 'em as they are) on the show. I find it interesting they tried to portray them as good, resilient Black women who have been victimized by the men and the lifestyle, without ever touching on the f'd up activity many of them are known for themselves. Putting Shaunie O'Neal as the den mother is like putting Bill Clinton in charge of the White House intern program. Shaq and Shaunie would be on "Springer" if they were poor! The amount of f'd up stuff they've both done for YEARS is incredible. And Antoine Walker's "Ex-fiance" (really? that's how you WANT to be known??), Michael Olowokandi's ex and the young dancer? Their stories are waaaayyyyyy out there. It's common knowledge about these WHORES in pro athlete and celeb circles...any of you know some athletes? ASK about them. Watch the response.

That show is like Superhead having a show about herself as a great Black woman who has been a victim and is just trying to get by. You'd fall out of your chair.

And, let's call it for what it is - an attempt to maintain their spot in the limelight, garner fame (that they can no longer try to glean off their ex's) and make money to keep their insane lifestyles afloat.

I'm pretty sure I nearly upchucked by segment 2. Brooke-Ra - PLEASE blog about this foolishness! I thought it was bad when they did the Video Vixen documentary on VH-1...never did I think the gold diggers and whores would unite to tell "their story" on TV...leaving out all the truth about themselves and their situations.

Are their hubbies/boyfriends scum in terms of relationships? No doubt. But this ain't Halle Berry being beaten or cheated on...these are opportunistic hoes who have long histories of "Springer/Maury/Jenny Jones" type behavior.

I'm surprised they didn't get the godmother of all trifling NBA gold diggers/whores/drama queens, Juanita Jordan...

Ah. I digress.

annamaria said...

IF & I say this lightly so that people don't take THIS comment personally also. BUT IF Chili is just acting like this for TV then her ass really aint gonna find a man cuz she's not being herself! So on top of all her unrealistic demands she's being fake.. 2 strikes.

Brooke said...

LOL! Rameer, you took the words right out of my mouth about Basketball Wives! I watched that with my girl Su last night like "HOW is this a show??"

First of all, hardly any of them were wives! They were ex-fiancees, ex-whatever's to these scrubs. All I kept asking myself is "why are they relevant? Who cares what they think? Why are they all hanging together and they barely know each other?" And you can tell they don't even like each other.

And Shaunie? Really? How are you gonna talk greasy about any other woman when you were just like them? The only real thing she said was "keep your enemies close" cuz all those trifling ass women were EXACTlY the same. That show was pure foolishness. Don't even get me started.

As for my talked-to-death blog topic, what I found appealing most about the show was Tionna Smalls, not Chilli. That woman might get her own show. Chilli was just the woman she was working on, but I can see her giving women tips on this stuff ala "Tough Love." Maybe all the women on here are evolved enough to know better, but there are PLENTY of women out there who feel they are entitled because they think they know what they bring to the table...and are in for rude awakenings. We don't all know Chilli's history, so Rameer may be on to something with her and her list, but for the majority of women out there who want to be married, they could stand to relax a bit and live life and let God present their man to them.

Yolanda said...

Blogger is messing with my emotions. Okay, typing this AGAIN...

These Hollywood women types need to think out of the box (assuming men can handle women being the breadwinners...), maybe they should look for teachers, post men, trashmen, people outside the spotlight because trying to mix it up with fellow Hollyweird and reality show types hasn't gotten Chili (and a lot of others) too far. Justsayin.

Hell, I was eyeing the mechanic on the train today... he was fine and my car could use the hook-up.

Sometimes the treasure is in the least obvious place.

Jaz said...

Sometimes I think it's good to have a list. Not an impossible one, but if you know what you want and know you wouldn't be happy if you settled, then why not?

I think there are many women out there who want certain things, but because they're afraid of being alone, they date the guy who may not be as smart as they'd like him to be, or as attractive to THEM as he could be, and they wind up being sad. Chilli said last night that there's no worse loneliness than being unhappy with someone. I agree with that.

I'm not saying she or anyone else should have a list 100 pages long, but sometimes knowing exactly what you want and what you will not tolerate is a GOOD thing.

Stef said...

I agree Yolanda. I think men have a hard time dealing with women who are in the spotlight or shine brighter than them. I think alot of times Hollywood relationships don't last because of competition and crazy expectations. Chilli would probably be really happy with that mechanic, but doesn't know it cuz he doesn't meet some silly requirement of hers.

And girl, go holla at the mechanic. Those are the best ones to have around, especially when your car won't start! LOL!

The Cable Guy said...

That Basketball Wives show was just stupid. All those women were trick (yeah, I said it) which is probably why they asses didn't make it down the aisle. They were hoping for a come-up, and when that fell thru, they decide to go on a stupid ass reality show. There were no "real" wives cuz THOSE women know better! Shaunie couldn't get any real wives on her show, so she went with those hoes. They all can kick rocks!

As for Chilli, that list was crazy! And she thinks cuz she's Chilli she's gonna get all that?? Women are too busy making these lists, they don't take the time to see what list THEY'D be on. Men do this too, and how would they feel if a man looked over them because of something silly? It's time we all look in the mirror and really be honest with ourselves about what WE have to offer instead of what we want someone else to give US.

And not for nothing, I've been following Brooke's blog for over a year now and there are a few subjects we've discussed more than once. Give the girl a break, she writes everyday! There's bound to be some overlap, and as Stef said (can't believe I'm agreeing with her) some subjects never get old. At least not to me anyway. Good blog Brookey!

Stef said...

You know you love me Cable Guy! LOL!

Yolanda said...

I'm sure we'll be talking about these topics again... ya'll know ABC, Hill Harper and Steve Harvey shot a follow up to the "why are Black women doomed to be single cat ladies with no men ever in their lives" last week?

It's coming soon on Nightline!

annamaria said...

Ok first off I'm gonna tase my BB cuz I had 2 paragraphs of writing that just disappeared!
Second: my comment wasn't a jab at Brooke or an insult to her blog. It was exactly what its supposed to be MY OPINION. I love Brooke & her blog & always comment when I can to show my support whether I agree with the topic or not. Yes its a great blog & well written. It always is. Which is why we all continue to log on. But I (annamaria aka a-buzz,etc etc) is tired of the topic. I may be alone in that respect & I'm cool with that.
Love & live life. If & when the right person comes along you'll know

Brooke said...

Really?? And what was their take on it? Did they agree, or are they saying that the reports of us all being doomed are false?

I'm sure that'll stir up more nonsense too :)

Tracey-Ann said...

@ Everybody- My comment wasn't to slam Brooke..heaven knows oh I enjoy these blogs! What I'm tired off seeing is the "plight" of these so called nice pretty, do it all females bawling about help me find a good man. As I was watching Chilli all I could say is that famous quote from Bruce Willis and forgive me for paraphrasing "show me a gorgeous woman and I'll show you 5 dudes who can't stand her". Just because you are "pretty" and "down to earth" and "been done wrong in a prior relationship" doesn't entitle you to the Holy Grail. I still stand by what I said and what Missy said to her....Get a grip and good luck marrying Jesus because that's who your list represent. She showed her scruples when in 1 breath you want "the list" but in the next breath you're pining for that boxer dude....pligger nease!!!! She would have nevaaaaaa given a cat like that any play if he wasn't loaded and cleaned up like he was! That show is just like Brandy/Ray J and BBall Groupies...a piece a rasss trash!!! ((Drops the mic))

Tracey with an "E" LOL

Brooke said...

My last comment was to Yolanda by the way :)

I'm still wondering how Steve Harvey became the expert on this stuff...and Hill Harper for that matter. But hey, they have their opinions based on their experiences like we all do. I'm sure we could write a book on dating, relationships, etc. based on our own experiences. I'll be looking for that follow-up Yolanda!

Brooke said...

"pligger nease" LMAO!!!

by the way, I didn't take anyone's comments personally. Y'all will just have to excuse me when I touch on a topic more than once :)

Missy was hilarious last night. As soon as she said "Date Jesus" I knew I'd be writing about it today. Cuz like you said Tracey (with an "E") :-), that's the only One who meets her criteria!

DMoe said...

Women with standards are an acceptable part of all this. After all, women SHOULD have standards, as should men.

The problem comes in when the "expectations" are not laced with "realistic ideas"...

And for all the things on "her list" its never about the list eventually becoming:

1. Job
2. Teeth
3. Pulse

ALL people have high scores in some areas, and low scores in others. Nobody's perfect, but what matters is the categories that are important to you. Now, if you've got 15 categories, that's yo azz...

Nice blog.

Dmoe

Ms. Penn said...

I'm with Tracey. This blog to me wasn't about a "list" so much as it was about women who think they're entitled to the perfect man because they think THEY are perfect. Pretty doesn't mean you get the perfect man. You need to be MORE than pretty. And if there is a perfect man, it never occurs to these "pretty" women that THEY may not be good enough in these perfect men's eyes.

Just ask Halle Berry. She had dudes cheating and beating on her left and right. Clearly "pretty" isn't everything. Chilli needs a reality check if she does indeed believe all that nonsense she was saying on her show last night.

Yolanda said...

The ABC thing was taped last week. They haven't released an air date yet. It's called Nightline Face Off (or something like that). It does bug me that Steve Harvey is now the "spokesman" for my blackness. I do like Hill Harper though. He's a really smart dude.

Brooke said...

I like Hill Harper too, very intelligent. I just wondered how he jumped into the whole relationship world from Harvard Law :) But like I said, everyone could write a book based on their own experiences, and he's no different. And he's smart enough to probably speak on it.

Should be interesting to see their take.

Tracey-Ann said...

@ Ra-so I guess ABC needs to rename The Bachelor to Gold Diggers-R-Us Vanilla Edition!!
-Re: RayJ/Brandy: Them two are soooooo washed up, its painful to watch. They are literally on the 14th minute and 59 second of what was once a "career". I was shaking my head at Brandy because if the hottest thing you can look forward to is being mentioned as arm candy for Flo-Rida then your career is truly in the shambles. And who is watching her daughter.
-The highpoint of Ray-J's career was the tape period end of story
-Re:Shaunnie's Circus: When did the "lives" of formerly kept women become socially relavant
-Re:Chili doesnt need a chick with 2 watermelons on her chest from brooklyn to tell her what I'm quite sure MANY a folk have told her over the years...Get over yourself chica, looks may get em but it sure wont keep em. I could have given her the same advice over Skype.
-Shaq is one sloppy azz dude...but then again what should we expect.

Brooke said...

Tracey-Ann is killin me today! LOL!

Stef said...

OMG! Her chest WAS out of control. But she was gangsta though when she touched dude's crotch! LOL!

ArrElle said...

Okay is something wrong with having a list, because I have one?? No I'm not looking to date Jesus but I do have some requirements and no I don't believe that they are unrealistic you need something to go by or else you'll be accepting anything from anyone just sayin.

I'm concerned that Steve Harvey has been presented as the spokes person for all single black women because whatever he says ppl are going to use his comments as if he was reading scriptures from the bible. It's bad enough that we are being seen as "undesirables" "women who are not likely to become married" etc. We as Black women don't need the additional stigma attached to the "existing list" , now Steve Harvey along with Hill Harper are providing their comments on a segment called "why are Black women doomed to be single cat ladies with no men ever in their lives"??? cmon now son!!! Gheesh, makes me wanna scream..LOL Why can't these men talk about how the relationship between the black man and woman are broken and has been for decades and provide solutions on how we should come together to make mends??

As far as Ray J/Brandy, WHO????

@Rameer the Circumstance, wow I didn't know Juanita Jordan had a sketchy past???

The Cable Guy said...

It's okay to have a list, but when you start putting his shoe size on there, along with how many teeth he should have in his head, then it's getting too specific!

ArrElle said...

Just wondering is with dating black women and has decided to team up with Steve Harvey to provide commentary on his experience. Well that explains why he is dating one of the PussyCat Dolls

Jaz said...

Who is dating one of the Pussy Cat Dolls? Hill Harper?

Rameer The Circumstance said...

@ ArrElle - oh, Juanita Jordan is so disgustingly GRIMY you'd throw-up in your mouth a bit. Jordan himself is a scumbag in many different areas, but one could argue he didn't become a piece of crap in terms of relationships until he found out her TRUE nature.

I won't get into specifics for certain reasons, but I'll say this much - she was a jump-off for athletes and "baller-type" dudes. Elder NBA heads tried to warn Jordan and he didn't listen. When he found out some things, he became a SCOURGE. He stopped giving a F - and hasn't looked back.

Many people don't know much of the crap Jordan has done...and less know about Juanita. I will say this - when Kobe Bryant first got married, one of the things circulated around the league was that he was following his idol (Jordan) in EVERY possible way...including marrying a girl who everyone told him not to and who was always looking to nab a player. Only diff - Vanessa didn't have the scandalous history to the extent Juanita did. True story.

Doesn't excuse Jordan or Kobe's behavior. But some of these wives/girlfriends/jump-offs are un-f'n-believable. And no matter WHAT you've heard about famous hoes - Kardashian, Shaunie, even SUPERHEAD - Juanita is worse than ALL of them combined. Man, I'm telling you...

As far as Chilli goes - not much to add. Y'all beat me to the punch with the reactions. I concur with most opinions presented...

As far as Steve Harvey, Hill Harper, and whomever else go - you know why they've become the spokespeople for Black women? You want cold, hard TRUTH??

Because you ALLOWED them to.

See, when it comes to us - meaning people of color - a lot of times, we cause our own problems in terms of perception. This is the reason that white folks in the media and otherwise still run to Jesse Jackson or Al Sharpton to find out how "Blacks think" or what to do when it comes to issues pertaining to Black people. Those two haven't had their finger on the pulse of Black America since the early 90s - but no one ever refuted or had a problem with them repping us. In fact, we ENCOURAGED and backed it. So now, no matter what those two race peddlers say, white people and the media buy it like we all collectively had a secret meeting and said "okay, AL - go tell errybody".

Same with this crap. I said, AT THE TIME (if you're bored, you can go through trillions of posts to get to my old Facebook statuses from months ago on the subject) that women need to stop running out and buying Steve Harvey's book like he's the savior of y'all. How is A MAN gonna know more about women THAN WOMEN?? Ish was preposterous then, and it's preposterous NOW. But his book became a best seller. He and others were invited to interviews, TV appearances, articles in magazines and online...guess what? All that support then makes them the authority NOW. And they'll probably hold the crown until 2011.

Not saying anyone specifically on the blog is at fault - but if you were one of the ones running out to buy his book and telling others to check it out, you enabled him to replace your voice as the one that matters when it comes to Black women. Just like the idiot Latinos who years ago made Carlos Mencia the spokesperson for us...until he was found to be a big fraud...

Or the women who supported Sarah Palin simply cuz she's a woman - only to find out she's what Jessica Simpson would be like if she was an old female politician.

True story.

SarKism said...

@Rameer....Thank you!!! I could not figure out or explain to my friends why I didnt so much as want to read a used copy of S. Harvey's book. Who the heck are you to tell ME??? and who says I want a man like you....uugh...We so need a strong black woman to represent us in the media that's not a WHORE or ignorant...Brooke...you should represent us :)

Brooke said...

awwww, that's sweet - but child please :) I'm still learning my damn self! LOL!

I borrowed Steve Harvey's book (wasn't paying my money for that crap), read it in 2 hours and gave it back. Nothing he said in there was enlightening, and anything that he said that was common sense, we already know. Why people act like he was shining light on the subject is beyond me.

He was funny on Oprah, but those women asking him obvious questions needed to be slapped. Women already know all this stuff, but I guess it just sounds different coming out of a man's mouth. Just silly.

Jay said...

Rameer is speaking truth. We as black folk always have to have a leader speaking for us instead of speaking for ourselves. We need to call bullshit on the likes of Al and Jesse, and Steve Harvey and Tavis Smiley and anyone else who talks crazy while representing "us." The media loves to jump on these buffoons and take what they say as fact about us.

Women need to speak out on this nonsense when you have Steve Harvey as your expert telling you how to get a man. It's bad enough the media are gunning for you, making everyone believe that black women are undesirable mates, or will never get married. Now you got Steve Harvey writing books with no credentials other than his wayward past and some strawberry letters. At least it would make more sense to take advice from another woman, like Chilli is doing on her show. And even Chilli knows better. Most women do. They just decide not to use their God given common sense and trust their inherent instincts when it comes to love and relationships.

Women, love is your birthright, but perfect men aren't. Stop trying to find the perfect man, he doesn't exit. Just the perfect one for YOU. Men, same thing.

Rameer The Circumstance said...

@ SarKism - you wanna know what's funny about you nominating Brooke-Ra??

My girlfriend LOVES "Criminal Minds". She will watch that ish for two days straight if you let her! And A&E is always playing it.

It dawned on me while watching the 12 millionth episode with her (hey, I gotta put up with THAT if I want free reign to watch my sports with her) that Brooke-Ra works at A&E. So I started talking about her, and literally said "she's really smart, warm, funny and has GREAT perspective and knowledgeable opinions and views. I wish she was famous nationwide - she'd make a great Black female role model compared to what passes as repping our Black women nowadays.

I said that either Friday or Saturday night. So I'm WITH YOU on Brooke-Ra repping not only Black women - but Blacks in general!

I have an EXTREMELY high opinion of her. =)

Rameer The Circumstance said...

Wow. Just read Jigga's comment.

Bruh - you're perspective and head is on so straight it's kinda crazy. Props!

You always tend to have great perspective and views...I just don't always point it out (others do it, so I'd just be piggy-backing). But you're comment is dead-on, and I completely agree with you.

Brooke said...

awww, thank you Rameer, that is so sweet! (**fanning myself...all misty**) :-)

Rameer The Circumstance said...

FYI - a person I know just posted on Facebook that the woman from the Chilli show - Tionna Smalls - IS getting her own VH-1 show.

Damn. That was QUICK. SMH...

Jay said...

Thanks bruh.

And Brooke is probably one of the most intelligent, enlightened, compassionate, balanced and SANE women I know.

And she fine as all hell on top of it! LOL!

We need ALOT of Brooke's reppin for the ladies, not just one. Women are alot smarter than they give themselves credit for. They need to trust themselves more. The women on this blog seem to have some sense. You don't a book by a man to tell you how to snag one. Just be YOU...unless you have a list :) LOL!

Brooke said...

I knew she could get her own show! I called it last night! SHE was the draw, not Chilli. I'm not surprised by that AT ALL!

Yolanda said...

Tionna Smalls' show will be called "Boss Chicks."

And dammit, I'm STILL going through this DVR (I go in alphabetical order... yes, I'm a little anal/OCD), so I'm on Shear Genius now. I'm almost at the Chili show :-)

Anyway, Tionna is producing the show and she says she won't be "on" it.
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JUSTBNME said...

Ok Rameer, I need you to give us more information on EVERYTHING you know about the "Basketball Wives"!! I am totally out of the loop and just curious about their background stories!!!

Brooke said...

oh, and thanks Jay :)

Anonymous said...

I didn't know Juanita was such a "jump-off" My uncle is dating her now...he works with the FBI. He has nothing but nice things to say about her. My mother said he was thinking of bring her over for our July 4th BBQ! I don't want my uncle to get involved with a old trick...!! I mean the past is the past...but I love my family and he should be aware of the type of woman he is seeing! A leopard doesn't change their spots..ya dig!

Floyd

Anonymous said...

Sorry for the grammar....but hey I gotta know!

Brooke said...

This is getting interesting!

he said "an old trick" LOL!! Floyd, you're funny :)

The Fury said...

I'm late to the conversation and could only skim through all 49 other comments. sorry if I repeat anything...

1) Most women I know have a list whether it's mental or actually written down.

2) Having a list helps the women that are often distracted by the dumb shit that some women get distracted by (cars, money, etc.) so it reminds them to stay on focus...although some women have cars and money at the top of their list.

3)"Boss Chicks"? The world is going to hell.

4) She grabbed the guy's crotch to check it for Chilli...riiiiiight.

5) Hey Rameer next time you're looking for a woman tell me you want a big ass so I can go check some women for you. SMH

6) Again I say "Boss Chicks" with the big booby broad Tionna Smalls is it? I want to see her PHD in psychiatry and meet her husband in their very happy and loving relationship. Get my point? Thanks.

There's no perfect man. Hell there's not even perfect for YOU! There's good enough and pretty close to good enough.

Take him if you find him.

or trap him like Juanita Jordan did.

BLADDOOWWWWW!

Rameer The Circumstance said...

WORD, Floyd??

Damn. I wish I was at liberty to drop dime like that. But I can't...but if you or your uncle knows anyone who was working deep in media in Chicago in the 80s and 90s, they can probably give you the scoop on her.

But she's got her money - so I can't see her doing your unc like she did the "others"...plus she's much older now. All the stuff I'm referring to was in the 80s/early 90s.

@ JUSTBNME - the little dancer's name is Royce Reed, and what the show DIDN'T conveniently say is that she's Dwight Howard's Baby Momma. It also didn't touch on the porn (!), threesomes, FOURSOMES, and the preposterous number of Heat and Magic players she's SHAGGED ROTTEN. She finally caught on when she got Dwight...

I knew about her from an ex-Miami player I know who is still in the league. He talked about her like rappers talked about Superhead.

Shaunie stole Shaq's money and had it hidden in secret bank accounts. She used his money and fame to have various boy toys, and used his kids as tools to keep him "in-line". That's like 1/100th of all the crap she's pulled. The reason she's now in L.A.? Cuz she moved to Cali (after telling Shaq she was just going to visit family or something like that) to take advantage of Cali divorce laws to bilk as much out of him as possible. Oh, THAT story is UBER-messy.

But Shaq is just as bad as her, so BOTH those hoes deserved each other. Going down a list of the gazillion things Shaunie and Shaq have done would take all day...

Rameer The Circumstance said...

Just saw Fury's comments...

He dropped more dime than I did (though not much) with the "trap him" comment about Juanita! Lolz!

I honestly thought more people knew about her. But I ain't squealing, cuz the story is soooooooo f'd up...

***cues up sample of Onyx's "Slam"***

"B-b-b-but wait - it gets WORSE..."

The Fury said...

LOL @ Rameer. Hey I just dropped a quick dig. Funny how we know more about the scandalous basketball wives than they tell the audience. I'm still trying to figure out how i know about these chicks....

No I haven't gone there....

...

..If I did, I'd never telllllll LOL

Brooke said...

y'all are cracking me up today :)

Jaz said...

I didn't know she was Dwight Howard's baby mama! Scandalous! I was wondering why she was on that show. Now it's making sense, even though SHE'S not a wife either!

Just trifling!

Rameer The Circumstance said...

She has an injunction against her - she can't use his name or refer to him publicly. Dwight's people saw what she was trying to do in the past few months...maybe that's why they didn't mention it.

Stef said...

trifling ass women!

ArrElle said...

@Jaz:

Yes according to mediatake dot com and pic was included with Hill Harper holding hands with one of dem Pussycat Dolls. I don't know the chic's name this was publish sometime ago.

Brian said...

Sup Y'all.

I caught both of the shows last night and I think that it's ironic that the man that Chilli seems to want is very similar to the ones that have played and did the Basketball Wives dirty.

It was obvious that she liked Money Mayweather (she built her list around him) but it's no doubt that he would do her dirty. You could tell by his body language.

So I say.... good luck Chilli. You're gonna need it!

Jaz said...

Brian! What's up!

You should write a blog on man's body language so that we women know what to look out for if a man is planning to play us. Give us some examples of his body language, cuz I didn't really pick up on it last night. I must be slow :)

JUSTBNME said...

Thanks Rameer,

This stuff is ridamndiculous!!!!

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