Monday, April 12, 2010
Did anyone watch this last night?
After watching that nonsense that was "Basketball Wives," I decided to settle in for "What Chilli Wants." Of all the bad tv I watched last night, this was the one that caught my attention. Not because it was Chilli from TLC, but because I felt that this was as show that most women could relate to. Why? Because there are a lot of women out there who have a "list."
You know what I'm talking about.
He has to be fine, taller than 6 feet, intelligent, drive this type of car, have this type of home, be athletic, love his mama, no kids, have all his teeth, and be packin'. That's not hard to find right?
What drew me in...or should I say "who" drew me in, was Tionna Smalls - the bombass wingwoman who literally felt up a man to see if he was packin' enough for Chilli since that was one of her requirements. Now THAT'S a chick to ride with! LOL!
Seriously though, I felt that she was honest and brought Chilli down a few when it came to her impossible "list." I appreciated that Tionna, T-Boz and most of all Missy Elliot ("date Jesus!"), expressed to Chilli how unrealistic she was in her requirements for a mate. I'm not saying she should settle, but if you find a man who is perfect in every way except that he eats pork, you MIGHT want to relax your standards just a bit.
There are certain things that should be dealbreakers, things you can't compromise on. Should he be intelligent? Yes. Should he have integrity? Absolutely. Should he believe in God? If God is your everything, then yes...he should. I get those things.
But if you discount a great guy because you don't share the same diet, or because he has a 4-pack instead of an 8-pack, or isn't Boris Kodjo's twin...then you might be missing out on what could be your happily ever after.
I'm curious to see how the season plays out for Chilli, as well as see what kind of advice Ms. Smalls dishes out to us ladies. Of all the shows on VH-1 that premiered last night, that was the only one I think I might come back for.
Seriously, "Basketball Wives?" How many of them were actual wives?? That nonsense may be a blog for another day. Maybe....
Anyway, do you have a list? If so, what's on it? What are traits that your mate absolutely has to have in order to win your heart? Or are you open to whatever the Universe brings your way? Let's hear it!