Tuesday, January 4, 2011

Happy New Year y’all! I hope you all had a great holiday and got to rest and relax and enjoy time with family and friends!

How appropriate is it that my first blog of 2011 falls on TMI Tuesday! I thought of asking Fury for a last minute post…or even reaching out to Domina*tricks, but a conversation with a friend prompted today’s TMI blog. If you don’t want to discuss fellatio or “going down town” as it’s commonly referred, then check back tomorrow :-)

Now, I’m not trying to be all nasty and nosey and whatnot…but how many of you engage in oral sex? If you do, do you enjoy it? If not, do you expect it done to you? Or can you take it or leave it?

The conversation I had was with a man who said he could take it or leave it. He doesn’t really do it, and if so, not often. He said he saves it for “special occasions.” However, he has no problem receiving it…loves it even. But when it comes to giving it, he says it’s something in his “bag of tricks” that he pulls out on Valentine’s Day, etc.

So my question to you all is this: is oral sex a deal breaker for you? Meaning if someone doesn’t give it or reciprocate, do you bounce? Or do you stay because the person’s other qualities more important and you can be satisfied sexually with just intercourse? Can you be totally sexually satisfied if oral sex is off the table…or sofa…or bed? ;-)

Everyone is different, so there are no right or wrong answers. Just curious….and after all…it IS TMI Tuesday! Let’s go!

-b

70 comments:

BatMan said...

Fist for 2011 BITCHES

Stef said...

DAMMIT!!! I wanted to be first this year!

Geeque said...

That's what She Said..... LOL

Geeque said...

Happy New Year to all on the Blog!! All the Best in 2011..

The Cable Guy said...

I was actually hopeing to be first this year, but this mysterious BatMan beat me too it!

Any way, to answer the questions - this dude sounds wack. No offense to your friend Brooke, but I don't know any dude who breaks out oral sex for "special occassions." Either you do it or you don't, don't pussyfoot around it (pun intended). Personally, I think any man who doesn't do it is gay, but that's just me. I can understand not doing it with certain women cuz the snatch ain't right, but if she's good down there, there's no reason not to do it...especially if she's doing it to you.

Sounds selfish to me. Just my opinion.

For the record, I love to give AND receive! I'll be down there ALL DAY if you let me, and YES, it's a deal breaker if she doesn't do it. She doesn't have to be "Superhead" but she has to at least be WILLING and enthusiastic about it. Just me.

Pretty Ricky What Dey Call'em said...

THIS IS MY FAVORITE TOPIC. HELL YEAH I DO IT!!! I LOVE IT! But the crazy thing is... I don't particularly care if it's one to me or not. Is that weird? Maybe Mr. Snickers is spoiled... but their is nothing like being in some nice warm va jay jay (Anything else is uncicilized...LOL)
Booty, mouth, titties, feet..it's all cool... but Mr. Snickers is very goal oriented. But anyway... back to the topic. I love to give it..because I love the response!!!

Stef said...

Who IS BatMan anyway? :)

Brooke, sadly I must agree with Cable Dude (my new year's resolution is to be nicer to him. Not nice...but "nicer"). If he loves to receive it but doesn't give it, then he's selfish. And what's with this Valentine's Day crap? Sounds suspect to me.

I love to give and receive...and if I give and he doesn't, then it's a dealbreaker. Sex is very important in a relationship. It's not everything, but it means a lot for both people to be satisfied.

However, it clearly sounds like dude doesn't like giving it, which is fine I'm sure for some women, but not me. He should just be honest about not liking it because there really is no in between. That special occasion stuff sounds bogus to me. I didn't love doing it at first, but mainly cuz I had to get used to it and not CHOKE! But once I mastered my breathing, it was ON!

Brooke said...

How did I know Pretty Ricky would make a special appearance for this topic? :-)

Stef said...

"Mr. Snickers"? LOL!

Mr. Nice Guy said...

Now Now, let's not be too hasty in judging him. Not ALL men love to give oral sex, just like not all women love to do it. But I WILL say that he DOES sound selfish if he doesn't reciprocate. If he doesn't like to do it, he should just say so (because honestly, say what you want, but he DOES NOT like doing it) and keep it moving and he shouldn't accept it unless for some stranger reason she doesn't like receiving it.

It's not a dealbreaker per se, but if my girl didn't do that, I'd wonder why and if she was repressed sexually or a prude. Other qualities are important though and if I was satisfied sexually in every other way, then I guess I could live without it. Would be hard, but possible.

The Cable Guy said...

@Stef,

My new year's resolution is to not pay attention to any haters! :) LOL!

CorporateDiva said...

I give, occassionally, and receive as given. Not a big deal or dealbreaker either way as long as I'm satisfied and my partner is satisfied.

Cause honestly, nothing beats proper penetration.

Happy New Year!

Tony said...

@ Batman....are you saying that you have a fist for 2011 bitches? Damn! Talk about TMI! (Just kidding)

Ok Brooke, the short answer is that I LOVE to give it and don't need to receive it at all to be sexually satisfied. I guess I fall into the "Weird Brotha" category but that'is nothing new. There have been times when that is all I wanted to do, eat and run so to speak.

BatMan said...

@Stef - Batman likes your comment on the issue!! :-)

Pretty Ricky What Dey Call'em said...

LOL @Brooke...you see how fast i logged in. LMAO!!!! Man i just burped thinking about it!

Pretty Ricky What Dey Call'em said...

@Tony... We must both be from the weird brother tribe.Cuz I can do it.. and fall right off to sleep... like I got a whole bunch!

Brooke said...

Pretty Ricky, you stupid :)

Tony, I know plenty of guys who like to eat and run...not weird at all :-)

and yes...nothing beats proper penetration :)

The Licker said...

Doesnt matter if she does it in return. The kitty kat must get licked!!!

The Fury said...

I love to give because I love to please. I wouldn't have sex with a woman I didn't feel comfortable giving oral sex. That's like driving a car and never taking it on the highway. I'll pass.

It's not a deal breaker if you don't like to give but...chances are that deal will be broken eventually.

Tony said...

@ Ricky and Brooke - I'm glad that I am not weird or, if I am i am in the "Weird Brotha" tribe with other members.

To me, the best part of sex (oral, anal, vaginal or whatever) is watching her blast off like the Space Shuttle! I know as a man that I am going to get mine but to look down and see a sweaty, panting, gelatinous blob of satisfied woman.....That's all I need!

Stephanie said...

Happy New year to all. it's been a while. I hate to say it but I'm a selfish heffa. I only like to do it when I'm in the mood. Ladies do u ever wake up with the urge to suck your man off, I mean really slob that knob. That's when I'm at my best and go to town. The other day my man says " Babe you sucked me off so good I wanted to throw up it was so fucken good I couldn't even see straight for a minute." My man would like more but if he gets sucked off times a month that A Lot.I've always felt I ride good dick and suck dick just OK. My fiance says my head game is tight I'm just not in the mood to do it.And i hate when he ask 4 it.I feel obligated when he asks. Don't you want your girl to have the desire to suck you off. or would you just rather be sucked off? I know it's purely selfish on my part but what's a girl 2 do.

Tony said...

um....damn!

LockSmiff said...

Brooke,

I love to give & receive. More giving than receiving. But real talk, as long as she finishes me off with "The Lock", I'm good!!!


LOL

Happy New Year

The Fury said...

@Stephanie _ She definitely has to be in the mood otherwise I can't stand a perfunctory suck job. That's worse than none at all.

Anonymous said...

I see we have a few people who love to lick/suck vajayjay's and chick-o-sticks.

But, who amongst the group, is willing to admit that they lick/suck assholes?

Raise your hand if your into Rim shots!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

Also excuse the grammatical errors.

:-)

Brooke said...

LMAO @ "gelatinous" and "perfunctory" LOL! Good words!

@Stephanie, I agree...you have to be in the mood....I'm just rarely NOT in the mood ;-)


As for rim shots...wow. That's gotta be special :-) LOL!

Tony said...

Got me there too! Most people don't realize how sensitive an asshole is to a tongue. All day and all night....

Domina*tricks said...

It's TMI Tuesday, so you know I had to check in.

Brooke, your friend does not like giving oral sex. I won't go so far as to say he's gay...but he is :)

Joking aside, if a man likes doing it, he will. He won't ration it out on special occasions. He's making excuses because he doesn't like to do it. That's fine, but man up and say it.

As you can probably guess, I LOVE to give AND receive...both men AND women. I prefer to give oral sex to a woman, because I know EXACTLY what she likes and will respond to as a woman myself. But I can send a man to the moon too, trust.

Happy New Year everyone! Maybe this year Brooke will let me show her my oral skills ;)

Domina*tricks said...

Oh, and if you women aren't licking your man's ass as you jerk him off, then you have no idea what you're missing. Men love that, and if they say they don't, it's because they're afraid of being labeled as gay.

Tony said...

@ Domina*Tricks - Bless you! Women listen to her! Lick that ass! I admit I love that shit! It'll make a man squeal like a pig!

Jay said...

Interesting conversation today :)

Happy New Year Brooke and everyone!

Brooke, your friend doesn't like to do it, so he shouldn't ration it out, he should just never do it at all. Now, if he can find a woman who is willing to give and not receive, so be it. But he DOES sound a bit selfish.

It's not a dealbreaker for me, but I'd perfer to be with a woman who was sexually free and willing to please, mainly because I'm the same way. If I know going down is something my woman would like me to do, I can't say no, not if I love her. I know not EVERYONE can get done, but if she's MY woman, I'm down there all day everyday.

Brooke, you never answered your own questions.

The Fury said...

@Brookey - rarely NOT in the mood, huh...*fans self* Oh MY MY MY!

@Anonymous - rimshots...I agree with Brooke, that's a special wild out moment there preferably after a shower or bath and some liquor. LOL

Brooke said...

@Fury,

You already know... ;)

@Jay,

I love to give and receive. I love pleasing my partner, and if I really care about you, there's not much I won't try to do to make sure he's satisfied. I'm not saying I'd do ANYTHING, but within reason...which is relative to everyone.

As for a dealbreaker, it's not really one as long as I feel fulfilled in other ways. Besides, if a man has to ration it out, it's because he doesn't like doing it, in which case he's probably not that good at it and I don't want you down there anyway. Good oral sex is usually good because the person is comfortable and willing, so if you're not comfortable down there, then don't go down there. I'd rather you not.

Anonymous said...

OMG...

All y'all crazy. But Real Talk...the truth shall set you free. Myself, I LOVE to clean her out til' she's squeaky. Nothing like giving a woman multiple orgasms and cleaning up the mess you made.

Anonymous said...

@ Brooke,

That's why I still love you. Because you know how to treat yo' man. Big Ups!

Anonymous said...

@ Brooke,

Big Ups and Downs:)......

The Cable Guy said...

I thought Brooke wasn't answering because her big cousin Tony was on the blog today :)

But yes, I agree anonymous...Brooke seems to know how to treat a man. I just wish that man was ME! Whoever he is is one lucky bastard.

Anonymous said...

@ Cable Guy

Hell yeah she does! I used to know first hand...which is why I still Love her!

The Cable Guy said...

...wait, anonymous "still" loves Brooke? Nobody is allowed to proclaim their love for Brooke except me! :)

Tony said...

@ Cable Guy - How you been man Happy New Year. i don't think Brooks is worried about my being here. Actually, she knows that I am a giant freak myself and that she can't possibly surprise me! :)

@ Anonymous I picked up on two things you said. 1) you like to "clean" her out and 2) you like to clean the "mess" you made.....Just out of curiosity are you talking about licking her AFTER you're finished in there?

Brooke said...

@Cable Guy,

I'm grown :-)

I can't believe I'll be 38...I mean, 27....next month ;)

The Cable Guy said...

@Tony,

I've been good man, just living. We missed you on the blog, I remember your stories TOO well :)

How are the wife and kids? Do you have an extra baby yet? I know you said your wife would have a baby for Brooke if she wanted to, but I'm working on that myself ;) Put in a good word for me ;)

Where are Yolanda, Serena and Rameer today? I guess fellatio is too sensitive of a subject for them to start off the new year LOL!

Tony said...

@Cable Guy - Everyone is good down here. I'm glad my stories burned themselves into your memory. I was MIA because my job cracked down on personal internet usage but they messed around and let me work from home so now I pretty much do whatever I feel like doing. No babies.......yet. I am still fighting a losing battle. :)

Brooke said...

@Cable Guy and Tony,

She can still have a baby for me, they make pretty babies ;-)

Jay said...

@Brooke,

You don't look a day over 25 :)

Tony said...

@ Brooke! Hell Naw! You don't have to live with that woman when her hormones get out of whack! but thanks for the compliment on our babies looking good....JUST like their Daddy!

Anonymous said...

@ Tony

Nope, not that. I consider it "My Mess" when "I" can get her to spill her contents for "ME" therefore making it "MY MESS". You feel me, bruh?

Stef said...

@Anonymous,

Okay, so if Brooke knows how to treat a man and you still love her, then why aren't you with her now?

@Cable Guy, I can see it's gonna be hard for me to keep my resolution :) She STILL don't want you man!

Tony said...

@ Anonymous - I feel you on your mess and I hope you didn't think that I was coming at you disrespectfully that was not my intention. The reason behind my question is that I have heard of a lot of men in the past few years that get into doing that. To each his/her own, but I wanted to hear what the turn on was for those who do it.

Tony said...

@ Cable Guy - you got me blessing man! (for what that's worth :)

Anonymous said...

@ Stef

Because I was a jerk, had nothing to do with her. Just stupid! No excuses or long dragged out explanations...Just stupid!

Anonymous said...

@ Tony

No offense taken bruh. That's just how I talk, we tend to let our own sentence stylings take over when on the net. But, I take no offense to anything said because I feel it its all education (either for yourself or the other your speaking with).

As for those who get into the other thing you mentioned, to each his own. I don't knock it...I just don't do it.

Stef said...

@Anonymous,

Oh well, sorry to hear that. I guess you messed it up for stupid jerks like Cable Guy LOL!!!

Couldn't resist... :-)

Rameer The Circumstance said...

2011 - And I'm ready for any backlash to my comments...

Do I give and receive? Short answer - yes. But I have no desire to do it with a woman unless we've been together for a while, and I truly want to fully please her. To me, going down on a woman is for a woman who is either my girl or we're mutually exclusive and I KNOW her habits, have full knowledge of her STD status, etc. That may seem extreme, but so be it.

I'm old school. Without getting into a long explanation, in my city, as we grew up - there were certain things that were like absolute no-no's. Eating kitty was one of them. That was for married men when I was little...and if someone even ACCUSED you of doing it, it was regarded as so disrespectful, you had to whoop dude's arse. Like, it didn't even come up as a subject - true spit. I didn't meet dudes who were like "I love that ish!" until I went to college - where most of the men of color were from NYC, and them dudes would grab any girl off the dance floor at the party and lick her the same night. YUCK. My attitude obviously changed as I matured, but I'm not ready to just do that with a chick I meet.

It might sound backwards, but I'll strap on a condom and hit it before I put my snout in it, unless I'm at ease with who she is, done my homework, and know we're exclusive. But once I'm good on that end, I have no issue doing it. As far as receiving, it's cool - I like it, don't get me wrong. But I won't bust from it. In fact, there are very few women who have EVER made me bust from it, no matter how good it is. But I enjoy it, no doubt!

As far as arse-licking???

YUCK!!!

One of my boys had that done eons ago, and told the rest of our crew about how crazy it was and how good it felt. I wasn't havin' it, refused to allow it and told him I wouldn't even mess with a girl who tried to do that to me. Why, he asked - cuz it's AN ASS, bruh! He tried to hit me with that "well, I clean my ass good" ish. So I hit him like this...

I told him to go home and take the dopest shower he's ever taken. Clean the ass, pull out the most expensive enema, dry yourself off after everything - hell, spray floral perfume in your arsehole if you like! I don't give a eff. After all of that...

Wait 15 minutes. Stick a finger in your arsehole and tell me what you smell when you smell that finger.

Uh-huh. That's what I THOUGHT. It's a cavity used to get rid of WASTE - ass is ASS. And any woman who would stick her tongue in my arsehole and then expect to kiss me ever again...she's got a better chance of kissing THE SUN than me.

My 75 cents...

Jaz said...

Hi everyone! I'm back!

I'm lost in all the "clean up your mess" talk between Anonymous and Brooke's cousin Tony (I have to say it like that :) LOL! Is that code for something else..."mess"?

As for your friend Brooke, I agree with everyone else, he doesn't like doing it. Nothing wrong with it, he just won't admit it.

I love doing it, love receiving it, but like Stephanie says, it's better when the mood strikes and no one makes you feel abligated to do it. And I'm sorry, it's a dealbreaker for me if he doesn't do it.

Anonymous said...

@ Rameer

Hey Rameer, my drill sergeant in the military used to say to me "How can you put your d*&k in something you haven't tasted first?" Of course he use to say that shit to me because I was only 18 years old and didn't know you could put your tongue there;)

The Cable Guy said...

I'm with Rameer on this one, not big on a chick putting her tongue in my ass.

@Stef,

Here YOU go.

Rameer The Circumstance said...

@ Anonymous - WOW. That's a hell of a line...lmao! Woulda made any dude think about that too...

Like "Hmm...he does kinda have a point..." Lmfao!!!

Geeque said...

@Rameer- I am on the floor in my cubicle dying of laughter after reading your comment!! LOL

Anonymous said...

3) I'm too old (37) to do that rim shot fuckery. I did it in my youth when I was a freaky whore. Now, I'm refined and don't like the taste of ass in my mouth. I'm offended when I even get a wiff of ass while I'm down there doing ball duty. No man's ass is that clean. NO MAN! (Or woman) Unless you can tolerate the flavor-- yes! FLAVOR of ass.. just say no. I'm with you Rameer.. it can never be clean enough for me to ever do that again. You are using your taste buds to taste shit. Why?! You are welcome to find some other chick to do that for you, cause I'm not doing it. And I don't need that done to me. Leave my asshole alone. You don't have to stick a tongue in it, a finger, and damn sure not a dick. I'm good on EXIT ONLY! F-dat shit! I'm good!

Yolanda said...

Happy New Year everybody.

That's all I've got on this topic. LOL

The Cable Guy said...

awww, come on Yolanda! LOL!

Happy New Year to you too!

Anonymous said...

opps.. 1) and 2) got cut off.. here is a recap:

1) if you want a lick, you have to give a lick. no freebies! I love getting it and giving it. If the dude has a nice juicy dick, its even better. If he knows how to use his tongue, I'mma cum. Nothing is worse than someone who does it and doesn't enjoy it.. please just step aside and let someo other man do it right. Remember, what you won't do.. another man will.

2) We women need to start sticking our pussies up in mens faces when we want it licked, just like they do to us. Slightly off topic, but I was reminded by this convo of several occasions of a dick hitting me in the damn face as if I just live to suck dick. NOT! Especially if I don't get licked right. Its annoying.. please take note men. Beware of Pussies in your Face cumming real soon! ;)

Brooke said...

"doing ball duty" LMAO!!

hahahahahahahahahahahahaha!

The Cable Guy said...

well damn!

This female anonymous is OFF THE CHAIN...but hey, it IS TMI Tuesday, and please...feel free to stick a pussy in my face :)

Stef said...

OMG!!! Preach Anonymous Girl!

I HATE when a dude puts his dick in my face. So rude! Let ME do it. I don't need no damn help!

Tony said...

Hey , I'm 42 and I'm NEVER too old to lick Pussy, Asshole, Tities, Feet shit I don't care, if it's attached to the woman that I'm feeling at the moment them I'm straight licking it down. Never had an ass that was stinking and don't know what shit tastes like. Ass does have a flavor but it's no worse that licking any other piece of skin on a woman. If it's 'clean there is no funky taste. So for today's TMI Tuesday, I declare myself the nastiest, booty lickinest, freakiest cat on here! Long live the FREAK! PEACE! LMBAO....

Rameer The Circumstance said...

ROTFLMMFBAO @ Anonymous...

Give yourself an alias, though. I HATE "anonymous" - when more than one person uses it, you can't tell who is saying what...

Brooke said...

I'm STILL laughing :-) LOL!

I know who the female anonymous is, but no idea about the other two :)

Today's TMI Tuesday was so much fun! Thanks everyone for a brightening up my day :-)

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