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Happy Tuesday!

I hope everyone had a great Memorial Day weekend! I'm still in the DR with Pretty Ricky annem - returning today :-( - so my guest today is your boy Anthony "Latinegro" Otero! Holla!



Man Rules - Chapter 1: Women vs. The Boys



I don't talk about being a man very much. Quite frankly, because I don't want to get into a discussion about what a real man is. It's like trying to prove that humans are perfect. I will say that there are certain rules that men have to adhere to when it comes to each other - especially if they're your boys! Some of the rules are unspoken rules that are simply observed by almost every male and his close friends.

I've decided that every so often I will discuss Man Rules on my blog, Inside My Head. As a special treat, I will debut this right here on Brooke's Blog.

Today, I will talk about one thing: Women. How can women can fuck up a perfectly good friendship or at least piss off your boys long enough so that they will avoid you for long periods of time? Women vs. The Boys.

Now, this is my perspective as a Latino Male. These are the things I live by when it comes to close friends. I'm not talking about associates or guys that don't really chill with one another. Rules...

Never - and I do mean NEVER - let a woman come between you and your boys. Just don't do it. This rule is not a soft rule. This is a SOLID rule. Most men know that when you're married, or at least dating, there are only certain amounts of time that they can chill with the boys. There is no way to compete with the love and affection (and ass) that a woman can provide. We have no issues with that. As a matter of fact, we are happy about that. If you have a woman, that means that you're getting what you need.

But if there comes a time when you're slated to hang out with your boy(s), then that becomes "man time." That means that all parties involved inform their ladies that they're hanging out with the boys. This way, there is no miscommunication as to what's happening. Please make sure that certain things are done to ensure that "man time" is NOT interrupted. Here are two basic suggestions:

1. Make sure that if you have a dog, child, or any chores that need to be done, they're taken care of. We don't want to witness fights or general nagging from her.

2. Make sure that your woman is aware of your intention to hang out with the boys. Phone calls from a yelling wife demanding your return is not taken lightly by the fellas.

Don't take offense when you're called out because you're whipped. It happens. Most guys who are in a real relationship are whipped. We know this - we just pick on the one who is whipped the most. In fact, the whole concept of having a woman is to be whipped. Women can be the best thing in our lives, and guys know this. Do you think most will admit it? To each other? I don't think so. Just as long as you still give the boys respect, we're good.

If you have a new girl, please expect us to make fun of her. Nothing personal, we don't know how long it'll take before you do something so wrong that you mess it up. So, to us she is just another person in your life. We will eventually know how serious you are about her. If you tell us all the freaky shit she does in bed or with her tongue, then chances are....you are NOT trying to wife her. Now, if you're all on that new shit about not telling your boys anything, then that is whole different situation.

I bring all of this up because once a man selects his circle of friends, he rarely changes it. The friendships that are made in college are going to be the same friends that he will have by the time he is 40. After the age of 30, men don't try to find more friends. While they can spend their whole life looking for that perfect woman, they can be pretty content with their same group of friends. Most men are fickle. They will keep their boys close until something outlandish happens.

Which brings me back to my point. Do NOT let a woman come in between you and your boys. If you're both feeling the same girl, the person who ends up with her is the "winner." Don't go behind his back and try to screw around (even if the attraction is mutual). That is a cardinal sin and will lead to fists being thrown. At the same time, don't entertain the notion of dating your boy's ex-girlfriend. That may lead down a path you are SO not ready for. The last thing you want to do is get it into your head that she is comparing because chances are...she is.

A bond between boys is something that is not easily broken - and if it IS broken easily, then the bond wasn't really there to begin with. Wouldn't you agree?

-Ant aka "Latinegro"