Tuesday, October 26, 2010
Yesterday as I was lurking on Facebook, I read a status that said, on average, people tell about 4 lies a day. I actually thought that number was pretty low - but then again, I thought to myself, "I don't lie that many times a day...if at all." Or do I...?
Coworker: "How are you today Brooke?"
My reply: "I'm great!"
But I was really tired as all hell yesterday, and irritable because I was told I had to pay an extra $252 to fix the power steering on my car after I had already shelled out close to a grand on Saturday to fix a problem with my exhaust system. So I was not "great" at all. But I said I was...
Is that a lie?
Yes, it was.
But I'm the type to try my best to be positive, even when I don't feel like it. After all, I don't have to make everyone else miserable or unload all of my problems on anyone else just because I'm having a bad day. Right? So in instances like that, is telling a little lie okay?
Coworker: "I've lost weight, can't you tell?"
Me: "Sure, keep it up!"
But what I really wanted to say was, "No, I don't see it...as a matter of fact...you look heavier."
But why would I say something so mean and tactless? I'm not one to try to hurt someone's feelings, and when put on the spot, sometimes there's no "creative way" to tell the truth without making someone want to punch you in the face...or run crying in a corner. I'd simply rather encourage you, even if it means telling a little fib. But is that wrong?
My sister is one of those people who tells you the truth whether you want to hear it or not. If your outfit is wack or your makeup looks busted...you'll know it. I don't think she could lie even if she wanted to. She wears the truth on her face. And even though I've gotten my feelings hurt many times because of her brutal honesty, I always appreciated that she never let me go outside looking crazy because she cared enough to tell me that my jeans were too tight, that I could benefit from swiping on some lip gloss real quick, that I should run a comb through my hair or get my upper lip and eyebrows waxed. She was telling me the truth because she loved me...
and because she would probably be embarrassed to be seen with me in public looking like "hobo scratch." (her line...not mine)
So what type of "liar" are you? Do you lie to spare people's feelings? Or do you lie to keep from being caught cheating on your boo? ;-)
Do you only tell the painful truth to people you love or who you know can handle it? Are you the type to only be receptive to the truth if it's coming from a friend or loved one? Would you appreciate being lied to if it means sparing your feelings, or do you appreciate the truth no matter who is telling it?
Or are you one of those people who claim to NEVER lie?
Cuz if you are...that's a lie right there :-) LOL!