tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post847684060445316173..comments2024-02-02T01:18:39.737-05:00Comments on Brookey's Cafe Blog: Do You Care What Your Friends Think?Brookehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-45872812902293762342011-10-18T17:02:15.775-04:002011-10-18T17:02:15.775-04:00I care what my family thinks, which is why it'...I care what my family thinks, which is why it's a big deal if I bring a woman around. But that's because my family has shown consistent, rational judgement and I know they have my back and want to see me happy. If for a second I thought they were conspiring against me, family or not, I'd tell them to keep their opinions to themselves.<br /><br />I don't think a woman has ever not given me the time of day or dumped because of my job or how much money I had, or didn't have, but I have dated women who were constantly telling our business to her friends...and they would promptly add their two cents. I didn't like that, because they were usually only getting half the story, or simply listening to her rant when I forgot to take out the trash or something. That's when your friends can misguide you, so sometimes you just gotta keep your mouth closed and your friends out our business.Jaynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-15270876805594302162011-10-18T16:51:55.990-04:002011-10-18T16:51:55.990-04:00I agree with you Serena, we women tend to share to...I agree with you Serena, we women tend to share too much. I guess it's in our nature...unless he did a stint in jail or something. Then we keep him as our dirty little secret :)<br /><br />I think we use our men as accessories sometimes to impress other women, not for our own happiness. It's like saying if we have a man with a certain status, he validates us, rather than having a good man period.Stefnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-10093117447819474572011-10-18T15:20:16.980-04:002011-10-18T15:20:16.980-04:00I've known tons of women to judge a man by his...I've known tons of women to judge a man by his occupation. Judging both good and bad. You still have to get to the core of a person and not just their resume. Friends can lead you down a wrong path based on bias.There's a difference between being a counselor and a conspirator.The Furyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16145614924246887651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-62146954599279156612011-10-18T14:48:40.334-04:002011-10-18T14:48:40.334-04:00Okay, I'm back.
As a guy, I've never care...Okay, I'm back.<br /><br />As a guy, I've never cared, nor have any of my boys, cared about who our friends dated so long as he was happy. I've had my opinions of some women (ie: fine, but CRAZY like Fury said), but I kept my opinion to myself cuz at the end of the day, it's his life and if he's happy, or not, he's a grown man and can make his own decisions. We find out when a woman isn't good for us and we let her go, and if we don't, it's our own lesson to learn. No one needs to influence me one way or another.<br /><br />Now, as for women, I've had women dump me because their girls or their mom didn't think they should be dating a "cable guy." I've dated women who were in corporate america and liked me for the man I was first, but then let others influence them as to what kind of life I could provide, or NOT provide, how smart I must be, or NOT be, because I didn't work on Wall Street or have a masters degree. So they left for something "better" only to be calling me 6 months later wondering if we could "hang out."<br /><br />uh...no thanks. <br /><br />If a woman can't like or love me for me, then she isn't the one, but it IS frustrating to have to deal with a woman AND all her friends and family. I know we care what those closest to us think, but if you know your friends or family are coming from a shallow place, then it's up to you to DO YOU and live your life and be happy. <br /><br />My two cents.The Cable Guynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-61638400241028416602011-10-18T14:15:29.805-04:002011-10-18T14:15:29.805-04:00Why do we as women care so freaking much? Sigh...
...Why do we as women care so freaking much? Sigh...<br /><br />I will say this...we are guilty of telling our friends too much about what's going on inside the dating or even relationship. We share WAY to much! Heck I'm guilty of it too.<br /><br />But I'm at the point where if he makes her happy then I'm happy. I'm done with wanting to know all the ins and outs!<br /><br />I never ended a relationship because of what people thought. But if the dude was a scumbag I wish I would have listened to folks like my mother sooner!Serena W.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08899725312118622702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-71455567999450354082011-10-18T14:09:41.289-04:002011-10-18T14:09:41.289-04:00It's a thin line, because a lot of times my cl...It's a thin line, because a lot of times my close friends and family can see things I can't see because I'm blinded by love. It's happened before. But when it comes to some "friends" they just don't want to see you happy and want you all to themselves. Being able to tell the difference is key, like you said.Courtneynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-50178207206854937972011-10-18T13:57:42.789-04:002011-10-18T13:57:42.789-04:00I had an ex break up with me because her mother di...I had an ex break up with me because her mother didn't approve. It was such a silly self-hated reason too. After her daughter went through a few men who were what her momma thought was best and they all ended up being scumbags, the mother came to me apologizing. I gave her the stone face and shrugged. <br /><br />Ladies, sometimes your friends and family are just wrong. Don't let them live your life.The Furyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16145614924246887651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-44769654061863728662011-10-18T13:42:17.924-04:002011-10-18T13:42:17.924-04:00The Fury pretty much put my thoughts out there - a...The Fury pretty much put my thoughts out there - and Brooke-Ra, you're right - as long as he's happy and there's no red flags, guys are good with who their boy(s) is/are dating.Rameer The ILLAbstractnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-86698332119072675452011-10-18T13:31:04.576-04:002011-10-18T13:31:04.576-04:00Good one today - I'll be back to answer!Good one today - I'll be back to answer!The Cable Guynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-28396901755730217412011-10-18T13:27:34.430-04:002011-10-18T13:27:34.430-04:00I take the opinion of my friends/family etc into a...I take the opinion of my friends/family etc into account, but I make my own decisions. <br /><br />Do I care what they think? Definitely. <br /><br />Have I flaunted the fine ass woman of the moment in front of them? Yes m'am.<br /><br />Did I care if they thought she was stuck up? Nope. She probably was.<br /><br />Did I hide the less than dime chick? No. Did I take her where she'd feel insecure around the fine ass ex? No. Why? Because that's annoying for ME!<br /><br />As for my boys, I care mostly that they're being treated well and they honestly like the chick. If she's fine, but an idiot or fine and crazy (often the case) then I'll just give her the cool response.The Furyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16145614924246887651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-68320470844545494212011-10-18T13:26:25.451-04:002011-10-18T13:26:25.451-04:00DAMMIT!!!
I was too busy reading the blog!
Good ...DAMMIT!!!<br /><br />I was too busy reading the blog!<br /><br />Good question today Brooke! <br /><br />I've been guilty of caring too much what others thought of the guy I was dating, and I think I subconsciously sabotaged the relationship because of it :(Stefnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-27565281155116557312011-10-18T13:22:12.389-04:002011-10-18T13:22:12.389-04:00First for you bitches!First for you bitches!The Furyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16145614924246887651noreply@blogger.com