tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post4636512966406555337..comments2024-02-02T01:18:39.737-05:00Comments on Brookey's Cafe Blog: Dear Brookey...Sexless.Brookehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comBlogger65125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-70048382798056281912010-07-21T18:59:38.128-04:002010-07-21T18:59:38.128-04:00You're welcome sexless. Check out that belly d...You're welcome sexless. Check out that belly dancing doctor. I heard she knows her stuff ;) she also has products that help cleanse the body, etc to help even things out.<br /><br />Any resources I know I'm happy to share. Be blessed!Serena W.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08899725312118622702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-24448463438294223362010-07-21T18:50:35.231-04:002010-07-21T18:50:35.231-04:00You're welcome Sexless, I sincerely wish you g...You're welcome Sexless, I sincerely wish you good luck with everything :)Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-29798106447682050012010-07-21T18:49:18.774-04:002010-07-21T18:49:18.774-04:00I wanted to wait til the end of the day to respond...I wanted to wait til the end of the day to respond to the comments. Thank you Brooke for addressing my letter and sharing with the blog. While I believe some were a bit harsh and judgmental, I appreciate all the comments and advice given - especially yours Brooke...as well as Courtney, Jay, and Serena. Craig, you're funny :)<br /><br />I'll take all that was said into consideration and draw from the positive responses. Thanks again for your help and feedback Brooke!Sexlessnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-72865176812652287812010-07-21T18:44:56.927-04:002010-07-21T18:44:56.927-04:00oh yeah Happy Birthday Rameer!oh yeah Happy Birthday Rameer!The Furyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16145614924246887651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-12888960568662805452010-07-21T18:44:09.463-04:002010-07-21T18:44:09.463-04:00I know I'm late...but I KNOW you didn't th...I know I'm late...but I KNOW you didn't think this was flying by the radar of The Fury!<br /><br />Most glaring to me is that"Sexless" is very intimate with her man while not wanting actual sex.<br /><br />I think this has something to do with their relationship and definitely her view on sex. Sure some of us have healthier sexual appetites than others, but being SO easy going about going SO long without sex raises red flags.<br /><br />Assuming she's below 40 and not pre-menopausal there's some health or mental issue here.<br /><br />If her man doesn't have naturally lower sex drive he's fucking someone else or is considering it.The Furyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16145614924246887651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-7840140371889875962010-07-21T18:40:16.089-04:002010-07-21T18:40:16.089-04:00great advice Serena - maybe she needs a female via...great advice Serena - maybe she needs a female viagra or some stimulating gel :) Her doctor should be able to assess what's best :)Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-66681832775121804682010-07-21T18:34:29.523-04:002010-07-21T18:34:29.523-04:00Hey everyone. I've gone a while (currently) wi...Hey everyone. I've gone a while (currently) without having any but I don't have a man/fiancee nor husband either.<br /><br />Why you may ask? I know what I want. I'm ready to meet someone who shares the same goals, dreams, spirituality, etc as me.<br /><br />Now have I been with someone and gone a long time...no unless the relationship was heading to a tragic end.<br /><br />I would advise sexless to speak with her gyn doctor.<br /><br />Also there are "products" she can look into. I know the belly dancing doctor down here in dc that's on the Baisden show has talked a lot about this. Her name is Dr. Sunyatta or Senyatta.<br /><br />If it is emotional then sexless knows deep within what's going on and should seek help.<br /><br />That's my 2 cents.<br /><br />Happy Birthday Rameer! Dry freeze a slice of cake and send it to VA!Serena W.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08899725312118622702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-89696761247737096712010-07-21T18:25:58.337-04:002010-07-21T18:25:58.337-04:00Yolanda, you've never had a boyfriend? Hogwash...Yolanda, you've never had a boyfriend? Hogwash! :)<br /><br />But Brooke is right. We'll reap all the benefits of a relationship without calling it one - because we're scared, punks, or want to keep sexing other people while we "wife" you up...but don't call you "wifey." It's messed up, but that's what a lot of men do.<br /><br />Three years is a long time, but more women should value that part of themselves, so that's commendable that you won't lay down with just anyone. Friends with benefits can get REAL STICKY if you're not careful, so it's best to just leave it alone and go without sometimes.Jaynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-71337187541582878002010-07-21T18:25:42.248-04:002010-07-21T18:25:42.248-04:00My name is anonymous and I. A sex addictMy name is anonymous and I. A sex addictAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-33725019651701268692010-07-21T18:22:13.942-04:002010-07-21T18:22:13.942-04:00I totally feel you on that Yolanda, really. It'...I totally feel you on that Yolanda, really. It's just a waste of time...and I find that a lot of men always have commitment or emotional issues - but never get tired or have any issues with sex :) Funny how that works right? :) The friends with benefits thing gets tired really quick.<br /><br />I still find it hard to believe you've never had a boyfriend. Maybe you have and you just didn't know it :) And I also find that a lot of people really ARE in relationships, but never want to label it as such. Just my opinion :)Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-91831595024278520772010-07-21T18:17:12.815-04:002010-07-21T18:17:12.815-04:00I've gone as long as 3 yrs without sex. It'...I've gone as long as 3 yrs without sex. It's usually because there's no man around. I've never had an actual 'boyfriend' so the men in my life have always boiled down to friends with benefits, truthfully. There have been occasions where I've said screw it, I'm not pursuing sex with someone who doesn't want me ALL the time. But more often then not, it's because there's nothing happening in the man department. As I've gotten older though, like Brooke mentioned, I've grown very tired of prolonging things with someone who just wants to keep it casual. That's my current dilemma actually.Yolandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12522625214853436462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-75561983264342624732010-07-21T17:43:56.670-04:002010-07-21T17:43:56.670-04:00I'm late to this, but good conversation as usu...I'm late to this, but good conversation as usual. <br /><br />Craig is a fool! :) He keeps me in STITCHES! When are we getting another guest blog from you Craig?<br /><br />I think Sexless needs to explore why her sex drive is so low. It could be a hormonal thing, a physical thing or an emotional thing. But none of us are wired the same. I think Brooke's suggestions are good ones and hopefully those will help after she's explored other possible reasons.<br /><br />Not ALL dudes cheat on women they love. We can't make those assumptions simply because we don't see ourselves in this scenario. I think Courtney makes some valid points, I think all of you do...but unless you know firsthand the circumstances, then we shouldn't judge. I love that Brooke can be objective and consider all points before giving rushed and judgemental advice. We just simply don't know.<br /><br />To answer your question B, I've never purposely abstained from sex for any reason, but I can see it changing after marriage, kids, etc. If you want to keep it fresh, then I think having sex everyday can actually be a bad thing. I LOVE steak, but I might not want it everyday, or else I'd get tired of it. But if I ate it 3 or 4 times a week, then I might never tire of it. Same with sex...maybe.<br /><br />Who knows, I love sex way too much to abstain for too long, but none of us are the same and that doesn't mean something is right or wrong with any of us here.<br /><br />Great blog B.Jaynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-66233244498560771932010-07-21T17:36:01.110-04:002010-07-21T17:36:01.110-04:00(Blushing) @ Court....;-)(Blushing) @ Court....;-)Craig n 'emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06505418409919391082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-29894683954460547572010-07-21T17:24:37.774-04:002010-07-21T17:24:37.774-04:00Oh, and thank you too Craig! :)Oh, and thank you too Craig! :)Courtneynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-47919283223804122922010-07-21T17:13:15.502-04:002010-07-21T17:13:15.502-04:00Um, aren't you gonna' thank me too, Court?...Um, aren't you gonna' thank me too, Court?Craig n 'emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06505418409919391082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-23190307214324705002010-07-21T17:05:18.698-04:002010-07-21T17:05:18.698-04:00Thanks Stef and Brooke :)
Again, I know sex is im...Thanks Stef and Brooke :)<br /><br />Again, I know sex is important, but finding that special someone is more important...and sex I think gets in the way of really getting to know someone.<br /><br />Good luck "Sexless" and great blog Brooke!Courtneynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-75944130023820929352010-07-21T16:59:41.222-04:002010-07-21T16:59:41.222-04:00@Courtney,
Don't let these horny fools make y...@Courtney,<br /><br />Don't let these horny fools make you feel some kinda way :) You make total sense, just like Craig said :)Stefnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-81412124588543859812010-07-21T16:53:13.593-04:002010-07-21T16:53:13.593-04:00I'm going home.. TO BONE MY FIANCEE..LOL
***D...I'm going home.. TO BONE MY FIANCEE..LOL<br /><br />***Drops the mic & exits the building***Annamarianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-68965329547617208072010-07-21T16:53:01.552-04:002010-07-21T16:53:01.552-04:00I do like to have sex. A lot of it if I'm luck...I do like to have sex. A lot of it if I'm lucky enough, but I've been in great relationships where sex wasn't the focal point. I dated a guy for 3 years - I lived in Philly and he lived in Brooklyn at the time, so we only had sex when we saw each other on weekends, and sometimes that would mean sex every other weekend...if that. <br /><br />Granted, it was a long distance relationship, but the sex clearly wasn't what kept us together that long...so I see Courtney's points. Courtney isn't saying that sex isn't important, she's saying it shouldn't be what keeps you together or breaks you up. It's not what your relationship should be buit on. Like I said in the blog, great sex can come from great relationships, but great relationships don't always come from great sex. I think she makes alot of sense actually.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-47492880724942410002010-07-21T16:50:56.216-04:002010-07-21T16:50:56.216-04:00Courtney, everything you say makes TOTAL SENSE...t...Courtney, everything you say makes TOTAL SENSE...the problem is you are speaking to a GROUP of HORNY FREAKS who need sex as much as they need water...So, its not you...it's US....;-)Craig n 'emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06505418409919391082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-40082621499469078292010-07-21T16:48:40.626-04:002010-07-21T16:48:40.626-04:00Brooke also said that she likes to BONE! LMAOBrooke also said that she likes to BONE! LMAOAnnamarianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-66790636100227176792010-07-21T16:47:26.607-04:002010-07-21T16:47:26.607-04:00I'm saying love is more powerful than sex...in...I'm saying love is more powerful than sex...in MY opinion. If we connect spiritually, and in every other way and I'm lucky enough to find a great guy, then the sex can be improved, like Brooke said.Courtneynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-56281752835176622442010-07-21T16:43:57.017-04:002010-07-21T16:43:57.017-04:00Let me ask Courtney this! If you connected with y...Let me ask Courtney this! If you connected with your BF on a spiritual level but the sex was GOD Awful.....Are you staying or are you looking for that dude to crack your back??Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-53414325620772907882010-07-21T16:41:59.856-04:002010-07-21T16:41:59.856-04:00Im glad you said Trojan War...Reminds me...I need ...Im glad you said Trojan War...Reminds me...I need to pick up a box of Condoms....Cuz, um...Im SEXFULL!!!! What's that you say? WHAT KIND?....I LOOOOOOOOOOOVE GOOOOOOOOOOOLD!Craig n 'emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06505418409919391082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-43869752710609725692010-07-21T16:40:20.554-04:002010-07-21T16:40:20.554-04:00lmao... I COULD WIN THE FUCKING LOTTERY BEFORE I C...lmao... I COULD WIN THE FUCKING LOTTERY BEFORE I COULD GO A YEAR WITHOUT HAVING SEX.. <br /><br />The fact that that is even acceptable in her MIND baffles me. <br /><br />Courtney congrats on your month long abstinence project. THAT IS ONE CLASS I WILL SURELY NOT BE SIGNING UP FOR.. THANKS BUT NO THANKS...Annamarianoreply@blogger.com