tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post3311719311487262219..comments2024-02-02T01:18:39.737-05:00Comments on Brookey's Cafe Blog: Can I Touch It?Brookehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comBlogger43125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-85181619761299476612009-03-18T12:33:00.000-04:002009-03-18T12:33:00.000-04:00I'll take one in an XL, LOL!!I'll take one in an XL, LOL!!Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-55474678821803372022009-03-18T03:41:00.000-04:002009-03-18T03:41:00.000-04:00Never touch a black woman's hair!Tshirts will be o...Never touch a black woman's hair!<BR/><BR/>Tshirts will be on sale next week :)*Tanyetta*https://www.blogger.com/profile/14339189484151758472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-6740483817184270492009-03-17T18:06:00.000-04:002009-03-17T18:06:00.000-04:00Brooke you are right! I always found the pivotal c...Brooke you are right! I always found the pivotal conflict with them is not when they are corrected, but when you ask them questions that unfolds their underlining reason for asking the dumb questions or committing these insidious act it angers them because they are force to give them reason for the questIion(s).<BR/>I always respond to their question...as "what do you mean by that" or "may I ask you a question", this artless attacks always puts them on an edge, as the y stumble to explain their philosophical reason for their sterotyping. I love all type of people... I big on diversity, but Fu*ksticks are not tolerated. Its like you said...I check them at the door.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-21952184570040843552009-03-17T18:02:00.000-04:002009-03-17T18:02:00.000-04:00ok thanks for the shout out but we are talkin abou...ok thanks for the shout out but we are talkin about hair...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-30366872729013889052009-03-17T17:56:00.000-04:002009-03-17T17:56:00.000-04:00I missed you!!! You need to send out the link to e...I missed you!!! You need to send out the link to everyone so we know when you post. I don't normally read OPB's (Other Poeple's Blogs) until I get home at night. Too busy during the day.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-34288510490691695772009-03-17T17:53:00.000-04:002009-03-17T17:53:00.000-04:00Hey people!!!!! S good to be back although I know ...Hey people!!!!! S good to be back although I know yal didn't miss me!!!!!Shady Damn Grady's....<BR/><BR/>Anyway Latinegro you better watch out for Annamaria.......She's always first on my blog and she's not even Muslim!!!!<BR/><BR/>As for this topic gurl I'm not even surprised anymore..... I wonder if there is something we can ask white people that is equally annoying?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-55699543616993224942009-03-17T17:47:00.000-04:002009-03-17T17:47:00.000-04:00LMAO!!! That's funny :-)And honestly, saying thing...LMAO!!! That's funny :-)<BR/><BR/>And honestly, saying things like "flat asses" or "stringy hair" doesn't come naturally to me. I just know that that is what the stereotype is, and I don't subscribe to it anymore than I subscribe to fried chicken and watermelon stereotypes. It actually makes me uncomfortable to stereotype like that, it's not something that's inherent in me. So when I hear things like "why do YOU people do" this or that, it upsets me. I guess that kind of ignorance will always exist and you just have to deal with it, but I can't let it go. I have to call people on it, because otherwise, how will they learn? I quickly corrected her about "our" people talking in the movies. I quickly corrected her that Hill Harper is an educated man, as are many black men and that they're not all thugs and drug dealers. I correct her every chance I get. Her and anyone else with that ignorance. I guess I'm just getting tired of trying to educate folks who don't care. Like you said, willfull ignorance. They plead ignorance to these things, but I'm not buying it anymore. And if we said or did HALF they stuff they did, we'd never get a pass or have anyone look at us like "oh...Brooke just doesn't understand...silly girl." They expect us to know better, so we should hold them to the same standard.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-19488225930351948472009-03-17T17:22:00.000-04:002009-03-17T17:22:00.000-04:00Well Brooke, I hope you are not having a "bad hair...Well Brooke, I hope you are not having a "bad hair day" because that would give them more reason to rub your hair.LOL<BR/>Seriously, I don't think white people who do that can help themselves. In all honesty...they are willfully ignorant! It stems from their grandparents who have been carrying the myth for decades-"rub black people hair brings you good luck" but it can go both ways. When I was at Temple University- if it was raining it smelt like dogs. So when white people would asked those silly questions, I always followed up with "Why do white people hair smell like dogs, when it is wet? that would always bring the conversation to an halt.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-60791297840569177082009-03-17T16:04:00.000-04:002009-03-17T16:04:00.000-04:00White people will say what they think they can get...White people will say what they think they can get away with. Actually, anyone will. I've had the same experiences as all of you - but in my workplace, that ish don't fly around me no mo'. I'm too old to explain ish to stupid, ignorant white people, or to even have to hear their crap when it comes to race. Thus, everyone is on alert that you will either (A) subject yourself to major pummeling or (B) get the nastiest verbal barrage you may have ever heard in your adult life. <BR/><BR/>And Brooke - I DO talk about flat asses, stringy dog hair and thin lips. I even hit them with the science - calling them demons, mutants, etc. when it warrants. Not my fault it's based in history and science...<BR/><BR/>And no, it's not just lax where I work. I'm THE ANGRY BLACK MAN...and I just don't give a F. Since everyone knows these reactions are just that - REACTIONS - they make sure to be careful not to do anything to make me REACT. <BR/><BR/>Our GM even says to people "don't give him the excuse...all he needs is an excuse". So I don't put up with the tomfoolery mentioned in a lot of these comments - dealt with it too long. Not into the whole white people making me feel uncomfortable thing - I make THEM feel uncomfortable nowadays.<BR/><BR/>Funny thing is - I get along with white people better than I've ever gotten along with them at any other point in my life. They just all keep the rules in the back of their heads. The only time they can say racial stuff is if we're cool and we're doing off-color jokes or humor.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-25957068482987767812009-03-17T15:59:00.000-04:002009-03-17T15:59:00.000-04:00Sorry I've been gone for a lil bit. I just don...Sorry I've been gone for a lil bit. I just don't think random people should be touching you...lol<BR/>Curiosity will get you shanked! lol<BR/>As for the touching the belly thing. I really don't mind when my family & friends touch my belly because I know they are being genuine. My absolut fear is when I'm around someone that I dislike. I have this fear that they are going to try to touch me & I KNOW & WE ALL KNOW THAT I WILL FREAK OUT!!!! lol Sooo far I've come close but it hasn't happened THANK GOD! lol<BR/>And I will shank some random stranger that tries to touch me! lolAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-46539145956863999062009-03-17T15:58:00.000-04:002009-03-17T15:58:00.000-04:00And yes Dre, there are some big asses here...you'd...And yes Dre, there are some big asses here...you'd love it!<BR/><BR/>And yes, we're still talking about hair........for now ;-)Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-33056689290189345862009-03-17T15:53:00.000-04:002009-03-17T15:53:00.000-04:00Yeah, that wasn't nice, I'm sorry. But dang, she d...Yeah, that wasn't nice, I'm sorry. But dang, she does it to me everytime. I need to just pray for her.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-5048467529083961532009-03-17T15:33:00.000-04:002009-03-17T15:33:00.000-04:00now you know i had to call you out on the tennesse...now you know i had to call you out on the tennessee comment! I'm from Tennessee!!<BR/><BR/>But she IS a redneck tho :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-30043067727863491212009-03-17T15:29:00.000-04:002009-03-17T15:29:00.000-04:00Princess! LOL!! I love you!! And you're right, it ...Princess! LOL!! I love you!! And you're right, it seems there's alot of FREE speech around here. But if we were to comment about flat asses, no lips and stringy hair, we'd be fired for being "insensitive." People around here kill me. <BR/><BR/>I remember talking to Crystal saying I wanted to go somewhere warm so I could get a nice tan. This same girl was like "Black people tan?" It took everything I had in me not to fly her head.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-81571170272540880452009-03-17T15:19:00.000-04:002009-03-17T15:19:00.000-04:00(fanning myself) umm..wow..thanks for the complime...(fanning myself) umm..wow..thanks for the compliment Brooke. we still talking about hair? LOL<BR/><BR/>"Asses like elephants" Princess? Elephants?? That sounds like a place I wouldn't mind having my hair stroked..being that it's so nice and juicy and long and all. LOL<BR/><BR/>The ass thing is real. I remember working in the finance sector and when those brokers and traders got drunk they would say all kinds of things about wanting and loving Black women and the sexiness of the sisters.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-41623705665493272132009-03-17T13:06:00.001-04:002009-03-17T13:06:00.001-04:00Dear Brooke-lyn,Well you know I already knew who y...Dear Brooke-lyn,<BR/>Well you know I already knew who you were referring to before you mentioned where she was stationed on your floor. I have/had a co-worker there just like that who'd ask all kinds of silly questions of me and Kellie: "Wow, so-and-so's. hair is so long! I didn't think you guys hair grew <I>that</I> long!" or "Do you guys use curling irons? I didn't know if it did the same job for your hair." or "My hair has fallen out. I need a wig (for an event). I know you Black girls know of the name of some place or someone who does a weave!"<BR/>You know, now that I am recalling all these incidents, I realize her comments went from being a little curious to down-right racist and stereotypical and more importantly, rude!<BR/>I don't think you're being overtly sensitive Brooke-lyn. The crown of a woman's head is something Blacks take seriously. And it's not a racial thing - I'm not that big on sistas touching my hair either (and I have some friends who love to do that). We don't like water to hit it (rain, pool water, etc.), even in the bedroom when we're getting passionate, watch your hands and the way your grab us, brothas. Hell, you don't even catch us running our own hands through our manes too often. And I can't stand when people are rubbing babies heads! Especially newborns that still have the soft spot. If your friend's child's head does not say Spalding across the top of it, please stop palming other people's babies heads!<BR/>Whether you choose to relax it and have sat under a dryer for 90 mins, or you have a natural and have dabbed your Curly Pudding on 1000 times to get the exact shape you want it, or you've sat in the chair of a Senegalese-owned store or in between someone's legs (don't act like you don't know!) for hours so you could get micro-braids, our hair needs maintenance and that's not a small feat no matter the style. We don't want someone playing in out hair, period! Because our hair is of a texture that can be freaked and tweaked into different shapes, does not make us other-worldly! That's one of the many things that makes us different! You don't have to touch and poke and prod me like a lab experiment because my body has the ability to do something yours cannot. Like Liz said, their hair is not that interesting and I don't want to touch it! <BR/>Brooke-lyn, you tell Betty Rubble, aka Crystal, that I said "tell people, don't squeeze the Charmin!"<BR/>I won't even start reminscing about all the questions I got about having a toosch! LOL. Ok, maybe I'll throw one in there. So the co-worker of mine I referenced earlier in this comment (female, won't mention her ethnicity but, will only say, non-Black), another co-worker (male, White) and I were chewing the fat one day. He mentions something about strippers and that leads us into a conversation about big backsides. So he says "Black women have huge butts. Ohhh that's such a turn-on for a man.". Then he mentions how the strippers can make theirs clap (he used to do some handy work in strip clubs BTW; that's how this convo came up - eventhough sitting with my male friends and talking about strippers or porn is like a regular Fri. night for me - anyway, I digress). She jumps up and says "Yeah but I heard a lot of them (Black women) got implants, that's why their butts are large and they're able to do "tricks" like that!"<BR/>I don't know I was so defensive, but I jumped up and said "Are you serious?" You've seen enough regular, everyday, surgery-free Black women walking around here with asses like elephants so how can you say that? In the 80s, everyone wanted to look like Brooke Shields in her Calvin Klein jeans or Jane Fonda in her spandex and you called us fat and overweight for having a little extra in our trunk. Now Beyonce & J-Lo are bootyliscious in Hollywood (somewhat - not like ghetto-booty but ya know) and Angelina Jolie (not you Anna Marie, lol) and Scarlett Johanson have lips that look like they've been stung by bees, it's sexy now? And we can't even have ownership of that without you screaming we're surgically-enhanced? Nope, we didn't get it from Taiwan in a silicon-covering, we got it straight from our mama! We've always had those items babes, check the scoreboard, know your history!". So he chimed in "Yeah, look at Princess' ass - it's big and all-natural, I can tell.". And as he was giggling at his own little comment, I just leaned over to both of them, put my hand on one of my toosch cheeks and said softly "Made in America - No ASSembly required," and walked off like I just shot the damn sheriff, swinging my ass from side to side. And that's all I have to say about that!Ms. Princesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11065545152139713192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-30822317220236285822009-03-17T13:06:00.000-04:002009-03-17T13:06:00.000-04:00That girl either wouldn't work there or would be m...That girl either wouldn't work there or would be moved away from me. I have a history of making white women cry when they are out of pocket with the racial stuff. <BR/><BR/>I would break her down to her very last compound...and it WOULDN'T be pretty. You might actually be a little horrified...most people don't like to see that side of me. But I feel like the only thing people understand is harsh, brutal responses when they do things - and I don't just do it. I OVERDO it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-1810270167714877542009-03-17T13:05:00.000-04:002009-03-17T13:05:00.000-04:00Dre, your hair is sexy as hell. I think you know t...Dre, your hair is sexy as hell. I think you know that I think that ;)<BR/><BR/>And your locs are nice and juicy and LONG! I can see someone wanting to touch them. I've had ALOT of fun running my hands thru locs...and trust me, they wanted me to touch them :-) LOL!!<BR/><BR/>I just keep my cool at work, even when I have reason to go off on someone Glee. That way, when THEY do it, it just makes them look simple...and I make sure I give them a look that indicates that.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-73981723098653933742009-03-17T13:01:00.000-04:002009-03-17T13:01:00.000-04:00I hear you Brooke. I've been labeled the angry bl...I hear you Brooke. I've been labeled the angry black woman here at work. I find that how they choose to deal with me is to remove me from projects or stop asking for my input when I give any push back. <BR/><BR/>I really do believe that's just F*ckery to use your word. I've had that same thing happen to me - come over to me when I'm clearly eating lunch. <BR/><BR/>I had the thought today that I truly know what it means to wear a shit-eating grin, because I feel like especially in the work place I have to eat a whole lot of shit just to get what I DESERVE because of my hard work. grrrrGeorgia Peachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02512812467528547952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-40548551498088679112009-03-17T13:00:00.001-04:002009-03-17T13:00:00.001-04:00Rameer, you? Angry black man? Noooo, I never would...Rameer, you? Angry black man? Noooo, I never would'a thunk it!<BR/><BR/>LOL!!<BR/><BR/>Ram, you would have BEEN shanked this girl at work. She says all kinds of crazy stuff, just Ig'nant! She has no filter...or just really doesn't care. When Hill Harper was speaking on behalf of Barack Obama during the campaign, she was like "who IS he anyway, why do we care?" When I said he was an actor who went to Harvard with Barack, she was like "HEEEE went to Harvard? HIM!? That man?" I could see if Flavor Flav was on the damn screen...but it was HILL f*ckin HARPER!!! She thinks all black men are thugs and pimps and that black women named "Brooke" are the exception to the Shanene rule. She calls Barack Obama "your boy" and thinks that all black people bust caps at the movies. This girl is straight redneck from Tenneessee, and I want to slap the spit out of her mouth on a daily basis.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-16735781460787103802009-03-17T13:00:00.000-04:002009-03-17T13:00:00.000-04:00Damn if I don't spend my life avoiding hands in my...Damn if I don't spend my life avoiding hands in my hair. Now don't get me wrong, if I know you, it's all good. I KNOW you! But I've had strangers walk up leading with a hand saying "Wow THAT is so nice." THAT? WTF? What the f#ck is that? You mean my effin hair on my effin head!!? You see me right? You see the Black guy with the locs and the none too pleased look that you just touched him?<BR/><BR/>SMH<BR/><BR/>It's definitely a fascination with the exotic. And yes I enjoy having my hair touched by someone I WANT to touch it. (Brooke I'm sure the guys with locs you've grabbed by the hair enjoyed it because behind closed doors that's sexier than a mug) but like anything else it's a little too much for strangers to do it. <BR/><BR/>You just have to have manners. Chances are if you ask and wait for the answer, I will most likely say "sure, but don't pet me." I was once on a Manhattan corner waiting for the light to change when a White woman clearly in her 70s looked up at me and said "wow, you're hair is beautiful. Would you mind if I felt it?" And she waited with her hands to her side as I stared down at her in shock. When I approved she reached up, easy and brushed the bottom of my hair and responded "Your hair is really soft. I like it. Thank you, I hope I didn't offend you." and then kept it moving. <BR/><BR/>Refreshing considering I've been walking in a club and felt myself pulled back from some chick (sista) that has latched on to my hair without notice and is just holding it. Ummm thanks, but (HARD HAND SLAP) You wouldn't want me grabbing your ass and holding it would you?...or maybe you would, but damn have some manners that's connected to an angry man's head.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-14896710731355685022009-03-17T12:55:00.000-04:002009-03-17T12:55:00.000-04:00The people Serena deals with, by the way, are in t...The people Serena deals with, by the way, are in the South...whole different breed...<BR/><BR/>Brooke - I AM THE ANGRY BLACK PERSON AT WORK. And that title doesnt bother me at all. I always tell these white people:<BR/><BR/>"When you're watching our news, and your stereotypes and racist thoughts of the Black people you show and depict on the news are running through your head...just remember. Those people come from MY neighborhood, and I probably know some of them. Now that your little racist ideals of why you would cross the street if you were walking in my neighborhood and a Black man was walking towards you...and apply them TO ME. Cuz those people on the News can't get to you. <BR/><BR/>I CAN."<BR/><BR/>White people tend to drink their "actright" around me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-86798535653127753112009-03-17T12:51:00.000-04:002009-03-17T12:51:00.000-04:00First off - shame on anyone excusing that behavior...First off - shame on anyone excusing that behavior. It's all about ignorance, no matter the race, age, etc. of who asks that bullsh*t.<BR/><BR/>Secondly - this is one of many things white people do that is ignorant, patronizing and flat-out annoying to us. I have a rule at work - you don't seriously think about what you say and how you are going to act around me, you are implicitly giving me permission to be your f'n arse. Everyone knows of this rule; so when people do say something or ask something, they really think about how to present it or how stupid it may sound. They typically think how they would feel if asked the same question - which is what they should do in the first place.<BR/><BR/>Is it sad that the threat of violence has to make them use common sense? Yes. But is it reality that they don't have it cuz most whites live in Narnia? Yes. I'm not worried about how it "should" be and all that crap - I know how IT IS. And I know I will smack you in your cabbage you come across the wrong way to me.<BR/><BR/>And the best thing - every white person who knows me knows I don't give a flying fig about HR, authority or whatever - I always say "I'll get reprimanded/disciplined later. You'll go to the hospital NOW".<BR/><BR/>I don't even let them get away with doing it to the other Black people I'm cool with at work. You can SAY anything - just use common sense. And don't touch me. Or my food. I carry a weapon at all times. And I WILL SHANK YOU.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-42220084022803717582009-03-17T12:49:00.000-04:002009-03-17T12:49:00.000-04:00I meant to write "testy" in my last comment. I'm c...I meant to write "testy" in my last comment. I'm crazy busy today so I'm typing fast, and typeing a lot of typos in the process, so forgive me...I think you all know I can spell :-) LOL!!Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-43012539577296638942009-03-17T12:47:00.000-04:002009-03-17T12:47:00.000-04:00LMAO @ H.A.M. (in case y'all missed it last time, ...LMAO @ H.A.M. (in case y'all missed it last time, that stands for HOT ASS MESS) hahahaha!<BR/><BR/>Wow, I can't believe black folks do you like that Serena. What kind of f*ckery is that? Myabe they feel that since they're black they can do that. WRONG! That's just buffoonery.<BR/><BR/>Glee, it's the "angry black man/woman" syndrome. I was actually going to blog about that a different day. I see it all the time. The white folks around here and yell and curse and flip out and no one says boo about it. But if I so much as say "give me a minute" when they come at me while I'm eating my lunch, the next thing I know, I'm being... <BR/>"test." When what I really COULD have said was, "B*tch, can't you see I'm eating?" But NOOOOO! I didn't say that :-) Just crazy.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.com