tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post2996525137918244048..comments2024-02-02T01:18:39.737-05:00Comments on Brookey's Cafe Blog: Go On and Stare, See if I Care, Good and Bad Hair!Brookehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-47752657311440662932008-11-21T21:00:00.000-05:002008-11-21T21:00:00.000-05:00Love this one Brookey! So well said and I am one ...Love this one Brookey! So well said and I am one of those who struggles with the whole natural look vs. being acceptable in corporate life. I'm so glad that we are becoming more accepting of our differences, but it's so funny - my family (all southern) are my worst critics when I do try the natural looks. They'd much rather I relax my hair and try to look more like our white sisters. Funny isn't it? It's crazy what we do to ourselves for beauty...that whole skin lightening thing in Japan is crazy!Georgia Peachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02512812467528547952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-80136477902682704712008-11-21T17:53:00.000-05:002008-11-21T17:53:00.000-05:00And to add insult to injury, my mom used to make m...And to add insult to injury, my mom used to make me braid Nicole's hair. Her hair was down past her butt when we were kids...I was like "oh..now see you playin!" LOL!<BR/><BR/>But like Nicole said, I never got the whole light skin/dark skin thing with me. People used to ask us if we had the same father because Nicole was lighter with straight hair and I was darker with courser hair. I never understood that. And the audacity! But goes to show how much we focus on that stuff, even today!<BR/><BR/>I hear you Tanya! Whatever makes you happy and feeling beautiful is all that matters. We have to look at ourselves in the mirror everyday, so we might as well get used to liking what we see!<BR/><BR/>And if it's something like weight, something we can control and must maintain for health reasons, then go for it! We have the power to change our image of ourselves - all we have to do is change our minds.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-68730383524057730942008-11-21T17:30:00.000-05:002008-11-21T17:30:00.000-05:00Hair...Hair...Hair...What a great blog!!! I grew ...Hair...Hair...Hair...<BR/><BR/>What a great blog!!! I grew up in a house with everyone having straight hair...and I was the one with the "tough" hair. My mom tried to be gentle by keeping it short...but I always wanted the long hair that my mom and my older sister had. As a teen I was allowed to perm my hair...what a disaster...I had scabs all over and was hurting for weeks. After a few years of that trauma...I stopped that torture...and kinda let it be. I love my curls...but always find myself wishing it wasn't as thick...or a bit more manageable. AS I have gotten older and learned to manage it better...I embrace it. I have the ability to do different things with it...but many say I look best when it is straight... :(<BR/><BR/>I don't think so...so I continue to have a big head of hair...and hope to show the world...that my hair is not bad...but great and beautiful!!!<BR/><BR/>Thanks for that blog!!!<BR/><BR/>Have a great weekend!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-31056162405955293132008-11-21T16:51:00.000-05:002008-11-21T16:51:00.000-05:00You know when it comes to beauty it is always funn...You know when it comes to beauty it is always funny that what you envy or admire in someone else's look is what they envy or admire in yours....While you resented not having hair like me or mommy I resented not being able to blow dry my hair, put a couple curls in and go....My hair is like a three hour process just to get the Chaka Khan afro under control. I especially feel that now that I am Muslim because with having to pray so frequently and perform Wudu *which is cleaning parts of your body before you can pray-your head being one of them) I have to wet my hair often and I am constantly thinking about you, Brooke and how quickly you are able to do your hair. Just the thought of knowing how long it takes me get get in together is daunting....<BR/><BR/>I am a very visual person and I always felt good that that I was not that type to judge based on color or good or bad hair. I course I grew up around the comments but to me because I always admired Brooke I felt that the dark skin/light skin thing was stupid. <BR/><BR/>The feature I focused on the most was teeth....Remember Brooke when I said I could not be friends with a person who did not have nice teeth. Even with my husband I was so happy when he fixed his missing tooth. <BR/><BR/>All I can say is in life as we get older we grow and any little hang ups we have we move on pass them and learn what truly makes one beautiful and that is the person's spirit.<BR/><BR/>NicoleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-45136845274364018102008-11-21T16:04:00.000-05:002008-11-21T16:04:00.000-05:00Hey Brooke ~ Right on point, you got see our own b...Hey Brooke ~ Right on point, you got see our own beauty.<BR/><BR/>Security ~ They just need escort them Eagles out!! LoL You know I got nothing but love for ya!!!Dre Lewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18411061260155363893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-91425087073323630042008-11-21T15:56:00.000-05:002008-11-21T15:56:00.000-05:00Y'all fly ladies better go!And to you Dre...I was ...Y'all fly ladies better go!<BR/><BR/>And to you Dre...I was with you til you brought up the Ravens. Now I have to call security on your ass! Beat it! Scram! Kick rocks! <BR/><BR/>LOL!!<BR/><BR/>All of us are beautiful, but if you don't believe it, no one else will.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-88505653103271476022008-11-21T15:13:00.000-05:002008-11-21T15:13:00.000-05:00love your blog Ms. Brooke! You are so right. It'...love your blog Ms. Brooke! You are so right. It's sad that as women we have these ideas of what is considered beautiful already instilled in our minds at a young age. I don't know about everyone else but I didn't realize calling hair "bad" or "good" was incorrect until I was in college. My mom, being from the south, had used these terms regularly and I guess I was happy that I was on the "good" side. Its funny though because even then I still wanted long staight hair. That was the only thing I saw on tv, so my "good" hair wasn't good enough. It took a lot of contemplation and breakage to decide that I was going to leave the chemicals alone and transition back to my natural hair. When I finally did the big chop for a minute I looked in the mirror and didn't like what I saw. It was almost like a stranger was looking back at me. I didnt feel attractive and I realized that this was largely a result of what had been instilled in me. The ideas of long, straight hair being beautiful and yes I even thought how would men look at me now? Then I thought How could I not love me in my most natural form? My hair doesnt define me. I'm still the same person that I always was and I am beautiful. I am more confident now that I ever was with all the years of having a relaxer. I love my hair and I love ME! I write all of this to say when you truly love yourself your real beauty will shine through and others will love you ass well and if they dont, tell them to keep walking ladies! lolmomo925https://www.blogger.com/profile/01177853540845921865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-39298978496104737442008-11-21T15:07:00.000-05:002008-11-21T15:07:00.000-05:00I agree with your point about your hair defining y...I agree with your point about your hair defining your allegiance to the cause, etc. Hair was such a big issue growing up that a week before senior prom I went from a Cree Summer long curly do, to a Caesar, it felt great!!! <BR/><BR/>I enjoyed this installment, keep them coming!Tanisha Malcomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15219082953051482177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-50026374529494842432008-11-21T14:54:00.000-05:002008-11-21T14:54:00.000-05:00Hello All ~ Happy Friday!!Great subject Brooke(As ...Hello All ~ Happy Friday!!<BR/><BR/>Great subject Brooke(As usual!!)<BR/><BR/>First thought that came to mind is Indie Arie ~ I Am Not My Hair ~ <BR/><BR/>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bZd1KeZhjfU<BR/><BR/>Being comfortable in your own skin (including hair) is King. I love all hairstyles and different type of hair. Wear it and smile ~ and let the love come in (the hell with the haters) Maintenance is another thing ~ but if that what it takes, so be it. The being that lies beneath the hair is all that matters!<BR/><BR/>Of course I can only give a guys perspective ~ just being me.<BR/><BR/>Peace and Love<BR/><BR/>Dre<BR/><BR/>Brooke ~ Don't hate the game...I'm just saying before the beat down * LoL Go Ravens!!Dre Lewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18411061260155363893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-50282682036615937992008-11-21T14:49:00.000-05:002008-11-21T14:49:00.000-05:00What a great post Brooke!!!Thanks for the shout-ou...What a great post Brooke!!!<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the shout-out; I saw Alicia Keys wear a shir once that said "I *heart* my hair" (like the I love NY shirts that are everywhere).<BR/><BR/>To be honest with you, right now I have “hair envy”…I braided my hair up for the winter but I long to just scratch my head and “rock my ‘fro with my fist in the air”<BR/><BR/>I digress.<BR/><BR/>But I knew about the folks in Japan; it really surprised me when I went last summer. I took this picture outside of the mall:<BR/><BR/>http://a420.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/49/l_1530a58313712bea45636567e1ccbaf3.jpg<BR/><BR/>It says “the white science“<BR/><BR/>Crazy right?<BR/><BR/>I saw more bleaching creams that I did in the hood but the funny thing was, the bleaching creams over there aren’t as “harsh” as they are in this hemisphere. Did you know that the white geisha makeup had lead in it? This cause skin cancer but yet this was the price people were willing to pay for “beauty”. It was thought that if you were light, you weren’t a field worker or someone who worked with their hands for a living and therefore you had wealth. <BR/><BR/>I love everything about darker skin; the way it shines when it’s oiled up, the way my man looks after a heard days at work and the sweat is glistening, even the way our skin seems to look like chocolate after a good rub-down of lotion. Sure, you can see the ash quicker but it seems to me that most of us have a natural sheen – hell, white people are always trying to get some sort of tan for a healthy color.<BR/><BR/>My mom is very light skinned and my dad was dark. Growing up, I didn’t appreciate my coloring because I didn’t pass the “paper bag test”. Now, I couldn’t be happier with the way God made me. I love me from the follicles of my hair to the fungus of my toes! :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com