tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post4277878249072696578..comments2024-02-02T01:18:39.737-05:00Comments on Brookey's Cafe Blog: Dear Brookey...When Love and Business MixBrookehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-64958343150061557312011-04-15T14:52:43.494-04:002011-04-15T14:52:43.494-04:00Brooke,
I think people can mix business and pleas...Brooke,<br /><br />I think people can mix business and pleasure if they're clear about it. Like Fury said, if they draw up a business agreement that is separate from their personal lives, it can work. If you share a passion and a common goal and are equals in the business, you both will have a vested interest in making that business succeed, as well as your relationship. They're both partnerships, and I think it can be done.<br /><br />However, my issue isn't with them working together, but moreso the rebound issue. It sounds to me that if the relationship doesn't work out, then they can both still work for the same record label without having to cross paths. But if she's getting her heart in it, I hope they're in it together. <br /><br />Rebounds work differently for men and women, in my opinion...so I hope he's of the same mindset as she is. I think they need to take it slow for the sake of their own emotions, not for the business. Like B said, the excitment of the business might have them looking through rose colored glasses, along with trying to escape the hurt of the failed long term relationships, so when the glasses come off, then they see each other for who they truly are. Being friends and being lovers are very different, so I hope they don't lose the friendship in trying to move forward romantically. <br /><br />I wish them well. Good blog B.Jaynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-47878590485512801052011-04-15T14:45:41.270-04:002011-04-15T14:45:41.270-04:00Let me ask you all this - does the nature of the j...Let me ask you all this - does the nature of the job matter?<br /><br />In this case, they do not work in an office setting together. They both have "day jobs" but work on a side business together. They both work with a record label. He's a songwriter, audio engineer and she handles more of the business side of things. Their paths really don't cross in a way you might expect - so does this change things?<br /><br />If he was an artist and she managed him, then maybe that would be a sticky situation. Wendy Williams speaks a bit about that in the new issue of Essence Magazine where she speaks of her husband managing her, as well as his role as an EP on her show. She may not agree with some things he doe as a manager and has to tell him when he messes up as an EP - and he has to give her criticism sometimes - so her feelings get hurt in some insteances, and he may not like having to work FOR her sometimes. <br /><br />It can get touchy if the lines aren't clearly drawn and you have to have a thick skin and a tender heart at the same time. In the "Dear Brookey" case, she's not in a posotion tof ire him, nor can he fire her...and they're on different ends of the spectrum as far as their partnership goes. I think sometimes it can work, depending on the industry, details, circumstance, etc.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-53834702609075055062011-04-15T14:17:09.095-04:002011-04-15T14:17:09.095-04:00They both needed time to heal and rejevenate from ...They both needed time to heal and rejevenate from the former relationships. I see them both as a rebound for each unintentionally. Its like they are there for each other to take their mind off of the hurt from the last realtionships they are coming from. They didnt think about all the consequences to go with it. It was definitely too fast for the both of them... Its like there are each other escape goat. And that isnt fair at all to no one.Sillouettenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-49823012042296437342011-04-15T14:12:41.476-04:002011-04-15T14:12:41.476-04:00Hey Fam!!! Happy Friday!!
Oh I definitely say &q...Hey Fam!!! Happy Friday!!<br /><br /><br />Oh I definitely say "NO" to mixing business with pleasure. Brooke hit alot of valid points. I mean she hit it on the head. Working side by side in the office sounds real cute and cuddley on paper. But you do have to read the fine print. I prefer keep things separate, its soooo much safer...Because everyone do not work the same, meaning he may be uptight when he works and she may be a relaxed worker or vice versa. Now the both of you are getting the work done, its just differently. But one sees something wrong with how the other is doing something, then it escalates and then you feel like you being looked over and critiqued like a child. Then you go home and he wants some yum yum that nite, like Brooke Said, and then shes looking at him like he's lost his mind like " Yum excuse me , do you not remember what you said to me a couple hrs ago.. <br /><br />The lists goes o n and on. Its too much room for things to get messy. it too difficult to separate the two. That why encourage people NOT to do it...Sillouettenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-13050603234612252612011-04-15T12:59:56.221-04:002011-04-15T12:59:56.221-04:00I like your response Brooke, but I say it's a ...I like your response Brooke, but I say it's a rebound. Hopefully money isn't being shared and they're not the only 2 in the business. I need more information, but business or no business, if they're both coming out of a long term relationship, I say slow down and be careful.The Cable Guynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-62902155551010711202011-04-15T12:49:27.133-04:002011-04-15T12:49:27.133-04:00Sorry Craig, I couldn't think of anything!
Li...Sorry Craig, I couldn't think of anything!<br /><br />Like Annamaria said, we're only getting her perspective, but what about him? What does he have to say? Does he have the same fears? I'm assuming he feels the same way, but make sure first. He might be rebounding too and that's no good, especially in business.Stefnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-48041905846626555622011-04-15T12:46:06.643-04:002011-04-15T12:46:06.643-04:00Brookey,
Your advice is great and on point, as us...Brookey,<br /><br />Your advice is great and on point, as usual. All your red flags are mine as well - and I think you addressed them beautifully! Well done!Courtneynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-87521162190514839002011-04-15T12:43:55.189-04:002011-04-15T12:43:55.189-04:00Ok on a serious note one thing stood out in my min...Ok on a serious note one thing stood out in my mind....<br />What is the dudes take on everything? Have you guys talked about the situation? How does he feel? What is his opinion on the relationship/future/possible consequences..<br /><br />Reason I ask is because women are the more emotional creatures & she may be going all in, etc etc..but as she stated first he had just come out of a long relationship also. So this may not be a rebound for her BUT be one for him & that is setting things up for a possible disaster...<br /><br />NOW if you have discussed everything and you both are on the same page I say go for it.. Our society is too stuck on dating rules & if you stick with them you might just miss out on the perfect man... :) <br /><br />Good Luck & I'm OUT B*TCHES....A-buzzzzzznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-38858958063208780082011-04-15T12:43:01.856-04:002011-04-15T12:43:01.856-04:00A double rebound with a friend of the opposite sex...A double rebound with a friend of the opposite sex and you're in business together!!?? Not keen on this at all. I say look at it as a rebound from jump. Both of you should put the friendship and business first. Y'all can still relate on a sexual level, but there has to be a CLEARLY defined conversation on what's happening. <br /><br />If you don't have articles of incorporation or some kind of business memo explaining business roles and who makes decisions based on certain criteria as well as a third party that acts as tie breaker, be sure to get it.<br /><br />A rebound this early with someone so close can flame out quickly.<br /><br />...and the Summer is coming!The Furyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16145614924246887651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-76818317657031989672011-04-15T12:40:43.198-04:002011-04-15T12:40:43.198-04:00Stef, you jacked up the SCHOOL FLOW! ANAJOLIA! I m...Stef, you jacked up the SCHOOL FLOW! ANAJOLIA! I miss you and your cursing, knife throwing ways!Craig n 'emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06505418409919391082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-16374055655112914882011-04-15T12:39:05.070-04:002011-04-15T12:39:05.070-04:00Fourth Fuckers!!!!
I have 20 more minutes before I...Fourth Fuckers!!!!<br />I have 20 more minutes before I start my weekend!Annamarianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-9724019624149025602011-04-15T12:37:41.355-04:002011-04-15T12:37:41.355-04:00Third Mofos!
...okay, I got nuttin :)Third Mofos!<br /><br />...okay, I got nuttin :)Stefnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-88830205772227320592011-04-15T12:35:21.292-04:002011-04-15T12:35:21.292-04:00Second Ho's!!! Meet me in the back of the blea...Second Ho's!!! Meet me in the back of the bleachers!Craig n 'emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06505418409919391082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-58407771401475574562011-04-15T12:32:39.447-04:002011-04-15T12:32:39.447-04:00First Beeyotches! Go get a late pass!First Beeyotches! Go get a late pass!The Furyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16145614924246887651noreply@blogger.com