tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post1150566921064480983..comments2024-02-02T01:18:39.737-05:00Comments on Brookey's Cafe Blog: I Ain't Saying She's a Gold Digger....Brookehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comBlogger43125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-9979705767246782532010-06-22T18:26:52.138-04:002010-06-22T18:26:52.138-04:00Gotcha! I figured that's what you meant. And I...Gotcha! I figured that's what you meant. And I agree. I think most of us just have a hard time admitting what we want like you said.Jaznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-68641424289462319122010-06-22T18:18:32.331-04:002010-06-22T18:18:32.331-04:00@Jaz,
When I say if all things are equal, I mean ...@Jaz,<br /><br />When I say if all things are equal, I mean if I had my choice between a fine man who is a good dude, is smart and rich vs. a fine man who is a good dude and not rich, I'd choose the rich one if I could have either. If the ONLY thing that separated these two men was money, then most women would want the one with money. I don't think that's shallow, I think that's honest.<br /><br />Just like if a man could choose between a beautiful woman who was smart, a great cook and wonderful in bed vs. an ugly woman who was smart, a great cook who was wonderful in bed - they'd choose the beautiful one. To say otherwise doesn't make them shallow - it's what we'd all want ideally. <br /><br />It's just that we know that there is no perfect person, and that we'd have to make compromises for what is most important to us - but that doesn't discount what we'd WANT. We fall in love with who we fall in love with...and usually that person is FAR from perfect. But for those who are NOT in love, some of us have an idea of what we'd want in a mate...and if we're lucky, we get half of that.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-13780547807681869462010-06-22T18:13:50.297-04:002010-06-22T18:13:50.297-04:00@Brooke,
When you say "if all things are equ...@Brooke,<br /><br />When you say "if all things are equal" what do you mean exactly. Just making sure I understand you.Jaznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-34973804118278551922010-06-22T18:11:29.516-04:002010-06-22T18:11:29.516-04:00@Brooke,
I understood what you wrote and totally ...@Brooke,<br /><br />I understood what you wrote and totally agree with it. We all know you know how to write and spell! LOL! It's all good girl!Stefnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-3972063107493489922010-06-22T18:09:59.298-04:002010-06-22T18:09:59.298-04:00wow! please excuse all my typos! I'm trying to...wow! please excuse all my typos! I'm trying to get alot of stuff done at work before I break out to the gym and just re-read what I wrote. My fingers are too fast for my brain! LOL!Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-28781974558681128022010-06-22T18:06:32.168-04:002010-06-22T18:06:32.168-04:00I happen to agree to an extent with what DL Hughle...I happen to agree to an extent with what DL Hughley, Courtney and Ms. Penn said. If all things are equal, then of course a man would want his woman to be beautiful and women would want a rich man. Who wouldn't? The reality is most of us won't get that, because of sheer numbers, but that doesn't mean that no man alive has never dreamt of having a model wife or that no woman has ever wondered what it would be like to live in mansion. The reality is most of us know that that's not reality for us all. While some women and women make it their JOB to seek out such things, most women CAN'T and WON'T attract that rich dude or snag him...and most men won't attract or marry that model chick.<br /><br />Knowing the reality of a situation doesn't mean that's not what we'd want if we had our choice. I've yet to meet a woman who says she wants to meet a poor man. I have yet to meet a man who says they'd love to wife an ugly woman. It's un unspoken thing...mainly because admitting otherwise makes us seem shallow or like we're not "good people." <br /><br />As for the catering thing, most people want to be validated and appreciated...both men and women. I think men need it, but don't say it. DL Hughley said that men want to feel appreciated and I agree with him. I agree with Jay when he says a little "baby, I think you're the bomb" goes a long way. It's easy for women to ask for compliments, because we're considered emotional creatures who need love and affection. Men are supposed to be "hard" - so asking their woman to big them up might seem "unmanly" to them. If we expect men to work hard and provide for us, then we have to be willing to show them that we appreciate when they do - because most times it fuels them to keep doing it. No one wants to feel taken for granted - both men AND women. <br /><br />But like a few of you said - if you're not doing anything worthy of praise, I don't think you should expect it. If you're Pookie laying on the couch drinking up all the Kool-Aid, you can't honestly ask your lady to big you up if she's supporting your weed habit. But I do agree that women could be better at this. <br /><br />On The View, Sherri Sheppard said something to the effect that "constantly letting making a man feel good about himself is exhausting!" and made it seem like she should feel good about himself on his own. I think that's selfish to say. While we all should have a healthy dose of self esteem and confidence, it's very easy to feel taken for granted an unappreciate in a relationship. Everyone wants to feel validated in appreciated in their relationships - it's part of feeling loved. And saying to someoe that you appreciate them and respect and love them takes all of 5 seconds and is the easiest thing in the world to do if you truly mean it. It's not exhausting...in fact, it should come naturally if you truly feel it everyday. And even if you don't FEEL it everyday, it's still important to say so that the other person knows that you're still an important person in their life that you appreciate.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-65016952257284143272010-06-22T17:57:41.737-04:002010-06-22T17:57:41.737-04:00Captain Cable don't get shanked. We aint BFF&#...Captain Cable don't get shanked. We aint BFF's again just yet!!! :) I'm still soft about ur Father's Day blog so I'll take it easy on u!!annamarianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-57403316199887280472010-06-22T17:48:13.826-04:002010-06-22T17:48:13.826-04:00Okay Annamaria. Don't get your panties in a bu...Okay Annamaria. Don't get your panties in a bunch :) LMAO!<br /><br />Brooke, you're quiet today. What say you ON THE TOPIC? ;)The Cable Guynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-64298243444308996852010-06-22T17:43:27.802-04:002010-06-22T17:43:27.802-04:00Don't get me wrong Powerz aint perfect & w...Don't get me wrong Powerz aint perfect & we all know I will tase him & offer up a fuck u if he needs it. But I'm not going to sit here & describe some imaginary negro or give props to some celebrity or sports figure. You asked what women want & he is what THIS woman wants... Sorry if all my powerz cheering is nauseating u BUT I could be sitting here like ya'll niggas aint shit!!! Lol<br /><br />And u could all be bum ass negroes (which I highly doubt for most of u. Including u Cable nemesis) but ya'll don't live with me so frankly I don't care... <br /><br />Loosening my grip on the taser & <br />paying my cable bill..annamarianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-49724468857673919742010-06-22T17:34:39.155-04:002010-06-22T17:34:39.155-04:00@Courtney,
I agree, what we want on a basic innat...@Courtney,<br /><br />I agree, what we want on a basic innate level isn't usually what we get, because so many other factors come into play that involve us "thinking." But I totally see your point.<br /><br />@Cable Guy, you're right too. We can be anyone we want on this blog. While I believe there's a good group here, we don't know how the other operates in our personal romantic lives. Brooke always brings good discussion though :)Jaznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-21229086407774340022010-06-22T17:27:12.108-04:002010-06-22T17:27:12.108-04:00@Cable dude,
I'm putting my hate aside to say...@Cable dude,<br /><br />I'm putting my hate aside to say I agree with you completely on that. Real talk!<br /><br />And yes, I'd love to meet a fine, intelligent man with money vs. a fine, intelligent man who's broke. I'm keepin 100 too! LOL!!Stefnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-21446189804126046762010-06-22T17:21:41.405-04:002010-06-22T17:21:41.405-04:00The blog was asking if that's what men and wom...The blog was asking if that's what men and women really want - whether that's their reality on an everyday basis. <br /><br />You can be a good woman and still PREFER a man with money. That doesn't mean that you'll discount a man who isn't rich..but all other things being equal, that's what a woman would WANT.<br /><br />Same for good dudes. You can be a good dude and still want a beautiful woman. Doesn't mean you'll get one or that's all you seek. But it's what every man WANTS.<br /><br />And not for nothing, I love you all - but let's be real. Who you are on the blog doesn't mean that's who you are in real life. I'm just keepin it 100 - you can project yourself to be ANYONE you want on the blog cuz none of us (except Brooke maybe) knows who the other one is. That's why I don't care what most of you think of me, or clown me, cuz I know who I am and I don't need anyone on my "team." Brooke is the only person who knows me on here and I don't need her to validate me either. I just happen to like her :) So while you can SAY you're a good woman, or that Austin, or Jay, or anyone else is a good dude - none of us knows that for sure unless they know us in our personal lives...so that shit means nothing to me. You could be a bird chick for all I know. I'm not saying you are, and I doubt you are, but since I don't know you, who's to say? Just like I could be a bum ni**a. Y'all don't know me, so I'd feel like a clown if I was constantly trying to show and prove to y'all what a "good dude" I was. Come on son.The Cable Guynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-79829164184607675622010-06-22T17:13:17.475-04:002010-06-22T17:13:17.475-04:00And last but not least ALL ya'll men complain ...And last but not least ALL ya'll men complain when women say how men ain't shit. But here I am bigging up a good man & I have given credit to all the OTHER good men on this blog & that's wack too. SO YOU CAN KICK ROCKS...<br /><br />TEAM STEF ALL THE WAY!!! LMAOAnnamarianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-45958301448774102302010-06-22T17:11:41.137-04:002010-06-22T17:11:41.137-04:00The comment had to do with an example of a woman w...The comment had to do with an example of a woman who isn't a gold digger being taken care of by a man.<br /><br />AND it was also about how a man isn't obligated to do so BUT an example about what women may be talking about when they say they want a man who can provide for them.<br /><br />AND how a GOOD woman will also have a man's back no matter what..<br /><br />THAT'S WHAT THE COMMENT WAS ABOUT..<br /><br />I don't need to use the blog to big up my man cuz I do so EVERY DAY..<br /><br />TEAM JAY ALL THE WAY!!! LMAOAnnamarianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-26372246491828793682010-06-22T17:04:49.484-04:002010-06-22T17:04:49.484-04:00@Annamaria,
Awww, come on. You salty now? You got...@Annamaria,<br /><br />Awww, come on. You salty now? You gotta admit, every comment you make on the blog lately is about how great your relationship is and how great Austin is. We get it already! That's not hate, I'm just being real!<br /><br />And yes, Jay is a good dude. No doubt. He just can't have my woman :)<br /><br />I was just wondering what that long comment had to do with the topic at hand..but I feel you Annamaria. No need to be mad :)The Cable Guynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-27801154182416734162010-06-22T17:00:31.660-04:002010-06-22T17:00:31.660-04:00I don't feel that the blog was about good men ...I don't feel that the blog was about good men and women - but more about being honest about what we want in the opposite sex. <br /><br />I think Cable Guy and DL Hughley are right...most of us never admit to those things because it makes us seem shallow to do so. We are primal beings who have the ability to think and reason. But that doesn't take away our innate instincts to want to be protected and for men to be providers. Since we've evolved, it seems shallow and "cave-man" like to have these beliefs, but we're just sophisticated animals with basic attractions and needs. We just feel silly admitting that.Courtneynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-2570930510114051372010-06-22T17:00:12.812-04:002010-06-22T17:00:12.812-04:00Brooke I take back those nice things I said about ...Brooke I take back those nice things I said about Cable Guy earlier.... <br /><br />See Jay never has sarcastic JOKES<br /><br /><br />Jay is just a really really NICE GUY..<br /><br />(puts on Team Jay Jersey while tasing Captain Cable.)A-buzzznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-50995477938596506722010-06-22T16:53:49.618-04:002010-06-22T16:53:49.618-04:00That sounded like one big "Powerz" ad to...That sounded like one big "Powerz" ad to me :) LOL!<br /><br />But to all us NON-PERFECT people out there, I think DL Hughley was onto something. I think most people would never ADMIT to wanting a rich guy or a model chick, but deep down inside, most of us WANT that...we just know we probably won't GET it. <br /><br />Men are visual creatures, and if a woman treats us well AND she's fine, we probably don't care what she got on her SAT's. And women want a man who's not trifling and can allow her to take on the role that she's probably most natural or comfortable with...which is being at home taking care of kids. I know some independent women will get on me for that, but I have yet to meet a woman who deep down inside doesn't want a man to afford them the opportunity to stay home and be mommy if they WANTED to. Not all women want that, but alot do...and the ones that do would love nothing more than to big up the dude who gots their back.The Cable Guynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-7286440757701695112010-06-22T16:50:05.928-04:002010-06-22T16:50:05.928-04:00Churrrch - Sir dughley is accurateChurrrch - Sir dughley is accurateAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-80536308248318686842010-06-22T16:16:25.597-04:002010-06-22T16:16:25.597-04:00I don't know I felt my taser in jeopardy of be...I don't know I felt my taser in jeopardy of being taken away!!! You know I don't like that feeling!!! LMAO...annamarianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-75887583085940176072010-06-22T16:14:49.525-04:002010-06-22T16:14:49.525-04:00I don't think the blog is getting hostile at a...I don't think the blog is getting hostile at all. It's just a discussion, a good one.Stefnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-72147471420997643032010-06-22T15:50:13.036-04:002010-06-22T15:50:13.036-04:00OK the blog is getting kinda hostile & I must ...OK the blog is getting kinda hostile & I must be in a good mood cuz I'm about to say some nice ISH....<br /><br />PROPS to all my GOOD MEN & GOOD WOMEN....<br /><br />I lost my job when I was 5 months pregnant with Sophia. I went back to work Part time when she was 6 months old. I have a GOOD MAN that takes care of me. NOT because I ask him to but because he'd prefer ME to take care of his baby. I'm home for my stepkids when we have them & he likes that. I went back to work because I wanted to. NOT because I was forced to. Now I was given the option to become full time but that option may be put on hold so that I can stay home with Sophia until she's a little older. AGAIN a decision we are coming to together as a couple & as parents. <br />I love & thank him for being a good man & allowing me that option because the time I have with Sophia is invaluable (we start her swimming lessons on Friday!! YIPPEEEEE) <br />BUT I would never take advantage of him & I would go to work full time in a heart beat if he asked me to. And he has dreams to branch out & open his own real estate business. I will support him 150% WHEN he does (because I know he will with my support) and I will do whatever I need to do to help him & make sure his business is a success...Annamarianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-12081872275348755312010-06-22T15:32:41.831-04:002010-06-22T15:32:41.831-04:00Yeah, I'm not sure Tyra was a good example in ...Yeah, I'm not sure Tyra was a good example in that one because Tyra is far from stupid. I could see if he said Kim Kardashian vs. Angela Bassett, cuz that chick is only famous because she has a sex tape and a big booty. And truth is, most men would still choose her over a woman like Angela Bassett. Truth is truth...and while I can't say that about ALL men, I think it would be safe to say that about MOST. <br /><br />Like Zay said, those things aren't real or sustaining...so you have to really ask yourself what you REALLY want out of a relationship. If it's money, then go for the man with money and forego love. If it's beauty, then marry the beautiful woman with no substance and forego love. It's that simple. That works for some people and they're completely fine with that - for a while at least. I think it really just comes down to being honest with yourself about what you're really looking for.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584160320846679744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-21149954672008759032010-06-22T15:32:14.652-04:002010-06-22T15:32:14.652-04:00Stef...
You right...
If both parties play their r...Stef...<br />You right...<br /><br />If both parties play their respective positions...it works out well...when it's lop sided it's wack. play your position..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4984100112542285026.post-6066666366404700402010-06-22T15:23:46.298-04:002010-06-22T15:23:46.298-04:00I agree with Ms. Penn. Most women don't expect...I agree with Ms. Penn. Most women don't expect a man to FULLY take care of them. At least not any women I know. The ones who do are a rare breed - like the Basketball Wives. I don't think those women represent women on a whole. So when we say we want a man who can provide, we mean just that...who CAN when and/or if the time calls for it. I find it funny that most men don't like the "provider" title they get, but expect women to fall into the "nurturer" "cater to me" role that women are supposed to have. It's a double standard. Men want you to cater to them without working for that respect, simply because they have a penis. I'm sure there's alot to being a man, but that doesn't mean you're automatically entitled to being catered to. Most men out here aren't doing shit that is worthy of our praise, but they're the main ones crying that there aren't any good women out here holding them down. Fuck outta here.Stefnoreply@blogger.com